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Penthouse Magazine’s “MoFun at MOSEX” – Event Recap

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I had the honor of attending Penthouse Magazine’s NYC party at the Museum of Sex in Manhattan, and it was definitely a night to remember.

In my professional opinion, everyone should visit at least one sex museum in their lifetime. I plan to see all of them. MoSex offers an interactive experience that is not only educational but fun.

 

 

Enter MoSex...
Enter MoSex…

 

Penthouse Magazine MoSex Event
Penthouse British Invasion Cover

Penthouse Magazine MoSex Event

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After the museum closed, the party started at the adjacent Play Lounge – where drinks flowed and the DJ played an array of hits. We mingled, danced and enjoyed each other’s energy. A live performance by girl group HrtBrk definitely lightened the mood and got everyone in good spirits.

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@HrtBrkMusic on Instagram

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I got my swag bag with Kabang Energy Candy – which I actually ate and LOVE now. It’s not all natural, but it’s clutch for insomniac nights that precede busy days.

 Sir Richard’s Condoms were in the building, as well as Weed Depot; the largest marijuana directory EVER.

 I forgot to mention that the lovely Big Ang from VH1’s “Mob Wives” was there – featuring her newest wine and provided the delicious drinks for everyone that night. Big Ang is a sweetheart and she mingled with everyone.

Vh1 Big Ang Penthouse Magazine MoSex Event
VH1’s Big Ang for Big Ang Wines

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I got my Skin Diamond issue of Penthouse Magazine, too!

Penthouse Magazine MoSex Swag Bag

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WEAM South Beach | Vadge Events

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THE WEAM IG Invite
THE WEAM IG Invite

Last month, we took a tour of the infamous World Erotic Art Museum on South Beach (Miami). It was a lovely experience with great guests. While everyone wasn’t captured in photographs, I’m glad to provide a quick recap of the night at WEAM…

 

 

WEAM Exhibit South Beach
Photography isn’t allowed in WEAM, please excuse the blur…

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Guests were treated with drinks and gift bags to sweeten the evening.

 

Gift  bags for each RSVP'd guest...
Gift bags for each RSVP’d guest…

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The Gift Bag Rundown: Vegan condoms by Sustain (Get them Here), Kegel Balls and vibrating Penis Ring from LeVadge Shop. Peppermint Sugar Scrub from Kimi’s Playthings.

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I provided light drinks to get the guests ready for the night. ULTRA Music Festival was just blocks away in Downtown Miami, so the ladies were already feeling a party vibe.

Mingling before the tour...
Mingling before the tour…

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The great part about WEAM is the layout. While we mingled and got acquainted, the guests were still able to view artifacts and artwork in the specially set up lounge area. The WEAM staff made sure that everyone felt comfortable in such a taboo atmosphere.

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Yes - the Clockwork Orange weapon..
Yes – the Clockwork Orange weapon..

If that porcelain penis looks familiar to you, it’s because it is from the ever famous movie Clockwork Orange. You may remember it being used as a weapon in the film – now you can admire it close up.

 

Clockwork Orange Penis Murder Weapon

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After the tour, I got the group together and we did a talk about fellatio techniques and the importance of kegels. I hope each person left fully equipped to please their partner or themselves that night.

WEAM Tour guests gather round, while others browse the gallery.
WEAM Tour guests gather round, while others browse the gallery.

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My goal for these events is to create a healthy environment for sex conversation. After all, (almost) all of us came from sex and will eventually have sex – why not talk about it? I hope these events are enlightening and eye opening for at least one person, and I look forward to putting together another one. Stay tuned!

Many thanks to everyone who made it out in the midst of Ultra Weekend and terrible parking.

 

 

VNatural – Natural, Sensual Body Care…

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Welcome to VNatural.

Vnatural was created after I took my pregnant self to the pharmacy looking for natural personal lubricant one night. Not only did I find none, but everything I found had weird chemicals that could harm my unborn child. I teamed up with my product partner Valerie who is a raw food chef and we formulated a food-based lubricant. From there, our focus was to create natural body care products with sensual applications. This goal helps us to encourage self-confidence and foster intimacy amongst our customers. To date, we have a cozy lineup of products that are natural and effective.

Safe for everyone – perfect for adults.

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Have you ever read the ingredients in your lube? What about your body wash?

Did you go and read it now?

