Does Size Matter? Your Awkward Questions – Answered

VForVadge was built on answering anonymous sex questions – and as long as you’re asking, we’ll keep answering…

Hi, I saw your channel and saw your videos and noticed how open minded you are so I hope you can answer. I believe you get many of these kind of questions but I hope you could answer mine. Does size matter? I’m 25-year-old guy and my penis is 9.5 inches long and 7 inches in girth/around so my penis is almost as thick as a coke can for example. Is it small, average or big in length and girth in your opinion? Do I have a good penis size in your opinion or is it too big or too small in length and/or girth? How much the thickness of a penis matters? Do you like a thick penis and how thick is thick in your opinion? Do I have a thick one? I’ve had problems with girls so that’s why I’m asking. Some girls have said it’s way too big but then said to their girlfriends it was small so I’m a bit confused. Also, does flaccid size matter? Do women like to see bigger flaccid dicks? My dick is about 6 – 6.5 inches when soft so is it big or small? I’m asking cause I have a massive bulge in my pants and I can’t hide it. Do girls like to see big bulges in a guy’s pants or not? What do u think? I hope u can answer 🙂

Hi There! Size is only relevant if it’s causing discomfort of some sort. At 9.5 inches long, you would be measuring far above average (5.5 – 6 inches). As long as you are pleasing your partner safely – I don’t think you have anything to worry about in that realm.

Human beings talk, and will often times adjust the words they use to suit whatever the purpose of their conversation is. I wouldn’t concern myself with that if I were you.

Flaccid size also is irrelevant, since you can’t actually have sex with a flaccid penis. Many men are growers (vs showers), so full potential isn’t seen until fully erect.

If you’re having difficulty concealing your penis in pants, you may want to consider tucking differently or changing the cut of your undies. I can’t speak for what other women want to see in pants, but if it’s making you uncomfortable you definitely want to address it.

Feel free to email me if you have other questions – kimi@vforvadge.com Have a great day!

Still wondering? Check out “Is My Penis Normal?” – our second most popular post! 

The Naughty List 2016

It’s that time of year again! You’re racking your brain, trying to figure out what to get the people you love and adore. Well, if there’s one thing I know well – it’s how to give gifts and how to be naughty (that’s two things, oops!).

Might as well combine my favorite skills, right?

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For Men:

Most men like it simple, so it’s best to keep their gifts simple as well.

Tenga Eggs are disposable masturbation sleeves that provide easy pleasure in a cool package and varying inner textures. They also come with a packet of lube, giving much more gifting value!

Vibrating Penis Rings are also known as Cock Rings, and can help prolong erection as well as add a vibrating treat to any lovemaking session. They’re pleasing to the eye, too – which makes them a great gift for couples.

Penis Pumps may seem like taboo gifts, but they’re worth so much more. Not only do they help provide short (and long) term growth benefits, but they can also help men with post-operation recovery (i.e. prostate cancer). This is a great gift for a partner to give when they’re looking to turn it up a notch in the bedroom.

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For Women:

Women may be a little more complex, but our goal today is to find gifts that just about anyone will love. Let’s try, shall we?

Rabbit Vibrators gained huge popularity back in 1998 when one was featured on Sex and the City (“The Rabbit and the Hare episode“). Many women realized that vibrators aren’t evil and rushed sex stores nationwide to get their hands on one.

The dual stimulation of a rabbit vibe makes it a great gift for the lady in your life.

Lipstick Vibes

We all love discretion, right? What better way to stash your vibrator than to make it look like something you’re expected to have? Lipstick vibrators are improving year by year, and are sure to give you a little giggle during travel times.

Couple’s Gifts:

Sexual fun isn’t all for single people, and what better reason than Christmas is there to gift your partner something you’ve always wanted to try?

We-Vibe 4 Plus

This couple’s massager revolutionized the bedroom for many relationships. Not only can each partner enjoy it on their own – they can control it wirelessly while the other vibes out.

If you’re looking to splurge on a pleasure product – this is it.

