Men aren’t the only ones curious about the inner workings of their female counterparts. Women often wonder what goes on in the heads of males. No – it’s not just beans rattling around in a tin can; they actually have thoughts and concerns just like women do. It’s very refreshing to hear candid conversation amongst men about sex and relationships – so here’s a little something to brighten your day. Five guys from five different relationship stages, this should get interesting…
The Hoo Hoo Monologues: 5 Tips For A Healthy Vagina
From the Writer’s Desk:
In a tropical place like Florida, it’s almost always summer. Regardless of whether you live near the Equator or at the North Pole, keeping a healthy vagina is crucial year round.
Our new partner, Healthy Hoo Hoo has some tips to keep your Va Jay Jay
nice and comfy 🙂
Nuff Love,
Kimi
5 TIPS FOR A HEALTHY HOOHOO (THIS SUMMER)
Woohoo for summer! Well at least for those of you lucky enough to have sunny skies and warm temperatures. With thermometers on the rise it’s important to bring some awareness to the wellbeing of your vulvovaginal region. Here are our top 5 tips for a healthy vagina this summer:
Keep her dry! Avoid wearing tight jeans and allow the air to circulate in your pelvic region to help evaporate sweat. Wear loose fitting clothing like linen pants, skirts and dresses. At night, sleep sans panties!
Keep it natural.Wear cotton underpants (we love that word) – 100% organic is best. Limit your use of synthetic underwear as sweat reacts differently with polyester/ nylon blends, often trapping moisture and causing odor.
Avoid talcum powder. Regardless if your grandmother or mother passed along this tip, it’s best to leave this harmful hygienic practice to the history books. You may think adding a bit to your routine will help with sweat absorption, but studies now link talcum powder use to ovarian cancer.
Limit sugar. Pass on the Kool-Aid and sip lemon water instead. Not only will your digestive system love you but you’ll be avoiding sugar. Sugar is yeast’s favorite food and combined with hot summer temperatures you may be setting the stage for an uncomfortable vaginal flora imbalance.
Change out of wet swimsuits and workout clothes as soon as possible. This ultimately fits under Tip #1- the “keep her dry” umbrella, however we want to place extra emphasis on this summer-specific condition. Both wet yoga pants and swimsuits provide optimal fungus growing conditions. When fungus grows too quickly it can lead to a yeast infection. Toss a skirt or sarong over those wet togs and drop those breeding grounds to the floor. You’ll look that much more fashionable as a result!
Well ladies, I hope these tips help and you have a great summer complete with a healthy vagina!
Got vagina questions? Email me at kimi@vforvadge.com
As a woman, if you’ve never had the need to fake an orgasm – you are truly blessed. As a man, if you’ve never had a woman need to fake an orgasm – you will truly never know. Or so you think, right? Many men are certain that they’d know if their partner was faking orgasm , but what is that based on? The way her leg quivers? How loud she yells? Yeah – okay. Let’s take a look at some of the telltale signs if your lady is saying you’re great in bed, or she’s just a great actress…
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It has been estimated by various studies that 70% of women fake orgasms at some point in their sexual lives. Some fake it very regularly — as in every time — while others only do it sometimes.
The psychology behind faking it is simple: She isn’t going to have an orgasm this time, and she knows it. She can’t be bothered with a) you trying hard to satisfy her and prolonging the encounter, and b) you feeling bad because you couldn’t satisfy her come hell or high water.
If you want to know if you are being tricked, use the following signs that she really is having an orgasm to distinguish the fake from the bona fide, and catch her in the act.
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Retraction of the clitoral head
This occurs just before orgasm and provides you with a clitoris-sized hint. When the clit disappears, you’re on the right track, so don’t stop. This coveted disappearance of the clitoris isn’t only visible if you have the lights on and your face all up in it; it’s something you can feel as well. So, get yourselves into a position where you can easily rub her clitoris during sex, and use it to your advantage. Under the guise of giving her some extra special treatment, you can feel whether she’s actually close to climaxing or just faking.