See anything that’s easy to pronounce?

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I had this problem when I was pregnant. As a sex health coach, I know about all of the studies regarding personal lubricants and pregnancy. They made me paranoid; afraid to use anything in fear that it would affect my beautiful fetus.

I tried using coconut oil (not condom safe), and the stores had no natural lubes on their shelves – so I couldn’t just run out and grab some when it was time to get freaky. So, what did I do?

I made my own.

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My partner Val and I formulated an all-natural lube that is water based and condom safe, with a price point that won’t make you cringe. The food-based ingredients are completely edible, so don’t be afraid to take a nibble of your partner.

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Feeling sexy is not just about sex; it’s about knowing your worth and exuding the confidence that comes with it. Our goal is to help men and women feel empowered to share that confidence with others.

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The Line Up:

VNatural

VNatural

Looking for a slick sensation, without all the hard to pronounce ingredients?

“Natural Glide” provides a long-lasting, sensual slip for those intimate moments.

Made with all-natural ingredients, this lube is water-based and condom approved.

The food-based preservative is totally edible, for sex so good – you may want to take a taste…

It’s perfect for solo play, too!

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“All Over My Bawdy” Sensual Body/Room Spray

Enjoy a light, sexy mist of this spray  – or get your bedroom ready by filling the air with sensual scents…

Coming Soon…

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VNatural

Exfoliate, rejuvenate and energize your body with this all-natural coffee scrub. Featuring Espresso Ground Coffee – it’s sure to get you buzzing to start your day…

Caffeine is noted for:

  • Anti-inflammatory benefits

  • Cellulite Fighting

  • Energy Booster

Simple ingredients – super results.

Click here for a full product review.

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VNatural

 

envigorate

–verb (used with object), -at·ed, -at·ing.
to spread joy to; fill with need to be a better person by helping others; motivate.

“Similar to invigorate, except envigorate refers to an understanding that this feeling is not for one’s self. It is an energy that is meant to be spread unto others. Closely related to the ‘Pay it Forward’ philosophy.

The world would truly be a better place if everyone made it a point to envigorate everyone around them.”

Looking sexy starts with feeling sexy, and feeling sexy starts with looking sexy.

Begin your day or end your night with this softening, “Envigorating” sugar scrub by VNatural. Its all natural ingredients leave your skin exfoliated and supple.

Natural peppermint extract helps shrink pores, as well as reduce irritation and promote circulation – leaving a beautiful glow.

Benefits of Peppermint Oil (Active Ingredient):

Redness Fighter

Acne Treatment

Reduce Hunger Cravings

Anti Nausea

PCOS Symptoms

Herpes Suppression and more…

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VNatural

Our Ylang Ylang Scrub’s all natural aphrodisiac qualities have been used for centuries to stimulate sensuality and attraction.

Made in small batches to guarantee freshness and quality.

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VNatural Love Oil

Love Oil by VNatural

Multiple uses – one oil. Enjoy an intimate massage, rub out muscle aches, moisturize your hair, rejuvenate the yoni – the possibilities are endless with this naturally aphrodisiac-infused oil.

VNatural Love Oil

Looking and feeling sexy should go hand in hand. Enjoy multiple uses in one easy to use, aphrodisiac-infused oil.

Acne |  Anti-Wrinkle | In-Shower Moisturizer | Hair Oil | Massage | Yoni Oil | Muscle Aches | Body Oil | Blemish Fighter |

| Hair Sheen | Stretch Marks | Eczema | Anti-Redness and more.

Kukui Oil – Beneficial to hair and skin. Great for sunburns and skin treatments.

Ingredients:

Kukui  Nut Oil – chapped skin/psoriasis, sunburn treatment, eczema, dandruff, dry hair, etc.

Frankincense – Natural stress-relief, anti-aging, wrinkle fighter, scar remedy, etc.

Lavender Essential Oil – improves sleep, wound treatment, acne fighter, eczema, psoriasis, anti-oxidant, etc.

Geranium Rose – hormone balance, stress reducer, fights inflammation, fights menopause symptoms, etc.

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VNatural Honey Love

Honey Love Micro-Exfoliating Masque

Oily or acne-prone skin?

Worry no more with the Honey Love Masque.

All-natural ingredients give your face a gentle, yet effective clean.