Fifty Shade of Grey Keep Still Over the Bed Cross Restraint

Listen.  I am a control freak. It’s very hard for me to give that up to anyone. However – sex giveth and sex giveth away. Having a trusting partner is everything, and when you find that – giving over control becomes more exciting than you can bare.

Ok, enough about me!

Trying out restraints is a fun way to level up your sex life, and doing it safely helps you feel more secure. This kit is branded by 50 Shades of Grey and is just as sexy as the book.

Hopefully, these gifts encourage you to try something new under the mistletoe. Each one can be gift wrapped by request, too!

Got questions? Email me – kimi@vforvadge.com, I’ll be glad to help!

How to Self-Care During Stressful Times

Some of us are going through it  – for whatever reason “it” may be. Right now is the perfect time for a little self-care. The phrase feels overused, but many  of us aren’t doing it at all. Here are my favorite things to do when I feel anxiety sneaking up…

Take a Selfie.

It seems like such a selfish thing to do, and that’s exactly what self-care is about. Taking a photo of yourself captures the emotions you’re feeling and allows you to express them without words.

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Eat Some Comfort Food.

The key to this tip is moderation. Indulge in one quality food or dessert break. I suggest a good slice of cheesecake, or a nice, warm bowl of homemade mac + cheese. Take it slow, savor the flavors and eat until you near satisfaction.

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Stretch.

Stretching helps ease muscle tension as well as releases endorphins that help you feel good. This article from Everyday Health gives great suggestions on exercises to help battle depression and anxiety.

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Talk to a Friend.

Take some time to vent to a friend, get your feelings out. A listening ear can be very therapeutic, as can offering positive energy to someone else.

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Talk to No One. 

Conversely, spending time alone can be a great way to reset and relax after being bombarded with stress. Spend some time alone at least once per day to give yourself a chance to collect your thoughts.

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Seek Help

If you feel exceptionally overwhelmed, it is completely okay to speak with a licensed professional. Therapists work to help find the root cause of your anxiety and stress, or just offer an unbiased ear to help you cope.

Search for a therapist here (via the American Psychology Association)

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No matter what you opt for, be sure to take care of yourself. We only have one body and one mind, both of which take care of each other. If you have any questions or need help getting in the right direction – email me – kimi@vforvadge.com. Let’s get through this together.

IUD and ME

By Ayana Ellis

Nov 2, 2016 by ayana

*Originally posted on byayanaellis.com*

You and your girls are sitting around having a conversation about birth control, condoms, dick, men, relationships, your body, what it rejects, what it accepts, what you not gon’ do and what you’re allergic to. But at least one of you are considering getting an IUD.

It’s you isn’t’ it.

Once you mention the dreaded Intruterine Device, your friends will tell you the horror stories of what they heard, and what the side effects are, even if they never in life had an IUD.

Girl, don’t get no damn IUD you will get a PID and then won’t be able to have a K.I.D.

Girl, you crazy, my friends’ sister had an IUD and went into toxic shock and died.

Girl, what? You don’t need to have no strange device in you just sitting there not knowing what the fuck.

Girl, an IUD? You buggin, you can get an infection!

Girl, my sister’s boyfriends wife got an IUD and they had to take it out and when they did? Her guts was wrapped around it!

So now you’re sitting there, even after all of your research, even after consulting with a physician, even after making your mind up, you are now confused as to what to do.   I say, get that damn IUD! And here’s why, it’s really, really simple.

First things first, more often than not, a woman that gets an IUD feels as if this is her freedom papers to stop giving a fuck about all things pussy.  Her mentality is that, she is in a monogamous relationship and her only concern is not getting pregnant and not having a period, which the IUD provides protection from.  Because of this, the female won’t go to the doctor.  She feels as if she is protected by the IUD and she is not.

Yes you are right, you have a strange device in you which means you need to go to the doctor more often than not!  No you’re not pregnant, and sure you don’t get a period, but don’t you want to check up on that strange device that’s in you?

