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Feeling clueless about what to get your man for the holidays?

I’ve brought in one of the pro’s to help you narrow down the list into four simple categories. Relationship expert and TV personality Damona Hoffman is here with the Girl’s Holiday Gift Cheat Sheet! Whether it’s a new interest or a lifelong partner that you’re looking to gift, Damona has you’re the perfect him to make him smile this holiday season!

Check Out My Printable Checklist!

Damona’s new reality show, #BLACKLOVE, airs this December 9^th and takes you into inside the world of five women and their search for their soulmate – including returning to the scene after divorce, pursuing same-sex love and negotiating interracial relationships. With her guidance they hope to find the love of their lives.

The online dating specialist is also a regular contributor to Huffington Post, J-Date and Match.com, among others.

1. FOCUS ON EXPERIENCES – If you get your man tickets to the basketball game that’s an experience you can share and a memory you can create together (or an opportunity for him to spend that important time with the boys.

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2. GET HIM MORE OF THE SAME – Sometimes a woman subtly tries to shift her boyfriend’s behavior by buying something that she thinks he needs or wishes he would do rather than what he actually wants or needs.  Men are creatures of habit. Rather than trying to be too clever, he will be impressed if you buy him more of something he already uses.

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3.LET HIM BE PAMPERED –Women incorporate self-care, beauty and pampering into our regular maintenance routine. Many men have never had a massage let alone a professional shave or facial. Give him an opportunity to get pampered.

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4. FILL HIS BELLY – There’s a reason they say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Cook him a delicious four course meal or buy him gourmet treats and he’ll literally be eating out of the palm of your hand.

We know that men tend to be easy going creatures at their core, so while we try to razzle dazzle them with nice things – sometimes the simple ones are all they need.

About Damona:

Damona Hoffman is the dating expert of the new generation. An online dating early-adopter and success story, she has been showing singles how to harness the power of technology to find love for over a decade.

A former TV casting director and executive, Damona always entertains while she teaches about celebrating your own unique experiences and personal story and learning to LOVE AS YOU ARE instead of conforming and compromising your individuality to find love.

Visit her at damonahoffman.com

Let’s face it, most of us watch porn. Pornhub anal searches have spiked lately, I’m curious to know why…

These studies are actually an integral part in Pornhub’s operation, since search optimization helps bring more viewers to their site. It’s amazing to see the sexual style preferences of the world, so I am super intrigued with the Pornhub anal search results.

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[quote]As you can see in the chart below, there has indeed been a steady increase in anal searches on Pornhub over the course of the past 6 years and change. Specifically, there has been an overal growth in the popularity of anal searches of 120% in the United States and 78% worldwide, which is in line with the fact that more and more people are experimenting with anal sex in the bedroom as well, according to The Journal of Sexual Medicine.[/quote]

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The 2010 study found that in certain age groups, as much as 46% of women surveyed had engaged in anal sex in their lifetimes. This is an all time high given that in 1992, the highest percentage of women in any age group who admitted to anal sex was 33, which went up to 35% in 2002 and then 46% in 2010. The past few years have seen even more of an emphasis put on all things ass, with the likes of Kim Kardashian and Jen Selter inspiring women all over the world to participate in squat challenges, not to mention the recent launch of a premiere piece of sex tech that perfectly simulates everyone’s dream behind- the TwerkingButt. We’ll move on to a look at how different age and gender demographics get down with anal.

 

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Though more and more women are opening up to anal in the bedroom, male Pornhub users are still 33% more likely to be searching for anal content than their female counterparts, according to our anonymized analytics software. This is not to say that women are opposed to anal-themed videos however, as in our most recent installment of what women want, we found ‘anal’ to be the 18th most searched for term among women that use Pornhub. What really jumped out at us though, was the lack of interest in anal among our 18-24 year old users. This same group is interestingly 290% more likely to search for My Little Pony themed porn than any other age group but is 33% less likely to search for butt sex on Pornhub. Go figure. On the other hand, anal content is the most popular among our 35-44 year old users, who are 30% more likely to search for it than any other age group. Let’s see which types of anal searches have shown the most growth over the past few years.