Demerara sugar cleans the surface, while finely textured spices get deep into the pores to brighten.

Enjoy the soothing, anti-bacterial properties of honey as it fights redness and irritation.

Ingredients:

All of our products are made in small batches to guarantee freshness and quality.

More sensual treats coming soon in LeVadge Shop

Resources:

Dr. Axe

 

Vacation Cutting (Female Circumcision) – Interview With a Survivor

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We’ve talked about Vacation Cutting before – but it is not very often that you find a woman brave enough to talk about her experience as a survivor of female circumcision. I was honored to be able to sit down with her and tell her story. For the sake of her privacy, she has remained anonymous – but the story is just as powerful…

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Woman Head Down

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  • How old were you when you had the procedure done? Was it something you did willingly?

  • I don’t remember when it was done.

  • Where was the procedure/ritual done?

  • It was done in France

  • What was the explanation for why this ritual was done?

  • I didn’t get any explanation of how it was done.

  • Did the ritual affect your sex life in any way?

  • I wouldn’t know the difference between the before and after , but I do enjoy sex when it’s done right with the right person of course I have to teach the person what to do and how to please me but overall I do enjoy sex.

 

  • What are your thoughts on having it done?

  • Well, what’s done is already done but I wish I knew the difference.

  • Any feedback you would like to add for the readers?

  • It made me feel a little uncomfortable knowing that I am in a country where people know or heard about it but actually don’t understand it . Therefore it kind of make me uncomfortable to express my sexual desire and to always have to explain people about it.

  • Has there been any benefit at all to the procedure?

The only benefit out of it is it makes the vagina smaller.

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I still have a hard time looking at medical pictures of the procedure, but I was able to obtain a drawing that explains pretty clearly. This is a great opportunity for education and awareness.
Female Circumcision Drawing Diagram

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Share your thoughts – do you think these types of rituals should still be done?

Is tradition enough to justify continuing with female circumcision?

New mHealth Mobile App Enables HIV Patients to Manage Disease

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New mHealth Tools Enable HIV Patients to Become 2.9 Times More Successful at Managing Disease

  

Benefits of Mobile Pharmacy Apps for HIV Management Uncovered by mScripts and Avella Specialty Pharmacy

 

 As a sex health coach and advocate for sexual responsibility – I’m excited to see tech advances in any aspect of my career world. AIDS and HIV are still a major concern for many Americans each day, and it’s great to see that patients now have more efficient platforms to manage their treatments as well as receive feedback from professionals. mScripts is a great asset to the AIDS and HIV community, and I hope at least one person finds this article useful in their lives. Please share with your families and friends to spread the word about this mobile Application. 

 

Avella Mobile App
Avella Mobile App

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January 27, 2015, Phoenix, AZmscripts and Avella Specialty Pharmacy have recently completed analyzing data demonstrating the effectiveness of mobile pharmacy apps in helping HIV patients better manage their disease through improved medication adherence. Results from this analysis show that HIV patients using a mobile app which provides refill reminders, dosage reminders and other prescription management functionality are 2.9 times more likely to be adherent.

Avella Viral Suppression Stats

Medication adherence – taking medication on time and as prescribed – is essential to the efficacy of HIV treatment, as patients with this condition must maintain 90% adherence to achieve viral suppression otherwise they risk an increase in treatment failure. This study used Proportion of Days Covered (PDC) to assess the adherence rate of HIV patients who were taking both single and multi-source medications including Atripla®, Truvada®. The data revealed that 79.0% of Avella’s HIV patients who were using the mscripts mobile application achieved >/= 90% adherence rate, while 65.3% of Avella’s patients not using the platform had achieved >/= 90% adherence rate. This further demonstrates the impact that the mobile app had on already highly adherent population. Unfortunately, a 2014 report from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention found only 30% of HIV-positive Americans have achieved viral suppression. According to the National Institute of Health (NIH), loss of virologic control as a consequence of non-adherence to antiretroviral medication may lead to drug resistance and loss of future treatment options.

“HIV regimens have decreased in complexity, however, medication non-adherence continues to be a major cause of HIV-related morbidity and mortality,” said Dr. Eric Sredzinski, Pharm.D. Avella’s Executive Vice President of Clinical Affairs and Quality Assurance. “This new mobile health application is yet another opportunity for Avella to maintain its focus on providing comprehensive support to our patients while empowering them to achieve improved outcomes.”