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Increased breathing and heart rate
Listen to the sound of her breathing in your ear: When it starts to get heavier, you’ll know you’re onto something. The change will occur reasonably swiftly when she is about to orgasm, and will be accompanied by a completely unconscious change in the tension, rhythm and pace of her other body movements. Liars and the truthful alike might clutch at you and moan and groan, but her breathing is the missing link. Her thumping heart will also be a sign that it’s for real; if she isn’t actually excited, her heart rate and bodily manner will be very ordinary.
Dilated pupils
Dilated pupils are another surefire sign that your girl is reaching her peak. This might be hard to tell in the dark, but if the lights are on, all you have to do is ask her to look into your eyes as she climaxes. Chances are she’ll be more than willing to oblige to that romantic request. Just make sure to make note of what her pupils looked like at the beginning of your romp so you can compare their difference in size at the end.
Red lips
This means both sets: Her mouth lips will go a little redder (lips swell and redden upon arousal), as will her vaginal lips. While you are penetrating one set of lips, try to feel the swelling in the other set of lips that you’re kissing. Be careful though: Kissing will also increase the redness of her lips, so be gentle with pecks so that you can get an accurate reading of her response level.
Vaginal muscle spasms
Muscle spasms are the biggest indicators of all because she cannot fake or hide this. During orgasm, she will have between 3 and 10 vaginal and cervical contractions, the first few being the strongest. They will grip your penis, and the tightening feeling you experience will be impossible to ignore.
Sudden perspiration
Hot, sweaty sex? Yes, please. Breaking out in a sweat means her body is at a high level of tension and her muscles are working overtime — her breathing, heart rate and blood pressure are all up. So, once you both collapse into a sweaty heap afterward, you’ll know she’s been pleased.
A good conversation may be the best remedy if you suspect your mate of faking orgasms. Finding out what pleases her and exploring options for stimulation can solve this problem and create an exciting experience.
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With all the pills and treatments available for sexual problems, it’s no wonder the medical industry is booming. Many of us, however, would much rather a natural approach to the minor (and major) issues that arise (or don’t arise) in the bedroom. Channa Serenity brings us sexual health solutions that Mother Nature herself endorses.
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Let`s talk about sex baby- Salt` n Pepper
SEX. Often times a taboo topic, However, It’s a big part of life; it CREATES life for crying out loud. Sex in its purest form is perfectly natural and beautiful. Pleasure should be celebrated by every woman on a frequent basis. Pleasure is a very powerful tool in experiencing a joy-filled life. Yet, 33 to 50 % of women experience orgasm infrequently and are dissatisfied with how often they reach orgasm. 10-15 % of American women have never experienced an orgasm. Only 35 % of the female population will orgasm during intercourse.
Physical challenges always arise from the deeper level within the etheric body. When it comes to sex, desire, appetite and pleasure, we are in the realm of the 2nd chakra, the sacral chakra.
The sacral chakra is located 2 inches below the naval and governs the ovaries and testes. This chakra is all about how one feels towards sensation and pleasure and our deservedness of it. It controls our appetite for food, sex and pleasure. It also controls our physical health and wellbeing. When we make our lives too complex we strip away the pleasure from our experiences. We must find the balance between control and letting go.
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When the sacral chakra is blocked, it inhibits our natural ability to experience pleasure ad desire. Each chakra has a measurable pattern of electromagnetic activity to which it is naturally tuned. We can use color, scent and crystals to stimulate the frequencies to bring the chakras back into natural alignment. Once these blockages are released the chakras will open allowing the energy to flow with ease.
Color: the sacral chakra is governed by the color orange. Wear, visualize or even eat it.
Crystals: Carnelian, place it over the sacral chakra and relax in corpse`s pose for 15 minutes.
Essential oil: Sandalwood, apply to the sacral chakra area, on wrists and behind the ears.
Relaxing and taking time for yourself is vital. Often times we get “hurry sickness“ and get caught up in what to do`s of life. Take some deep breaths, relax and enjoy the present!