 

 

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[quote]‘Gangbang’ is the anal-affiliated search term that has shown the most growth over the years, at an astounding 499%. Other top gainers include ‘teen,’ ‘lesbian,’ and ‘ebony’ at 263%, 200%, and 147% respectively. In this same vein, when we conducted our 2014 Year in Review, we noted that even just over the course of the previous year, there had been some considerable growth specifically with regards to ebony and group sex type content, likely contributing to the related increases we see here too. Let’s finish off with a look at which anal-related terms have dipped down in popularity the most.

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[quote]It seems that Pornhub users worldwide have loosened up with searches linking ‘anal’ and ‘tight’ in that our statisticians noted this term as the one that has demonstrated the biggest drop since 2009 at 76%. Searches for ‘sexy anal’ are down 69% while searches for ‘anal brunette’ are down 59% – we’ll let you make your own jokes about these, feel free to drop them in the comment section below![/quote]

I am astounded! Primarily by the Gangbang Anal searches; but I won’t go into too much detail there.

Are you brave enough to share your favorite search terms with us? Tell me yours, I’ll tell you mine! 

With fall easing its way in to many regions, it’s easy to slip out of your fitness regimen – or never start one at all. Not to worry! I’ve put together a list of some of my favorite ways to sneak little workouts in throughout the day. Who says you can’t stay sexy with no gym?

*Note: I’ve added an Amazon affiliate link to help with your fitness experience – you’re welcome to explore!*

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Squat While Brushing Your Teeth.

It may seem silly now, but that two minutes in the morning and before bed can make a noticeable difference.

If you take toothbrush breaks at work or school, you can add this regimen in each day, too. It costs nothing, and your legs use the resistance of your body weight to tone thighs and glutes. Who doesn’t like a sexy butt?

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Do Crunches While Driving

I do this every day, each time I get into the car. Lean back into the seat and compress your abdominal muscles upward. When you’re at a stop light (not a stop sign!), sit up straight and compress your abdominal muscles downward. You can put your hands behind your head as a guide, but don’t be surprised if the driver next to you starts giving the side eye.

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**Bonus Tip**

Try a Workout Belt

I’ve been a gym head for quite a few years, and have gone through quite a few workout belts. Not only can they help moms who are getting fit post-partum, they are great for sweating off water weight when you need to slim down for a party/event. The Sweet Sweat Belt is awesome, and even comes with a sample of their slimming gel. Who doesn’t like free stuff?

Calf Raises While Walking

Sounds silly, right? Basketball players are constantly standing on their toes, there are even sneakers with “no heel,” to help build calves. How about doing it for free, though? To avoid fatigue, pick one specific time to do these calf-raises, like when you’re going to the bathroom. This gives your legs a break, but provides a trigger to remind you.

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Stretches at Work

If you think they’re looking at you funny now, wait until your hot(ter) body comes in. Stretching is a natural way to improve posture (which elongates you) AND relieve muscles that may be fatigued from sitting too long (yes, that happens). If you work on your feet, stretching aids the muscles in receiving oxygen and avoids fatigue.

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Dance at Least Once Per Day

Look at dancers, do you see how toned they are? Take note of that while you’re going through your day, and think about dancing at some point. I dance after coming in from the office; while I’m making dinner or cleaning up after my toddler. Sometimes, I’ll make a little #Sage333 routine in my head and dance it out in my living room.

If you’ve never seen a #Sage333 video on Instagram – here’s your chance…

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Put in More Work During Sex. 

Yes – more! As you gyrate, you burn calories and release endorphins that help you keep belly weight down. Done at least three times a week, you may actually notice visible change within a few weeks. So, add more variation in positions when possible to get you sweating!

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Do you have any easy fitness tips to help your fellow readers? Comment below, or send them anonymously to contact@vforvadge.com. They may be featured in a future post and help someone get their sexy on! 

Pornhub Cares Kicks Off New ‘Save the Boobs’ Campaign to Support Breast Cancer Awareness

Adult Site Announces Return of Breast Cancer Fundraising Initiative to Donate 1 Cent for Every 30 Videos Viewed

The funny thing about Pornhub, is that they are actually a balanced porn site. It’s not all about advertisements and taking your money; they know that their customers are more than credit card numbers. We – I mean, they are humans with feelings and real concerns. The Pornhub Cares team has been great with addressing health causes that affect the sex lives of many, I’m proud to team up with them and share the “Save the Boobs” campaign. Remember Charlotte Stokely and Save the Balls?