This new data showcases the value of mobile health strategies in engaging patients and improving medication adherence. In addition to the increases in overall adherence, Avella’s HIV patients using the mscripts mobile application were nearly three times less likely to discontinue their medication refills.

“Avella’s patient population is already highly adherent when compared to the general population,” said mscripts’ CEO, Mark Cullen. “We’re excited to see that getting those patients on the mobile platform will make an even more significant impact.”

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About Avella Specialty Pharmacy:

Headquartered in Phoenix, Arizona, Avella Specialty Pharmacy is a National Accredited Specialty Pharmacy, providing individualized care and support to patients since 1996. Avella’s clinical pharmacists and staff members are experts in managing complex disease states and providing compassionate care. The company offers a nationwide distribution service to complement its retail locations. Avella reached 1,772th on Inc. magazine’s 2014 list of the 5,000 fastest-growing private companies in the country. In addition, the Arizona Corporate Excellence Awards has named Avella Specialty Pharmacy as the fastest-growing private company based in the state.

For more information, please visit www.avella.com.

 

About mScripts:

mScripts promotes patient adherence and engagement through their innovative, easy-to-use mobile and web health management platform. The mscripts’ platform serves 2.5 million patients spanning national, regional and specialty pharmacies along with hospital out-patient systems. Pharmacy patients manage their prescriptions and health on their mobile phones through 2-way interactive SMS messaging and branded mobile applications, making refilling convenient and remembering to take medications easy. mscripts improves adherence by improving refill rates, providing education and health information, and applying advanced analytics to better understand patient behavior.

Learn more at www.mscripts.com.

Pornstars Read Mean Comments on Pornhub

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My favorite Island boys at 4YallEntertainment teamed up with Brazzers and PornHub to show some of our favorite adult actors and actresses the mean comments that viewers leave behind. It’s a spinoff to Jimmy Kimmel’s “Celebrities Read Mean Tweets” segment, and it’s quite entertaining. Take a look after the jump!

Yes, VForVadge.com is about sex health and education – but every so often, many of us stop browsing the Infection Section and click our Incognito Tab to watch some fine adult skinema (porn). Don’t you wonder what porn stars would do if they read some of the weird comments under their films? I sure do.

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50 Shades x Pornhub – What are Women Searching For?

Pornstars Read Mean Comments on Pornhub

 

 

Shoutout to Johnny Sins, Ariella Ferera, Bridget B, Keiran Lee, Keisha Grey, Riley Reid, Mia Malkova, Rose Monroe, Janet Mason, Bonnie Rotten, Ava Adams and Madison Scott for being such soldiers. Thumbs up to you (yes, you) if you recognized any of those names.

See you on PornHub!

Erotica: “Leave the Lights On” by Sophia Ned-James

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Every so often, it’s healthy to engage in a little imaginative thought – like erotica for example. Feast your mind on the latest sensual tale from our guest writer, Sophia Ned-James. May it inspire a little intimacy in your bedroom tonight…

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LEAVE THE LIGHTS ON
By Sophia Ned-James

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I’m a busy single mom and my boyfriend Royce* works all the time. So what little time we spend together is extra special because it’s pretty rare considering how close we are. And even rarer is the opportunity for us to travel out of town together.
Last weekend the stars aligned perfectly though, and we were finally able to escape from cold, snowy southeast Michigan. Royce was on a Thursday to Tuesday business trip in the south, but was free for the weekend. So he flew me out to where he’d booked us a nice room overlooking the Atlantic Ocean.
Since our hotel was pretty far away from where he’d been staying for work, and since his last meeting ran a little longer than anticipated, I got to the room a couple of hours before him. That’s usually how we like it. I like being able to relax and get all sexy for him. He likes me to greet him naked and ready to go.
But this time I was fully clothed when he arrived. That wasn’t my plan, but I’d made an extra effort with my outfit that night. I was wearing a shirt that beautifully displayed my assets and some new jeans which made my ass look fantastic. I’d even left most of the lights on just so he could see how cute I looked.
What I was wearing didn’t matter, though. When I opened the door, Royce just brushed past me into the room, tugging at his tie. He said “Hi,” but didn’t even greet me with a kiss.