Meet Channa:
Channa is a Spiritual & Holistic Health Practitioner. She’s dedicated her life to studying the healing arts and holds certificates in many different modalities. Her passion is to help women take control of their bodies, minds and spirits, and create balance and harmony in all aspects of their lives. She wants to empower women and children to make lifestyle changes necessary for their best possible health. She is the founder of fitness/chakra balancing workout “Empowercise”. Channa has authored “12 weeks to Raw-some, Diva edition” and forthcoming children’s book, Isadora’s Journey.
From The Writer’s Desk:I’m not sure how accurate these statistics are, but I do believe that there are many women who practice infidelity within their relationships. Polling people and using it as research information is hit or miss, because people only disclose as much information as they desire to. Try this using polygraph material and maybe it will be more legitimate to me.
I think there is less of a taboo on women speaking out about their sexual choices, preferences, dislikes – so the “rise” that this research speaks of is actually just a rise in confessions, not necessarily a rise in the act itself. Very interesting to read, though…
“So it’s been said for a hot minute now that women cheat as much as men, and now there’s a statistic to back it up. The Wall Street Journal peaked into this issue of infidelity over the weekend and, based on a 2011 study from Indiana University, the Kinsey Institute and the University of Guelph, found the statistical word on cheating is that 23% of men are doing it and 19% of women. So yeah, not much difference.
What is different is the numbers that were reported just one year prior, albeit from a different source. In 2010, the General Social Survey, sponsored by the National Science Foundation, found 19% of men had been unfaithful at some point during their marriage which was actually a decrease from 21% in 1991. Women on the other hand were increasing their sexcapades, with a reported 14% having had an affair, up from 11% in 1991.
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Whether that figure really did jump 5% in one year is hard to say because at the end of the day these surveys are basically asking people to confess to going back on their marriage vows and most people can’t handle that type of honesty, whether their identity is anonymous or not. That’s why researchers believe the real figures regarding the number of men and women who are cheating are likely higher than these annual surveys and studies indicate. But to look at things positively, at least in terms of what’s being reported, more people are seemingly faithful than unfaithful.
Even though TLC was up on the whole “Creep” thing way back in ’94, there may be a reason women are starting to follow that line of thinking in droves in recent years. As the WSJ writer notes:
In my own work as a psychologist and in my social circle, I see more women not only having affairs but actively seeking them out. Their reasons are familiar: validation of their attractiveness, emotional connection, appreciation, ego—not to mention the thrill of a shiny new relationship, unburdened by the long slog through the realities of coupledom.
Researchers also point to other factors that might be leading women to stray more. One is what might be called “infidelity overload.” Scan the plots on any given week in television, and there seems to be more extramarital sex than marital sex. (Few spouses stay put in “Mad Men.”) With women portrayed as eager participants and aggressive instigators, there may be a feeling that infidelity has become more acceptable.
And then there is the opportunity factor—more travel, more late nights on the job and more interaction with men mean that the chances and temptations to stray have multiplied for the new generation of working women.
There’s also another theory out there that women just feel differently about relationships these days — or are more comfortable finally expressing thoughts they’ve had all along.
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According to a Match.com study conducted earlier this year by the biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, women are becoming less traditional about relationships. Men, interestingly, may be going the other direction. In the survey, 77% of women in a committed relationship said they needed personal space, as opposed to 58% of men. While 35% of women wanted regular nights out with friends, only 23% of men said the same.
Social networks are another factor, if only by expanding the pool of possible partners. Emotional friendships that turn physical are the traditional point of entry for female affairs. It is now easy for those friendships to take root online. Some argue that social networks are merely an expediter and that cheaters will always find a way.
I’m with the last point. In my female bias, I’ve always argued (to my male friends) that women are more reactionary cheaters and only creep when they’ve been cheated on or are looking for something they’re missing at home but I only theoretical proof of that. Let these statistics tell it, girls just wanna have fun — with someone other than their husband.