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New York, NY (October 1, 2015) – Today, Pornhub, the premier online destination for adult entertainment, officially announced the return of their Save the Boobs campaign under their new Pornhub Cares philanthropic division. The campaign, which will conceptually mirror its previous iteration, is seeking clicks and video views from users around the globe in their ‘Big Tits’ and ‘Small Tits’ categories to raise funds for breast cancer research. Pornhub will be donating – to a yet unnamed charity – 1 cent for every 30 views in the aforementioned categories.

At this very second – over 14 million people have watched boob videos.

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For this go-round, Pornhub has commissioned adult actress, and former Penthouse Pet of the Month, Dani Daniels to act as the face of the campaign, as well as an educator to those who visit the campaign’s landing page. There, viewers are encouraged to watch an instructional video where Daniels carefully explains the correct steps to administer a breast self exam as a preventative measure for detecting a potential breast cancer diagnosis.

In the past two minutes, boob views have grown to 17 million!

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“We’re very excited to be bringing back the ‘Save the Boobs’ campaign, especially given the success it saw during its previous iterations,” said Corey Price, Vice President, Pornhub. “Our efforts yielded a sizeable donation that our recipient charities were able to genuinely use for a good cause. Supporting breast cancer research is something that we care deeply about, and we know our users feel the same way. With their help we can continue our fight against breast cancer in a fun, but positive way.”

To contribute to the cause, simply visit the landing page on the Pornhub Cares page and follow the prompts, or head to the ‘categories’ tab on Pornhub.com’s home page and browse videos from “Small Tits” or “Big Tits” groupings. The ‘Save the Boobs’ page will keep track of the total unique visits for the month, and can be viewed in real time on the aforementioned landing page.

Oh! Don’t forget to watch Pornhub cutie Dani Daniels as she gives a hands-on demonstration on self-examination. This is nothing like the drawings at your Dr.’s office.

For more information, please visit the ‘Save the Boobs’ page on Pornhub Cares at www.pornhub.com/cares/save-the-boobs

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About Pornhub:

Founded in 2007, Pornhub is the leading free, ad-supported adult video streaming website, offering viewers the opportunity to upload and share their own videos. With over 3 million videos and over 60 million visitors a day, Pornhub truly is the best adult site in the world. Pornhub has built the largest dedicated membership base in the adult community, with over 4 million engaged and loyal members, offering viewers a fun and sophisticated social experience directly in site, complete with messaging, photos, achievement badges and much more.

[Don’t] Wanna Have Sex? Say It With a Condom…

Nowadays, there are people cruising the dating scenes trying to find victims to prey on. Seeing a woman smile or show even remote interest could trigger such individuals to think sex is in their future. Unfortunately, it is  becoming the norm for those same people (I call them creeps) to use body language and flirtations as an excuse to invite themselves into a man or woman’s personal space.

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Luckily, there are innovative brands like “Say It With A Condom” who are working diligently to put power back into the hands (and pockets, and purses) of men and women everywhere. Their eye-catching condom covers send strong, yet cheeky messages that indicate yes or no to sex.

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So, what exactly is Say It With A Condom all about?

” During the 2008 United States Presidential Election, entrepreneur Benjamin Sherman had an idea to create funny condoms lampooning the campaigns of Barack Obama and John McCain. He sold them with the slogan, “Remember the election with your next erection.” After selling over one million political condoms as Practice Safe Policy, it was decided a name change was needed to allow the business to expand into other markets. And so, Say It With A Condom was launched in early 2012.

As Say It With A Condom, we work with everyone from individuals looking for funny gag gifts and memorable party favors, to college organizations promoting events, parties and Rush Week. We develop safe sex and awareness campaigns for non-profits as well as state and local governments. We design marketing tools for clients in every industry–music, film, commercial, manufacturing–who come to us to create specialized give-aways to promote their brand, product, service, or event. If you have a message, we can help you Say It With A Condom.”

As a fellow New Yorker, it brings me pride to see a small business flourish into what SWAC has become, and is still becoming. It’s so important to the sex health world to have companies that not only catch the eye, but send a real and direct message. People don’t realize how crucial condoms are in a world where disease and unplanned pregnancy happen more than they truly should.