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You know that got my back up. “What, no kiss?”
He turned to face me and I could tell by the look in his eyes that he wasn’t in the mood for small talk. Tossing his tie onto a chair, he pulled me into his arms for a quick kiss.
“We’ll kiss more, later,” he said. He steered me towards the bed. “Right now, I just want to taste you. I’ve been thinking about getting a taste all day!”
My attitude flew out the window. Royce meant business.
Unzipping my pants, I asked him to turn off some of the lights. He shook his head. “Uh-uh,” he said meeting my eyes. “We’re leaving the lights on … I wanna see my pussy.”
Damn.

His deep voice, barely above a whisper, gave me goose bumps. I couldn’t get my pants off fast enough.

Other than his tie, he remained fully clothed and watched impatiently as I finally kicked my lacy panties aside. As I laid back, he grabbed my hips and pulled me to the edge of the bed. Was he a little rough? Maybe. But then he was on his knees with his face between my legs, feasting like a starving man.
What makes Royce so good at oral is that he genuinely loves to do it. He takes his time, never making me feel like I have to hurry up and cum so that he can be done with it. He’s patient and deliberate. He’s passionate. And he makes me feel as though my pleasure is the most important thing in the world.
This time was even sexier because he was still fully clothed and I was only naked from the waist down. It felt positively decadent when I rested my legs on his shoulders and he was still wearing his dress shirt.
It didn’t take long for Royce’s expert tongue to find the rhythm to take me to glory. I rocked and rolled my hips to the sexy dance choreographed by his mouth. At times I grabbed his head to guide him a little. But mostly, I clutched the sheets as I writhed and moaned.

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He knows my body and read my signals like a pro. Our moves were synchronized for the most intense pleasure. Then, just as I began my final approach to satisfaction, Royce went into beast mode. I don’t know exactly what he was doing down there, but it was amazing. When I finally fell over the edge, I felt like I was floating on air.
I opened my eyes expecting to find Royce in some stage or other of undress. But he wasn’t. He was watching me as I floated back to earth with an expectant look on his face.
“You good?” He asked. I nodded. “Good. Now I want to eat you from the back. Turn over.”
I wasn’t prepared for that. I was looking forward to returning the favor and rocking his world with my mouth. I started to protest “But … wait … don’t you want me to …?”
He didn’t let me finish. “Baby, I told you. I’ve been thinking about doing this all day. Now turn that sexy ass over!”

What can a girl do but comply with such a request? Royce loves eating me from the back. I love it, too. I mean, what’s not to love about oral sex from any angle, right? But it usually takes me longer to cum that way. Besides, I was still all tingly from before.
Yet my man wanted to do this. And I wasn’t about to deny him. Climbing to my knees, I braced myself. But he started out nice and gentle, slowly teasing me back into a state of arousal.

It was good. It was really good. Again, he took his time, savoring me like I was his last meal. Feeling his tongue tickle my ass made me feel wanton and erotic. And somehow, the fact that he seemed to only graze my clit drove me crazy.
He kept at it until finally, I needed to cum. I spread my legs further and arched my back. This gave him even more access to that trembling bundle of nerves he’d been teasing. He got the hint and began the slow, rhythmic licking and sucking action that always gets me off.

As much as I wanted to thrust my pussy onto his face, I held back for fear that he’d release my clit from his lips. And I couldn’t let that happen because his lips were magic.
Silently begging him for just a little more pressure … yes, that’s it … right there … I heard moaning and realized it was me. Or maybe I was talking, saying aloud the words that would guide his tongue to the exact spot with just the right amount of force …
The explosion came from nowhere. It took me by surprise and was so jarring, I fell forward onto my stomach. I may have screamed but I can’t be sure, because all I could hear was the pounding of my own heart.
Still reeling, I rolled over just enough to be able look at Royce. He was standing by the bed, slowly undressing with a satisfied look on his face. His lips and beard were wet with my dew.

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“Wow,” I said. My voice sounded scratchy. “That was intense!”
“I was on a mission,” he grinned.
“I could tell! But you know what I want now?”
“What do you want? You can have anything you want, Baby.”
As I got back onto my knees, I said “I want you inside me!”
I heard him tear open a condom and toss the wrapper onto the bed. “Your wish is my command!”