In the day and age of “hooking up” and “friends with benefits,” disease transmission is as easy as a drink at the bar. Knowing the symptoms and methods of transmission may keep you one step ahead of infection.
Definition
Genital warts are one of the most common types of sexually transmitted infections. At least half of all sexually active people will become infected with the virus that causes genital warts at some point during their lives.
As the name suggests, genital warts affect the moist tissues of the genital area. Genital warts may look like small, flesh-colored bumps or have a cauliflower-like appearance. In many cases, the warts are too small to be visible.
Like warts that appear elsewhere on your body, genital warts are caused by the human papillomavirus (HPV). Some strains of genital HPV can cause genital warts, while others can cause cancer. Vaccines can help protect against certain strains of genital HPV.
What Are the Symptoms?
Commonly, genital warts symptoms are flesh-colored, soft-to-the-touch bumps on the skin that may look like the surface of a cauliflower. They often grow in more than one place and may cluster in large masses. Genital warts usually are painless, but they may itch.
You might see or feel genital warts in your vagina or on your vulva, cervix, penis, anus, or urethra. It is also possible — but not very likely — to have them in your mouth, on the lips, tongue, and palate, or in the throat.
Genital warts usually develop 6 weeks to 6 months after infection. But it may take longer.
They often grow more rapidly during pregnancy or when a person’s immune system is weakened by
chemotherapy
diabetes
HIV/AIDS
Hodgkin’s disease
taking anti-rejection drugs after an organ transplant
Are They Dangerous?
You may find genital warts to be unpleasant or mildly uncomfortable, but they are not dangerous. They can, however, cause sores and bleeding — which can increase your risk of HIV infection.
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Genital Warts and Cancer
Many people may worry that their genital warts will place them at risk of cancer. But the types of HPV that cause genital warts do not cause cancer.
It’s not unusual to have more than one HPV infection at a time. And warts may be a sign of infection from more serious types of HPV. Women can test for more serious types of HPV by getting regular Pap tests.
How Can I Know If I Have Genital Warts?
Only your health care provider can correctly diagnose genital warts. In women, genital warts are often seen during a pelvic exam. Unfortunately, men are not usually examined for sexually transmitted diseases, unless they complain of symptoms.
Women and men with more than one sex partner — or whose partners have more than one sex partner — should have regular exams for STDs, including genital warts.
Not All Bumps Are Warts
Other infections and conditions are often mistaken for genital warts symptoms. That’s why it’s important to have your bumps checked out by a health care provider. Hemorrhoids, syphilis, skin tags, pearly penile papules, and other conditions can have symptoms that seem like genital warts symptoms. Very rarely, certain skin cancers can also look like genital warts.
Is There a Treatment?
Very often, our bodies fight off the virus. If so, the warts go away with no treatment. That’s why a lot of people choose to just wait for the warts to go away on their own. But you may choose to get genital warts treatments if the warts are uncomfortable, get in the way of sex play, or you don’t like the way they look.
Warts can be removed with various genital warts treatments. Talk with your health care provider to decide which treatment might be best for you.
There are several medicines that can be applied directly to genital warts, depending on where they are located. Some prescription genital warts treatments can be used at home. Other treatments must be applied by your health care provider. Some genital warts treatments can cause discomfort. And some cannot be used during pregnancy.
Genital warts also may be removed by freezing them. This is called cryotherapy. They may be burned off. This is called electrocauterization. Or they may be removed with surgery or with lasers. In some cases, they are treated with injections of interferon, another type of medication.
Like all medications, genital warts treatments have risks and side effects. Your health care provider can explain them to you and help you deal with the side effects of your treatment.
After having genital warts treatment
Keep the area clean.
Don’t scratch the treated area.
Wash your hands after touching the warts.
Avoid sexual contact if it is uncomfortable.
Apply cold compresses to relieve discomfort, or you may take acetaminophen (Tylenol) or ibuprofen (Advil or Motrin).