So the issue is this, a woman tends to neglect her body once she gets an IUD inserted and this is where problems arise!  Because you are not checking up on your self semi-annually or annually you leave room for so many things to go wrong, then you blame the IUD!

Granted the IUD is valid for 3-5 years, but that that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t visit your physician until it’s time to take the IUD out!  This doesn’t mean ignore stomach pains and self diagnose by using WebMD! This doesn’t mean ignoring the spotting that may occur or the strange smells coming from your vagina and douching it out instead of going to the doctor.  These are all signs that something inside of you is wrong, don’t ignore it and then blame it on the IUD!

Once an intrauterine device is inserted, your body will change.  Things will start happening that normally doesn’t.  Find out the side effects of IUD’s, do your homework and keep yourself informed!  It is on you to stay on top of those changes, document everything and follow up with your doctor in the event that anything seems off!

Sometimes  it is the device.  Sometimes it isn’t.  It’s on you to get into yourself and know your body so that you can determine your next step!

Like a woman that leaves a tampon in her for too long, that shit is just foul and ain’t nothing but self-neglect.  The tampon isn’t the issue, you are!

Worse case scenario, if the IUD isn’t for you, then it just isn’t.  But each person is designed different.  Take a chance and regardless of having an IUD or not, you should visit your Gynecologist as instructed to stay on top of your womanisms.

About Ayana Ellis:

http://byayanaellis.com/booksbyayanaellis/about-ayana-ellis/

MaskIt – The Tiny Accessory You Never Knew You Needed.

Most of us women share one common detail – we get our periods. Is this the best time of our lives? I’ll safely say no. Probably one of the worst monthly events a human being could ever describe. We’ve gotta change pads, tampons, cups, sponges – all of which require disposal or storage. It’s gross, honestly.

What if there were an easier way to dispose of our sanitary products? Or store the reusable ones until we get home?

Now, before I get started – I am not being paid for this post. I just really, really like sharing good products with you all.

So – how does MaskIt work? It basically provides a “plastic” forcefield around your used sanitary product. Blood and bodily fluids do expire after time and have a strong odor. This is a great way to keep your hands clean and save all that rolled up tissue paper from the trash.

To make matters even better – it’s biodegradable!! Perfect for the woman on the move who still cares about the environment. I found it to be so awesome, I’ve shared my samples with friends and co-workers in my office.

So, what do you think about MaskIt? Would a product like this be useful to you? 

Get your own MaskIt kit here! 

The Gift They Can’t Help But Grab – Pussy.

Everyone likes getting surprise mail, right? Imagine how much your friends (or ex friends) would love a special, unexpected package that tells them how you truly feel.

  Now you can send a special message to anyone you’d like (or dislike). Opening a bag of pussy can either be a sweet compliment or the ultimate insult. We won’t offer any specific suggestions…

Each Bag of Pussy includes a reusable sack and top- quality, delicious pussycats. We’ll include a personalized note at your request, with or without your name.

Give the gift of Pussy here ? 

Want to make your gift even more “thoughtful?” Send it with glitter on top.

Oh, they’ll love that.

The Hurricane Matthew Sex Checklist

History has shown us that severe weather often causes baby booms. I mean, inclement weather and two people cooped up in an enclosed space can inspire some questionable decisions. I love you guys, so I’ve prepared a list of things that should be in your cart, next to the carton of Parmalat.

**I’ve included some affiliate links to help your shopping list**

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1. Condoms.

Do I really need to explain this? I will anyway. One of the best ways to prevent that ” I’m late” text after a storm is to wrap it up. Contraceptives are 99% effective in avoiding pregnancy and far more efficient than the ” pull- out” method.

Condoms also make for easier clean up after intercourse. There may not be running/ warm water for a ” warm rag” and shower, so make it as easy on yourself as possible.

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2. Wipes

They’re for kids in more ways than one. Clean yourself and your partner up while you wait for power to be restored. It’s no substitute to an actual shower, but we’re making due in not-so-sexy scenarios.