Nobody but nobody does it from the back like my guy! I mean, for real. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: he should bottle that shit and sell it!
From that initial penetration, Royce held nothing back. He wasn’t sweet or gentle. He conquered. He took. His thrusts were so powerful they pushed me forward on the bed. Of course, that earned me a couple of nice smacks on my ass, as he roughly pulled me back into position.
Now it was his moans that filled the room. Now it was Royce making his way to ecstasy. I loved that it was my body making him feel so good. His pleasure became my pleasure.
When he finally climaxed with my name on his lips, Royce collapsed on the bed beside me, panting as though he’d just run a marathon. Then he pulled me into his arms and kissed me tenderly. We fell asleep with the lights still on and me still wearing my cute shirt.

And that was how we began our brief, but enjoyable mini-vacation together. Getting away really did me some good, too. I mean, what better way to recharge after such a long and dreary Michigan winter?

*Royce isn’t his real name, of course. I keep his government name a secret to protect his privacy. Besides, I always change the names and a few details to protect the not-so-innocent!

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“Why Latinas Get the Guy” – Interview with Author Joe Bovino

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Little known fact: I speak fluent Spanish. That’s because I spent a large portion of my life growing up and learning with my Dominican family. I’ve been blessed to learn a lot about how Latina women interact with their partners, how they view intimacy and sex as a whole. While times change, some of those ideals are still reinforced through our grandmothers, mothers and peers. I had the honor of sitting down with Joe Bovino, author of “Why Latinas Get the Guy -” and we chatted about some of the popular questions surrounding his new book. Find out why Latinas Get the Guy, and how you can get them, too. “Miren… “

That’s Spanish for look, y’all… 

Why Latinas Get the Guy
Why Latinas Get the Guy – Joe Bovino

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What are some major challenges of dating within the Latin community?

By far the biggest challenge is the language barrier. I still struggle with it myself, unfortunately, but I’m working on it.
Most Latinos in the United States prefer to speak Spanish because they can express themselves better that way to someone who understands the language. They’ll resort to English if they have to and do the best with the words they know, but they may not be able to explain what they want or feel as clearly as they’d like to, which can lead to stilted conversations, miscommunication and misunderstandings while dating and otherwise.
I once broke up with a Peruvian-American girl because I thought she was calling me a liar when all she was doing was saying the Spanish equivalent of “You’re kidding!” It wouldn’t have happened if either of us spoke the other’s native language fluently. Now I’m a lot more cautious about jumping to conclusions when I’m not sure about what’s being said and why.

Another major challenge for non-Latinos dating Latinos is understanding cultural tendencies and predispositions that are likely to affect how things go. Latinos share some common traits, but there are significant differences between Mexicans, Dominicans, Puerto Ricans, Colombians, Brazilians and other Latinos in the United States and abroad. Many Americans have no idea what they are or simply learn as they go. That can be risky.
Finally, American women may find it challenging to deal with the “machismo” of Latin [men] at times, especially if they’re used to dating weak American males. Most Latin guys in the USA don’t mind if American women assert themselves and do their own thing, but few take kindly to emasculation and won’t tolerate it. They also normally expect women to place a high priority on family, which may rub some American women the wrong way.
American men, on the other hand, may mistakenly try to fast-track intimacy, play dating games, act like a jerk, or do any number of things that tend to work on American women but often backfire with more traditional and proudly feminine Latinas.

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Is sex still taboo to talk about as it was years ago?

No. All you have to do is watch television, go to the movies or peruse the internet to know that sex-talk is commonplace these days. I hear there’s even a blog called “V for Vadge.”
But that doesn’t mean raunchy sex talk is wise for women while dating – at least before a meaningful relationship has been established. Men almost always lose respect for women who start talking about sex on dating websites, a first date or soon thereafter. They’ll still have sex with you and treat you like one of the boys, if that’s all you want, but they’re much less likely to see you as a woman who they might date seriously or marry.

Latinas know this and are generally much less likely to start talking about sex during a date or early on in a relationship. They want men to perceive them as feminine, ladylike, and smart enough not to talk explicitly about sex with a guy they don’t know very well. They also tend to make guys work and wait a lot longer for sex than fully assimilated American women. That way, they can more easily weed out the guys who are only looking for sex.

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Are there any key strategies to successful dating?

If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want, copy what they do, and you’ll achieve the same results. That tip comes from Tony Robbins, and it applies in all aspects of life, including dating.