For most people, the first series of genital warts treatment is successful in removing the warts. But even though the warts go away with treatment, they may return. This is because the treatments can remove the warts, but they don’t cure the virus that causes warts.
For some people, the warts may come back several months after treatment — especially if they smoke cigarettes. And for some people, the warts continue to return, even after long periods of time.
How Are They Spread?
Genital warts are spread by skin-to-skin contact — usually during vaginal, anal, or oral sex play. There is a chance genital warts can be spread even when no warts are visible. Treatment seems to lower the chance of passing the infection to a sex partner.
How Can I Prevent Getting or Spreading Warts?
Get the HPV vaccine. It can protect against the two HPV types that cause 90 percent of all cases of genital warts.
Abstain from sex play that involves skin-to-skin contact.
If you choose to have vaginal or anal intercourse, use condoms every time. They can reduce the risk of genital warts. They are not as effective against HPV as they are against other infections such as chlamydia and HIV. But they greatly reduce the risk of infection. You can use condoms, Sheer Glyde dams, dental dams, or plastic wrap during oral sex to further reduce your risk.
Stop smoking. Smokers may be more likely to develop genital warts than nonsmokers. They are also more likely to have warts recur.
Where Can I Get Checked?
Where Can I Get Treatment?
Staff at your localPlanned Parenthood health center, many other clinics, health departments, and private health care providers can diagnose genital warts and help you get any treatment you may need or want.
Finally, if you see or feel symptoms of HPV or any STD – see a licensed physician immediately. Early detection can prevent many of the side effects of disease.
I’ve always been an indifferent person when it comes to other people’s decisions. Whether you’re gay, straight or in between – as long as you’re a good person you’re okay in my book. I’ve always been curious about the inner workings of people’s minds and feelings; what creates urges and attractions. Sexual orientation is no different; there are many dynamics to the concept. The Transgender community is fascinating to me, so today I begin my quest to share its understanding with the world.
Today, we start with growing up transgendered…
Transgender Danann Tyler
Via Huffington Post:
Krystal Summers, from Laurel, Miss., was once a little girl trapped in a little boy’s body. From the time she was very young, she and those around her knew she was different:
I changed schools when I was in sixth grade. The first day of school, the teacher took the whole class to the bathroom, and you divide up and go to your respective bathrooms. I, of course, went into the boys’ bathroom, and the teacher ran in behind me and told me, “Oh, you’re in the wrong bathroom, you’re in the wrong bathroom.” And it was so embarrassing because all the kids were laughing at me.
The ridicule didn’t stop there, even as Krystal grew older:
The kids used to make fun of me at the swimming pool because I didn’t want to take my shirt off, and all the other little boys would take their shirts off and go swimming. When they would play basketball and they would pick teams, there would be shirts and skins, and I would not want to be on the skins team. And it was just little things like that, and I’ve been put in trash cans, I was shoved against my locker, the name calling, it’s just something I’d never want to relive again.
Krystal grew up in a Southern Baptist family, so she was not optimistic about her family accepting her identity or her transition. She had to wait until she went to college, immediately after high school, in order to properly match her body to her gender:
My parents dropped me off at school at my first apartment, and I went and got my first caboodle, bought a bunch of makeup, and I would just sit around in dresses, and it was just a very happy time in my life.
From then on, Krystal rarely dressed up as a boy, except to see her parents. Once they did find out about Krystal’s transition and her identity as a woman, they were not onboard at all. It took several years of not talking and a few more years of adjusting before they finally started coming around. In the meantime, Krystal started living her life as female full-time:
They’re finally starting to accept me for who I am. And that is just cherry on top of the cake, you know? It’s just awesome.
I truly believe that one is born with his/her sexual orientation built into the DNA; there’s really no choice in the matter. Listening to these stories further solidifies this theory as I continue to understand the lives of others.
The wold would be such a beautiful place if everyone could just love one another…
Ummm, I’m too embarrassed to ask the doctor or anyone, but my clitoris seems a lot bigger than every other girl’s I know. Is my clitoris normal or should I see a doctor? Please answer me ASAP. I’m worried. Thank you so much!