Tip: Go for unscented wipes when possible, to avoid vaginal irritation. If you have time to ball out, order disposable washcloths and upgrade the hurricane kit.

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3. Candles

Not just for romantic purposes, candles tend to be more practical than flashlights. Since we don’t want to be stumbling over each other in the dark, it would be nice to have some soft lighting placed around the room.

Any local botanica or multi purpose store should offer glass pillar candles (I call them “Money, House, Blessing” or santeria candles) for a few dollars each. Skip the fancy candles this go round.

Note: Candles should only be lit in the room you are in. Leaving them unattended is never a smart idea.

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4. A Weekender Bag

Sometimes, you want to do it and dash, but storms don’t always offer that option. Hurricane Matthew sounds like the kind of guy who wants you to stay a night or two, so make sure you’re prepared. Pack a weekender bag with your favorite toiletries, comfy clothes and undies – just in case.

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5. Power Bank

Technology is important, especially during storms like Hurricane Matthew. Charge up your power bank (it only takes a few minutes) and slip it into your overnight bag or purse. It never hurts to have backup power to keep yourself (and your lover) safe.

Now, you’re covered! What other items would you put in your Hurricane Matthew kit?

myLab Box – Because Safe Is Sexy.

Getting tested can be a scary experience. Going to the doctor’s office or clinic, risking being seen by friends or Co-workers – it’s all nerve-wrecking. How great would it be to get the office experience at home? Well, myLAB Box now offers free at-home doctor consultation for customers testing positive for sexually transmitted infections.
myLAB Box is the only nationwide at-home lab testing service that now offers the full experience of a visit to the doctor’s office without stepping outside

myLAB Box, the only nationwide at-home STD testing service, is proud to introduce the first ever “Testing to Treatment” program. Unlike any other screening service, myLAB Box offers lab-certified, diagnostic results users can order and receive from the comfort of home in all 50 states. If a customer tests positive, they can get instant peace of mind with a free same-day phone consultation with a local doctor who can prescribe treatment immediately. The program is an unprecedented improvement to the on-demand testing market, giving users for the first time full control of how and when they test and access to treatment options on the go.

The phone physician consultation is completely free for all myLAB Box users, eliminating complicated appointment scheduling or additional doctor expenses. Users can even obtain a medical prescription through these consultations. By dramatically reducing the turnaround times between testing and treatment, myLAB Box is transforming on-demand healthcare offering the first fully integrated at-home screening service.

“The stigma of sexually transmitted infections keeps thousands of people from being tested,” said Lora Ivanova, CMO and Co-Founder of myLAB Box. ” The box’s creator aims to empower men and women to take control of their health, wherever, whenever. Our diagnostic test results are lab-certified, meaning that customers won’t need a follow-up appointment to get tested ‘for real.’ myLAB Box is the only complete at-home testing service available today.”

The Process is Simple:

1. Order a myLAB Box test online
2. Test discreetly where you want, when you want
3. Get lab-certified results at home
4. If a test is positive, myLAB Box can connect customers to a local doctor who can prescribe medicine during a convenient phone appointment

Customers can test in complete privacy and take advantage of complimentary physician consultations in every state allowing telemedicine (excludes Alaska, Arkansas, Kansas, Louisiana, Minnesota, Mississippi, Nevada, Oklahoma, Oregon, South Carolina, South Dakota, Vermont, and Washington, D.C.). Users in excluded states, can still enjoy diagnostic test results by simply presenting them to their doctor to skip the exam and receive treatment.

For more information, visit mylabbox.com.

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About myLAB Box

Founded in 2013, myLAB Box is the first company to offer a nationwide at-home screening platform for STDs. Championing the motto “Safe is Sexy” the innovative e-retailer presents a solution with unprecedented ease, convenience and price. Suitable for men and women, the service empowers users to detect prevalent infections early in or out of relationships and take better care of their health. Headquartered in Los Angeles, California.

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