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Even Amber Rose Loves Say It With A Condom.

In an effort to bring awareness to “slut shaming,” Vixen Amber Rose has partnered with SWAC to create condom covers that highlight some of the common ways women are made to be ashamed of their sexualities, or lack thereof. They’re even running a contest for best design – check it out and enter!

If you could make your own condom – what would it say?

Resources:

Say It With A Condom

By Charlie L’Strange for VForVadge

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“She loves God, she loves people, she loves her work, and she will not betray any of those three,”

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These are the words used to describe Kim Davis, the Kentucky clerk who refused to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples. She was recently released from jail after serving only six days in jail. She after her release, she was greeted by a number of supporters who held up white crosses and cheered as she stood on stage. The issue with this scene is that many people, Christian or otherwise who support folks like Kim Davis forget the real issue. It is not that she doesn’t believe that same-sex couples should have the right to marry that is the issue, but that she, as an employee of the state of Kentucky has not done what she is paid and has sworn to do. Regardless of her religious beliefs, her jobs is one that is meant to serve the people of Kentucky. Her job, that she has agreed to do to the best of her ability is to issue marriage licenses to those who, by law, have the right to marry in the state of Kentucky. Please do not misunderstand me, she also has complete right to have her own set of beliefs and to practice her religion. She is a person and has that right as does everyone. But when you voluntarily choose to be a part of an institution that may change its rules, you have one of two choices, go with the flow or quit. Her choices are very much Black and White.

For those of you who may disagree, think of it as the current state of affairs in the Black Lives Matter Movement. The issue isn’t simply about the war on black bodies, but also that police officers of all colors and creeds are NOT doing their jobs as it has been described and are abusing the power that they are given by the very people they are meant to serve. “To serve and protect”, there are no other words that follow that statement because they are to serve and protect the public and the people of the city and state. For Ms. Davis to be described as someone who “loves the people and her work” is a direct contradiction to her actions. Loving people means all people as there hasn’t been any specifications. Loving her work also hasn’t set any specifications as well. This should also remind folks of when a number of immigrants went through the same issue of state workers refusing to issue official documents because they did not want immigrants to have the same rights as other folks.

Lets be clear, your belief systems have no real place in the workplace. When you agree to do a job that requires you to serve the people and general public, you have a duty to do just that. If at any point you feel incapable of upholding those standards, you are equally free to dismiss yourself from the position. It is very wrong that Ms. Davis may be allowed to regain her position as a clerk as it seems like she feels as though, from the response to her release, that she is doing the work of God. Unfortunately for her and many other, this is not the truth and if more people like her are allowed to “serve the people” and claim that her actions are due to her “love of God”, we are in deeper trouble than many of us care to admit.

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This is Charlie.

OVER & OUT.

Take Off That Faja and Breathe…

It may seem like a new wave in body transformation, but faja’s (pronounced faa-haa in Spanish) have been around since women started having waists. [Insert brief history]. Growing up with Latina women, I saw first-hand how an unreal perception of beauty could influence how my elders viewed themselves. Wanting that hourglass figure had many passing out from inability to eat – or even breathe. In these past few years, we have seen “waist training” become such a popular trend amongst women of all ages; searching for a quick weight loss method that they would be proud to brag about. Many have had weight loss success; as it restricts the stomach’s ability to expand, thus “regulating” eating habits. They are incredible when bouncing back from child birth and help hold the abdominal muscles in place post c-section.

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However – is the faja becoming a crutch for some? It pains me to see women stuffed in corsets as they stomp down the street with that well-known grimace of discomfort. Much worse, there are women who eat poorly and use the trainer as a way to hold in their stomachs with no intentions of changing their health habits (or lack thereof). There are side effects that aren’t advertised; like potential fatigue, airway constriction and heartburn that can result in acid reflux. Cheaply made steel-boning waist trainers can cause back and abdominal bruising on and under the skin. Not to mention the ego and emotional effects when one removes a faja to get intimate and no longer holds the perfect shape of minutes before.