From the Writer’s Desk:You’re not the only one who’s concerned about the way your vadge looks – peep previous awkward questions here.
Dear Reader,
You do not have to worry. Your clitoris may seem or be, in fact, bigger than other girls’ you know. Sometimes, the adrenal glands that produce hormones during fetal development cause a woman to be born with a larger clitoris. However, this doesn’t upset its function, as the purpose of the clitoris is to give pleasure (a clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings — that’s more than a penis!). Nor do any two clitorises look alike. Similar to a penis, the clitoris also varies in size, with a wide range of “normal.” Women’s clitorises can be longer or shorter, thinner or wider, flat/less prominent or more obvious. The tip of the clitoris, known as the glans, may be visible or hidden. During arousal, the clitoris becomes swollen and changes position.
Is my clitoris normal?
You didn’t mention your age in your question, so it’s unclear if you’ve ever been to a health care provider for a gynecological (pelvic) exam. If you haven’t yet, this might be the time. Usually, you meet with the health care provider before you are examined, so you should have a chance to speak with the person first. You can mention your concern to the health care provider, write a note on your history form, or prepare a private note to be handed to her or him before you are examined, that can go something like this: “I am worried about something. This is really embarrassing to bring up. I am concerned about the size of my clitoris. I’m afraid it’s too big.” Chances are your provider will reassure you that it’s within the normal range, and then s/he can address your fears as well as examine your anatomy.
In addition, you may want to peruse the following resources that include illustrations and photographs of the clitoris and vulva before you go to your appointment. The book Sex for Oneby Betty Dodson, the Genital Art Gallery on her website, and the 1978 version of I Am My Lover edited by Joani Blank can work wonders at demystifying, reassuring, and educating both women and men about the variety of sizes, shapes, colors, and parts of women’s inner “hearts.” If you have any more questions about the clitoris, the book, The Clitoral Truth by Rebecca Chalker can also be interesting.
Note: If you feel pain or discomfort due to an enlarged clitoris, do not hesitate to see your gynecologist. He/She has seen hundreds of vaginas, don’t be afraid to show them yours.
Question: How do you explain your monthly cycle to your three year old??
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It all depends on the level of understanding your child has at this age. Developmentally, each child is different. If he/she is present while you are having your menstrual cycle and see the blood themselves, it may be a good idea to talk about it. Let’s make a scenario.
Child: Mommy, I see blood!
Mom:It’s okay [insert your term of endearment here], Mommy is having her period.
Child: What’s a period?
Mom:
Women have a uterus, something like a balloon inside the tummy where babies grow.
Every month, mommy’s uterus changes in case she is going to have a baby.
If no baby is coming, there is blood that comes out. This is called menstruation.
Pads are used to absorb the blood.
Using proper terminology is crucial so as not to confuse the child in any way. While they may not understand every part of the conversation (i.e. the uterus, menstruation word), they need to know the correct anatomy words for later in life.
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Conversation Tips:
Keep your wording simple. “Period” may be a better word to use than “menstruation.”
Go straight to the point. Children lose interest and attention easily, and you want them to get the gist of that conversation.
Don’t get too graphic. Your toddler doesn’t need to see menstrual blood, and viewing a pad is only necessary if they have walked in on you using one. As they get older and more mature, you can introduce new pieces of information.
If they don’t understand right away, that’s fine – give them time to process it and try again at another time. There will be plenty more periods to come.
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cheat as much as men, and now there’s a statistic to back it up. The Wall Street Journal peaked into this issue of infidelity over the weekend and, based on a 2011 study from Indiana University, the Kinsey Institute and the University of Guelph, found the statistical word on cheating is that 23% of men are doing it and 19% of women. So yeah, not much difference.
there would be shirts and skins, and I would not want to be on the skins team. And it was just little things like that, and I’ve been put in trash cans, I was shoved against my locker, the name calling, it’s just something I’d never want to relive again.