These days, too many American women are doing things that fail to attract, get and keep good men. Then, instead of reconsidering their strategy, they blame others – especially the men – delude themselves into thinking that it makes sense to keep acting the same way, and, worse yet, double down. Militant feminists and self-described “bitches” bash men for sport and giggles. Others try to look, sound, act, and sleep around like the very men they profess to hate in a counterproductive attempt to appear “strong.” And many younger American women think it’s cool to participate in a Tinder-fueled hook-up culture where shameless promiscuity trumps decency, self-respect and common sense. Guys are playing along and enjoy the easy access to sex, but they lose respect for those girls too.
Is any of that leading to more “successful dating” by modern American women? No, unless you define success as more casual sex and less lasting, long-term committed relationships.

Moreover, and increasingly large number of American men aren’t just taking their balls and going home. They’re rationally choosing to pursue other, more appealing alternatives in a global dating market with non-American women, hyphenated American women (e.g., Latinas, Asian-Americans) or narrowing their search to sweeter, more confidently feminine American women in the South, Midwest and elsewhere.

Fortunately, American women don’t have to give up their independence, careers, opinions, dignity or anything else to get back in the game and date more successfully and land the best guys. They don’t need to tolerate bad behavior by players and jerks either. They just need to wise up, watch the women who are dating successfully these days, and copy what’s working for them. That will require many American women to take a hard, uncomfortable look in the mirror and make some changes – including trying harder to look, sound and act like a lady he can’t live without – but it shouldn’t be too hard. In fact, it should be natural.

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What words of advice would you give a young lady in the dating world?

1. Watch women who are successful in attracting, getting and keeping great guys. Then copy what they do that works. Success leaves clues.

2. Ignore anyone who tells you that men love bitches, bitchiness is attractive, or femininity equals weakness. Those are lies.

3. Get out of the house and don’t spent countless hours chatting on dating websites. 80% of life is just showing up. So, get out there. Show up for those first dates. Keep it casual and see how it goes. Eventually, a good one will come along.

4. Make an effort to look like a lady, not a boy.

5. Talk like a lady, not a sailor, while dating. Men will respect you for it.

6. Treat men respectfully but don’t hesitate to assert yourself when men don’t treat you with love and respect in return. Respect works both ways.

7. Make guys wait at least a month for sex. Exceptions should be rare. Find out who he really is before you get intimate with him.

8. If a guy isn’t treating you like a princess and making you feel good about your relationship, he’s just not that into you. If he was, you wouldn’t find yourself making excuses for him or managing so many negative emotions. Politely let him go.

9. If you’re dating the same type of guy over and over with no success, make a change. Mix it up, and consider dating guys from different ethnic or racial backgrounds as well, especially if you’re not having much success with your own.

10. Read my new, national #1 bestselling book, Why Latinas Get the Guy: A No-BS Guide to Understanding the Allure of Latin-American Women and Spicing Up Your Love Life.

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What words of advice would you give a young man in the dating world?

1. Take chances out there, act boldly if necessary, and never lose your sense of humor, even when you don’t get the girl. It’s a date, not a bombing mission over ‘Nam.

2. Nothing is more important than confidence. Take steps to maintain and build it, even when things don’t go your way.

3. Don’t just be yourself. Be your best self.

4. Be honest about who you are or what you think, but don’t volunteer private details about your life to everyone who comes along. A little mystery goes a long way.

5. Skin up.

6. Learn to sing, play an instrument, dance, and speak at least one foreign language.

7. Date women who deserve and have earned your respect. You can be friendly with the rest, but there’s no point in pursuing anything more serious with them.

8. Date non-American women and American women from different parts of the country, especially the South and Midwest. Compare, contrast, and see who fits best.

9. Watch Don Draper’s Guide to Picking Up Women.

10. Read my first book, Field Guide to Chicks of the United States, and take notes.

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I thoroughly enjoyed this interview, and while I think some of his statements can be a bit controversial, Joe made great points. In a society where sex seems to be our primary selling point, it is important for us women of all cultures and ethnicities to know our worth and value ourselves. Put your best assets forward – and they don’t have to be in your pants.

What do you think about the interview? Do you agree with these statements? 

Miley Cyrus’ Short Film – “Tongue Tied

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 We snagged the Miley Cyrus short film “Tongue Tied” for your viewing pleasure – right after it made headlines and disappeared. Originally slated to debut at the Pornhub Film Festival, it was pulled last minute for reasons unknown. Directed by photographer Quentin Jones – you probably won’t forget this film for a while.

