The topic of squirting has been flying around all my social media pages. On Facebook, we debate if it’s pee or not. On Instagram, guys profess their love for the art and on Twitter – it’s a free for all. Today, class – we’re going to do a little experiment. Can you actually squirt?

Before we start the lesson – understand one simple fact; everyone may not be able to achieve this feat. Whether you accidentally pee while trying or continually strive to do it even once – it’s okay to not squirt.

Where Does Squirting Come From?

So far, the general consensus is that female ejaculate comes from the Skene’s gland, located near the urethra. Scientists are still trying to understand the phenomenon, and many say that the gland may not be located inside of every woman (similar to the g-spot).

But, is squirting pee?

The short answer is not quite. I’ll spare you the boring anatomy details, but to date, studies show that the Skene’s gland is located near the urethra. It appears to drain its fluids into the urethra – which is why it is possible to mix with urine. If and when you get the pleasure of squirting, a simple sniff (or taste) test will reveal whether pee was introduced or not. Either way – we’re all grown. If the goal is to squirt, anticipate the possibility of this variable.

So – how do I squirt?

Squirting is not a simple flick of a switch; there are techniques that need to be used for some women. One technique, which tends to be easiest, is done in the missionary position. This gives you or your partner leverage when trying to locate the g-spot, where stimulation often leads to ejaculation (cum). Let’s walk through a few steps, shall we?

1. Prep your environment.

There’s nothing more annoying than sleeping on the wet spot. Consider laying down an extra blanket or a towel before starting your experiment. You/ your partner’s nails should be clean and neatly manicured. I don’t have to tell you what can happen if they aren’t.

2. Use lots of lubrication.

Whether you make your own wetness or use your favorite brand, it is crucial to be very wet for this experiment. I always suggest good quality water based lubricant (unless silicone bases are necessary). Foreplay is very helpful for this part.

3. Lay on your back.

Place one hand on your lower abdomen, right above the vagina. Take the other hand, insert the index and middle finger. Make a slight hook shape with the two fingers.

· Feel for the g-spot (if applicable). It is a spongy, somewhat textured little knob inside the vaginal cavity. It may take some time to stimulate this area, take your time and enjoy yourself.

· Gently, rub the two fingers back and forth over the g-spot, gradually picking up speed and intensity. Wetness should increase or stay slick. I also find that lightly rubbing the clitoris helps accelerate the process.

· As speed and intensity increase, so should sensation. Keep going until you feel the gland puff up/become more firm. This is a great sign that it’s getting blood flow and the nerves are being stimulated.

Pro Tip: if you feel pressure/the urge to pee – keep going. Due to its placement near the urethra, this feeling is normal. If you’re feeling a climax – chances are you are almost there.

Keep rubbing until orgasm – you may feel a release of pressure and slight splash of fluid. If you finish without the splash – allow your body a few hours/days and try again.

· Notes:

• If you pee a little – don’t feel embarrassed. Anatomically, this is normal.
• What you see in porn is not real. Squirting does not equal streams of fluid – that is fully pee.
• At no point should this activity feel painful or uncomfortable. Stop and reposition if it does, and consider adding more lubrication.

Using this method appears to be the most effective in finding and stimulating the correct area, but can be done in other positions, too. Don’t be afraid to switch up and try something else.

Resources:

The Journal of Sexual Medicine 

Princeton University