If you haven’t lived under a rock for the past decade, you may have heard of (or seen) R&B singer R. Kelly’s world famous sex tape, where he immortalized the “Golden Shower.” Many have come across the term in random sex conversation, but how many truly know what it is? Today, we break down the Golden Shower and its true meaning.

Urolagnia, or the Golden Shower.

Urolagnia (also urophilia, undinism, golden shower and watersports) is a form of salirophilia (which is a form of paraphilia) in which sexual excitement is associated with the sight or thought of urine or urination.^[1] The term has origins in the Greek language (from ouron, urine, and lagneia, lust).

The term manifests itself in quite a few different ways. There are individuals who are enticed by the sight or sound of someone else urinating. Some enjoy being urinated on, whether it be in the shower or on a bed. Others, enjoy “peeing” on their partner.   Urolagnia, for example, is used to describe the sexual pleasure one receives when one pees in one’s pants or watches another person wet him or herself.  Another form is uriposia, in which a person derives pleasure from drinking urine.  The taste and smell of urine can actually be different based on what people eat or drink.  The urine of healthy individuals is usually harmless and sterile.

All of these fall under the Urolagnia term, and are actually not as uncommon a fetish as people may think.

Common Variations of Urolagnia:

• Clothes wetting: The person is sexually aroused by wetting one’s clothing or observing another person doing so. Usually that person prefers to stage the wetting so that his/her legs (or other body parts) become soaked with urine. The warm sensation felt when urine trickles on the body seems to give very relaxing and pleasurable feelings to the person. In many cases, that person is also aroused by smelling body parts that have a urine scent. Others get aroused by telling some people about when they lost control and wet themselves. Some prefer a particular type of clothing to urinate.
  
• Exhibitionism: Becoming noticeably desperate or wetting oneself with the express purpose of being seen by strangers. Practitioners have described going to public places such as a mall or a park. Some intend to create situations where others can see their wet clothing.
• Human urinal: An act common in the bondage sex community where a male or female slave will serve as a urinal for a dominant partner. The slave is usually strictly forbidden from placing their lips directly on the body of the dominant so the practice routinely involves them receiving much of the spray all over their face, hair and body.
• Omorashi:  The act of holding one’s own urine until the need to urinate is urgent, making another hold in their urine, or watching another person with an urgent need to urinate. This fetish sometimes originates from childhood memories of being or of seeing another needing to urinate. Arousal may be triggered by seeing the body movements or facial expressions of that person. It can also be heightened by the person saying that they have to urinate. The arousal from being desperate comes from the sensation of having a full bladder.
• Pussing:  British expression for an activity involving a consenting couple where the male partner watches the woman urinate otherwise undetected in a semi-public place, usually a toilet cubicle at a pub, hotel, restaurant, theatre/cinema, office, club etc. The strategies and tactics that are used to smuggle one of the couple into and out of the toilet undetected are as important or almost as important as the urination. The activity is done by itself or as a part of or prelude to other activities which many times involve sex.^{[citation needed]}
• Voyeurism: Seeing another urinate without the person’s knowledge either through video taping by a hidden camera, or by lurking in locations where people are urinating or are likely to have an urge to urinate.

 If you still feel like a weirdo – consider this. There are a few notable individuals who have openly admitted to enjoying Golden Showers, including (but not limited to); R. Kelly, Ricky Martin and British Sexologist Havelock Ellis. You are not alone, and if your partner agrees to the activity – then there is nothing to worry about. Be sure to practice safe pee, however; if you know or feel you may be infected with an STD – seek the treatment of a medical professional. 

Resources:

http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/urophilia

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