Take a peek…

Check Out: Pornhub Film Festival Recap 

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Miley Cyrus
Via NY Daily News
Via NY Daily News

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What do you think? Is Miley a budding temptress or a bored lil bad girl?

Video Via Dazed Digital

The Pornhub First Annual Film Festival

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Sex Sells: The Pornhub 1st Annual

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Pornhub had its first annual Porn film festival offered way more than I believe most of their viewers expected. When the title of a film festival includes Porn, the typical person thinks of sex as it is seen in naughty pop-ups or the 1-800 ads during the wee hours of the morning. Instead,  From my first impressions, I was curious as to what kind of crowd this sort of event would attract. Of course more than just your neighborhood pervert or horny teen are frequent visitors of porn sites but this was a film festival, so I hoped to find some sort of highly sexual intellectuals lurking about. I did anticipate that at some point there would be a room full of people watching hard pounding sex. But as I entered into the smoking lounge area, the room held around 50-60 people, most of which held a drink or a cigarette in either hand (as the room would suggest). It wasn’t until I walked into the room in which the films were being shown, that I was a bit taken aback at how many more folks filled the room. I would say that there were damn near 100 people filling the benches and walls watching the films and so my experience began.

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My night started off watching a short film titled “Internal Body Shots” by Jasco Viefhues. The film explored the experiences of four individuals from throughout North America and Europe with their sexuality, bodies and how their bodies have been viewed by others throughout the world. I found this film to be captivating because it took a deeper look into the very basic idea that sex is not the same everywhere, for everyone and with every BODY. We don’t just have sex with our genitals but with our entire bodies and those bodies come with experiences, stereotypes and stigmas that are placed on us by our societies. The Black Body, the Trans Body, the Intersex Body, the Gender fluid Body and the Body that exists as genderless are all still sexual bodies that experience sex differently and that is important to talk about when mentioning sex on any platform. The audience seemed captivated, not so much by the nudity of the folks on screen but listening to the stories of their bodies. I felt that the film reminded viewers that we are more than the act of heavy breathing, orgasms and arousal.

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The following film entitled “My Girls” was a short of different men breastfeeding from another man’s chest. This film in particular tickled me because of the unease that came over the room. Many viewers whispered comments to their neighbors, fidgeted in their seats or simply walked out of the room. I took this as an opportunity to get some comments from folks. The person sitting next to me appeared to have a very different opinion about the scenes. He stated that he was fascinated by the discomfort. He then went on to say “porn is art” in reference to how many sculptures and paintings sometimes make their viewers uneasy, most times, that is the point. The depiction of a man doing to another man an act that is meant to be between a mother nourishing her child can be understandably disturbing. But the crowd seemed to be buzzing more with the sexual identity of the parties involved. Were they gay? Is the guy breast feeding considered a cub or a bear? (referring to his slightly chubby and hairy tummy). Even the masses who flocked to see porn in all of its glory, were uneasy with what they could not place into one of their many boxes.

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Last but definitely not least, was a film that explored what is inarguably, as the most notorious bondage website, Insex. Its creator Brent Scott was the first to create site that viewed the bondage and submission of women that had not been seen before. The film was entitled “Barbara Bell: GRAPHIC SEXUAL HORROR” and it did more than just explore the creators journey but the evolution of the site, the company and all of the women involved. Usually when told that we will receive a “behind the scenes” look into anything, there is typically more to be uncovered. This film laid everything out on the table. It also showed viewers who may not have known that in all sex, consent, trust, and safety for yourself and others, and desire are all necessary in all forms of sex. The audience, as well as myself, was glued to the screen for the entire 84 minutes. I believe that this particular film would have no place in any other festival than Pornhub.

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Especially for its first annual film festival, I entered with much anticipation and left feeling inspired, turned on and SEXY.Porn is more than pounding sex and orgies and way more than just a way to be turned on and get off. Porn can be political, disabled, empowering, comedy and freedom for those who choose to participate and use it as such. I believe that from the many reactions, applause, laughter and gasps, most, if not more folks will return for next year’s Pornhub film festival. If anything, I know I’ll be there!

Until next time… stay Sane, Sexy and Safe.

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