Building Romance in the Bedroom | VForVadge


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Building Romance in the Bedroom | VForVadge

Posted September 7, 2015 by Kimani in Love. Life. Erotica.
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Building Romance in the Bedroom with Dr. Kat Van Kirk

It may seem self-explanatory, but building romance isn’t as easy for some couples as it is for others. So, how do you do it?

Check out Dr. Kat’s expert tips and give us yours to win a Love Bud Play Set by Adam & Eve!


Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a licensed marriage and sex therapist and resident sex expert for offers sound advice to help (re)kindle that flame in the bedroom…


  • Learn to become opportunists when it comes for sex. Too many couples wait for the stars to align for the perfect tryst and then it never happens due to hectic schedules. Prioritize sex by getting it in whenever you can.


  • Remove the expectation of orgasm each time. Learning to focus on sensation and enjoying the multitude of benefits from sex can help you build arousal and not be focused on “getting it done.


  • Do something, anything different. Research by the Gottman Institute suggests that those sexual relationships that maintain spontaneity in their relationships last longer with higher levels of satisfaction. Anything from having sex on the other side of the bed or a quick hand job in the car while you are in the garage to trying new toys like the Adam & Eve Butterfly Couples Ring can accomplish this.


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  • Put down the screens. Screens and technology tend to take up an inordinate amount of time. It can make us less present in our relationships and therefore less likely to have sex. Learn to put your phone down by dinnertime each night and never bring it into bed with you.

  • Renew the flirting in your relationship. Remember that flirting can be a fun and important component to your relationship. Responsible sexting, for example, can up the anticipation of when you are finally together. Or, decide to get sensual versus sexual. Enjoy some relaxation time with massage oils and candles.


About Dr. Kat:


Dr. Kat Van Kirk

“Here’s my deal…I am a wife, mother and marriage, family and sex therapist. Each of those aspects helps define me but just like you, there’s so much more to me that is irreverent and quirky (OK, maybe not as quirky as Zooey Deschanel, but still). I enjoy a good cocktail, theatre, a good book, bawdy humor, creative ways in which to live life, meditation, yoga, Piyo, boot camp, surfing, “I love yous” from my two sprite like daughters and having a fantastic session in the sack with my hot, fantastic husband.”

Read more about Dr. Kat Here…

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About the Author


A NY transplant in Florida, Kimani has taken on the task of educating the world on sexual health and education. The Mount Vernon native has seen AIDS and HIV spread through her community like wildfire, and hopes to cease the transmission of these and other diseases one person at a time. If you know better, you're inclined to do better.

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