Suck It!

By a show of hands, who saw the Kim K and Ray J sex tape?  Now outside the fact that she’s pretty, were any of you turned on at the sight of her sucking Ray J’s dick? Well here’s why:

The key to giving good head is first of all “Loving” what you do.  You can’t please your mate sexually, if you don’t put yourself first. You have to be comfortable with your sexuality and sexual antics.  If you’re giving head to please him, you’re not going to do it to your best potential. You have to love giving it and I mean love without a shadow of a doubt. Like it has to be your shit!  Also, the man your pleasing has to be confident with himself and he also has to be respectful of you and your body.  If he doesn’t make you feel good physically, mentally or emotionally there is no way this can come out right unless you just outsource that mouth to everybody and could care less who dick your sucking.

Now for those who don’t really like giving head, I’m not sure what the cure for that is. But for those of you who do, but can’t get past the feeling you get when you catch him looking at you, here is what you need to know. Appearing to be attractive when giving head is not a turn on for men. The uglier you are when giving head, the more attractive and sexier you are to him.  When you’re “ugly” on the dick, it suggests that you are most likely gagging, veins are popping out of your head, your eyes are watering, your nose is running and spit is dripping down his dick, your lips and chin. That is one ugly beautiful mess! It is also the sign of a woman who is confident in her skills and could care less about how she looks. She’s too busy working the dick.

Another thing, when you’re giving head, you have to be real about what your sucking. It’s a dick. It’s not a penis, a thing, a rod, a pee-pee. It is a dick. Say the word, “dick.” Feel sexual, nasty, dirty, and confident and be able to say the word dick before you can even think about putting one in your mouth. Dick, it’s a dick. You are going to suck this man’s dick. You’re not going to give head, say it, “I am going to suck his dick.” Dick, dick, dick, I am going to suck his dick. Know it and own it! I am going to suck his dick. There is a confidence and a cockiness that comes with the act and art of giving head. You have to be blunt in your thoughts and actions. Giving head is mental. Pun intended. So own it before you even attempt to give head to a man head. The worse reaction to giving head is having a man tell you, “forget it baby you don’t have to do that.” OUCH! That means, “You can’t suck a dick.” And that shit is worse feeling than getting fired from a job when you just moved into your new apartment. It’s okay if you’re a beginner, so long as you’re confident and willing to learn you’ll be great in no time! The first step is to be comfortable with your sexuality and with your mate.  Your mate also has to love getting his dick sucked.  Now I know it’s unheard of, but some men can take it or leave it when it comes to receiving head. Yeah I know I know, what planet are they from?  But sometimes it’s because this man hasn’t had his dick sucked the right way. There is an intimate are to giving head. You really have to black out and become one with the dick and in that moment that you’re pleasing this man orally, nothing else should matter. That dick is not even attached to a body at this point. It is just you, the dick and all of your nasty tricks. But if you’re not comfortable doing it, imagine how the man feels receiving it!

Also, you have to learn the dick and the sensitive areas. Ask your male friends or your mate, “What do men like when a woman is giving head” and get answers! Don’t be shy!!! There are certain areas of the dick that needs special attention. It’s not just about putting it in your mouth and gagging on it. There is an art to sucking dick.

For example, under the “head” or the “rim” there are lots of nerves under there. You want to make sure you pay attention to the head of that dick. While jerking him, playing this his testicles, your mouth should be very wet, your lips should be wrapped around the head and your tongue should be gracing under that rim awakening the nerves.  The saliva from your mouth should prove as lubrication while you’re gliding your hands up and down and around his shaft.  The key is to keep the dick busy and wet at all times when giving head.  When you deep throat, it should bring up a very thick mucus from the back of your throat. Don’t be grossed out or afraid of this. Let as much as possible come out and let it drip down his shaft and fall where it may. Let it hang, let it be messy, let it be wet, gushy and sloppy!!! Your eyes are running, your nose is running, you’re feeling like you must look really ridiculous. And that’s where you’re fucking up at! You shouldn’t be thinking about how you look, you should be thinking about how great this man is feeling because you are giving him some sloppy ass head! It’ll be messy, your face will be a wet mess but trust me, and your man is feeling absolutely INSANE at this point. This mucus is the key to giving good head as well.  Not only does it make the appearance of his dick look sexy but it makes everything slippery for when you’re jerking him and sucking him.  You want him to look down at you like you’re the scum of the earth, that is the key! You want him to have his fist balled up ready to knock your head off because it’s so good, and don’t move off of it until he’s ready to cum or he’s ready to fuck. Period!

Giving head is not just about having his dick in your mouth though ladies. You have to be like an octopus when you’re sucking dick. You have to multi-task! This man has balls that you have to kiss, suck, lick gently (while still rubbing, caressing and/or jerking his dick to keep him aroused), he has inner thighs that you should give some attention to (while still jerking, caressing etc.) and then you can work your way down to this little area between his ass and his nuts called a “Taint.”

Now most men don’t even know that he has one and why? Because the chick that’s giving him head really isn’t in tune with the male anatomy and she’s most likely giving head to please the man and not herself. When giving great head, even the most Alpha male will turned into a bitch and allow you to pleasure areas of his body that he thought he’d never allow a woman to touch, hence the taint. In order to gain access to the taint, the man has to lift his legs and possibly spread them just a little in order for the female to pleasure him in that area. The taint is equivalent to the gristle or that skinny but tasty part on the chinese chicken wings in the hood. Aint much meat on it but it brings us such delight when sucking on it doesn’t it?  Ladies once he lets you get that taint just know that there is nothing in this world he won’t do in bed so use that power to your advantage! If you’re really good and he has a long dick, he just might be able to get him on all fours so that you can suck his dick from the back. Oh my!!!!

Overall, there is nothing wrong with giving head. If you love it then do it and have fun with it! Always remember the nastier and sloppier you do it the better! Lose the shy girl role and become one with the dick! If you’re ashamed and don’t really like giving head then don’t do it! It ain’t for everybody! Take the zero for not showing up instead of the F for showing up and failing!

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