Sex; What 2014 Taught Us


Sex Education for the Real World…


Sex; What 2014 Taught Us About It

Posted December 30, 2014 by Kimani in Love. Life. Erotica.

Hey Vadgesters!

It’s my last post of the year, and that means I’m re-capping some of the things we’ve learned before we ring in 2015. Feel free to add some more along the way – thank you so much for making this an amazing year!



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1. Our Vagina, Our Rights – Right?

The government debated some hot topics in 2014 when it comes to Women’s rights. This included abortion, whether birth control will be covered by our employers and even who we can marry. No matter what side you’re on (or not on) politically, make it your duty to vote in 2015. The right we have earned helps dictate the rights we are provided – remember that.


Ty Dolla $ign

2. Your Favorite Rapper is Trifling.

If you listen close enough to the songs we jam to in the car – there’s some shady stuff going on. Take for example:

  • Ty Dolla $ign – “Paranoid:” (“Two of my chicks in the club, and I know they know about each other…”) As fine as he may be, if you choose to share – be aware of your sexual surroundings. 
  • Schoolboy Q – “Studio:” (“I can hit your type without the hat, put that p*%#y on the map…”) Hat = condom. Screening how you protect yourself based on a woman’s looks? If that doesn’t scare you – girl bye. 
  • YG’s ex girlfriend/lover blasted him on Twitter this week for knowingly having herpes and not forewarning her. Whether this is verified or not – it’s definitely cause for alarm.
  • The Eat a Booty Gang is spreading butt love across the nation, and rapper Kevin Gates says it cured him of Ebola. Know who you have going downtown on you ladies, because there may be a crew of them doing it to the neighborhood. 
What about the relationship issues our favorite celebrities had this year?
  • Drake is the new “Mr. Steal Your Girl.” He’s been linked to so many women (some of which became famous because of it), I can’t even tag them all. Watch out for guys like him, ladies. Pretty sure he’s not just calling them over to cuddle.
  • Karrueche + Breezy. Enough said.

Find out if  you’re in a Situationship – Read Here.


3. Memes Will Make You Feel Like A Heaux

  • First off, what is a meme?
     “Humorous image, video, piece of text, etc. that is copied (often with slight variations) and spread rapidly by Internet users.” It comes from the “Greek mimēma ‘that which is imitated,’ on the pattern of gene (Google, 2014).”
    For example: This meme by Peniel Enchil is all over the innernets being slaughtered. The original is meant to be uplifting to women and encouraging to those leaving old habits behind in the new year.
    Original Meme

    Original Meme by Peniel Enchil

    The modified versions, not so much…


    In an effort to save space and keep viewers interested, these photo/text blasts are often super generalized and stereotypical. Even more often, they are the opinions of anonymous individuals or fame whores looking for likes, follows and shares. Chances are, the creators of  these memes were hurt by an ex or rejected by a love interest.
    Don’t get caught up in this trend, take them for what they are and laugh or shake your head and keep scrolling.
    Even if you are a heaux, that is YOUR business. Own it, and do it safely. 
    Kimi’s Tip:
    Don’t be afraid to take an occasional social media break and link up with people in real life.

    4. Because Grapefruit.

    While many of us were fascinated by Sexologist Auntie Angel’s skills – it was the sound that got me the most. Women all over the country were running to their local Whole Foods Market to pick up the sweetest grapefruit they could find. Why, you ask? Just. Watch…
The comments are especially entertaining.

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5. BDSM is Cool Now…

Thanks to glamorization from 50 Shades of Grey – the top layer of BDSM (overlapping mix of Bondage & Discipline,  Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism) has been exposed to the world. Most of us have only imagined it in our heads up until this point – but aren’t you ready to try some kinky bondage now?

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6. Sex Toys Come in All Different Shapes and Sizes

Not everyone is stashing a huge 10 inch chocolate dildo in their toy box. Sex toys come in an array of sizes, colors and functions. Finding one that’s right for you may unlock a whole new side of pleasure.

7. For The Last Time – Douching is Bad!!

 When you include all the artificial fragrances and chemical ingredients in the typical store bought douche – you are setting your vagina up for unhappiness. Consider natural remedies or products with natural ingredients to cleanse your vadge in the new year (if necessary).
Note: Please, please, PLEASE consult with your OB/GYN before starting a regimen – especially if you have never seen the symptoms before.

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8. Lubrication Makes Everything Better

Front if you want. Not everyone NEEDS lube, but there is zero wrong with using it. In fact, a study from Indiana University found that 50% of men and women said added lubrication made it easier to have an orgasm.Less friction, more sensation.
Think about it.

9. Toys Are Not Just for Women.

Fleshlight = Multi – Million dollar industry.

10. Kegels Work!

So many women still don’t know the wonders of kegel exercises or doubt their effectiveness. Take some time to train your vaginal muscles – it’ll only make sex better for the new year.
Thank you so much for rocking with me – I hope it has been as awesome for you as it is for me. Please show love and sign up for my mailing list to stay up to date with all things sex and health. May 2015 bring you happiness, good health and prosperity!



About the Author


A NY transplant in Florida, Kimani has taken on the task of educating the world on sexual health and education. The Mount Vernon native has seen AIDS and HIV spread through her community like wildfire, and hopes to cease the transmission of these and other diseases one person at a time. If you know better, you're inclined to do better.

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