The faja then becomes a permanent fixture in the daily lives of many women. They become obsessed with the thought of looking like an Instagram model, or one of Taz’s perfectly shaped angels. Many starve themselves, while others choose to wear the garments day in and day out. Throw in a pair of butt-lifting shorts, and you have the perfect recipe for body dysmorphic disorder.

It’s so easy to fall into the trap of perfection – how does a woman avoid it all?

[tweetthis]First, take off the faja and breathe.[/tweetthis]

Remind yourself of what comfort feels like. Deeply inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth. You are free.

Once you liberate yourself, get as naked as you can and spend a few hours like this. Regain and maintain comfort within your own skin; remembering that becoming your ideal you is a marathon – not a sprint.

Set a schedule for wearing your trainer. It doesn’t need to be on all day, and you certainly should not be sleeping with it.

If you want to see fast-er results, work towards a healthier overall lifestyle. Try adding a few days of physical activity (30 minutes of sex actually counts) and increasing your fruit and veggie intake. Drinking lots of water helps flush toxins as well.

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Read: Sex, Fitness and You…

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Lastly – beware of fads. Try to research anything that promises fast results and make sure that it’s safe. If it sounds too good to be true – it probably is.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a little pudge when you’re working towards a goal. Even atheletes have quirks about them that they would like to change. If Serena Williams is working on improving herself, I definitely have the patience to do the same.

In a 2009 LA Times article, writer Chuck Culpepper quotes Serena stating:

“Actually, I suffer a little bit from LSE (Low Self-Esteem),” she said. “I’m a little insecure and I’m working on it. . . . A lot of females that are in a position where they’re really successful might just go home and be a little insecure.”

Now, have you looked at Serena lately? Ever? If she has insecurities, it’s safe to say that working on a part of ourselves that we don’t like is normal. Did wearing the faja/waist trainer work for me? Yes. I also went to the gym once I got clearance, walked with the baby outside and ate properly. [tweetthis]There is no reward without sacrifice.[/tweetthis]

[tweetthis]There’s no use in secretly killing ourselves to impress individuals who are secretly killing themselves to impress us…[/tweetthis].

So please, take off that faja and breathe a little.

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Are there any cultural quirks that have shaped your thoughts about what’s sexy? Share with us in the comments! 

This post is in collaboration with jenniferpriest.com as part of a multi-cultural blogger exploration facilitated by Alt Summit, Latina Bloggers Connect, and Blogalicious. We decided to talk about our experiences with race, being that we are both multi-cultural people raising up multi-cultural families. 

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Building Romance in the Bedroom with Dr. Kat Van Kirk

It may seem self-explanatory, but building romance isn’t as easy for some couples as it is for others. So, how do you do it?

Check out Dr. Kat’s expert tips and give us yours to win a Love Bud Play Set by Adam & Eve!

Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a licensed marriage and sex therapist and resident sex expert for www.AdamandEve.com offers sound advice to help (re)kindle that flame in the bedroom…

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• Learn to become opportunists when it comes for sex. Too many couples wait for the stars to align for the perfect tryst and then it never happens due to hectic schedules. Prioritize sex by getting it in whenever you can.

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• Remove the expectation of orgasm each time. Learning to focus on sensation and enjoying the multitude of benefits from sex can help you build arousal and not be focused on “getting it done.

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• Do something, anything different. Research by the Gottman Institute suggests that those sexual relationships that maintain spontaneity in their relationships last longer with higher levels of satisfaction. Anything from having sex on the other side of the bed or a quick hand job in the car while you are in the garage to trying new toys like the Adam & Eve Butterfly Couples Ring can accomplish this.

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• Put down the screens. Screens and technology tend to take up an inordinate amount of time. It can make us less present in our relationships and therefore less likely to have sex. Learn to put your phone down by dinnertime each night and never bring it into bed with you.

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About Dr. Kat:

“Here’s my deal…I am a wife, mother and marriage, family and sex therapist. Each of those aspects helps define me but just like you, there’s so much more to me that is irreverent and quirky (OK, maybe not as quirky as Zooey Deschanel, but still). I enjoy a good cocktail, theatre, a good book, bawdy humor, creative ways in which to live life, meditation, yoga, Piyo, boot camp, surfing, “I love yous” from my two sprite like daughters and having a fantastic session in the sack with my hot, fantastic husband.”

Read more about Dr. Kat Here…

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