The Weeknd Thursday – Are You His Thursday Girl?
In this podcast, we’re chatting quickly about The Weeknd’s super popular underground song “Thursday,” and the meaning behind being that girl. If you’ve been side-eyeing your lover lately, this post is for you…
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My Thursday Girl Story…
I was on the rebound. My ex and I had broken up for the last damn time, and I had been experiencing a serious dry spell. When you’re a hopeless romantic like me, there’s only so long you can usually go before the loneliness sets in. I tried dating guys that approached me on the street or at the mall, and failed miserably. When you spend most of your life being someone’s girlfriend, you kind of forget how to date and be single. It was a sad sight to see.
This guy was a mutual friend of one of my good friends, and seemed like a good guy. He lived out of town, but I’m no stranger to long distance relationships (my ex lived in New York). We’d Skype, text, and chat on the phone – but he couldn’t talk much because he was working a lot. Or so I thought.
When I’d go OT to see him, I’d always get put up in a nice hotel room because he was going to be at work and I could utilize the gym and other amenities without needing a car to get me around. Once again, so I thought. We did this for a while, and finally he told me that he had a girlfriend. A live-in girlfriend.
Go figure.
Now, things came into perspective. I thought that we could only see each other on certain days because of his days off – but it was because of her days off. I felt like an idiot for months when I realize how I got suckered into being a side piece. Then, I resolved to stop dating for a while and spend time focusing on myself.
The moral of this story is – pay attention. When you realize that you’re not getting the attention you deserve – it’s time to pack up and move the show on the road. Of course, you give benefit of the doubt and discuss the issue with this potential beau before ending things. However, if you are feeling misled – chances are you are being misled. It is easy to ignore the telltale signs until you’re caught up in a situationship and don’t know how to get out. Or – you can be wise and get out before titles get thrown around.
Now, I’m no relationship coach – but the likelihood of contracting a sexually transmitted disease increases with the amount of partners you are sharing with this individual. Unprotected sex is a surefire way to catch an STD, and condoms don’t protect from every single communicable disease. Being with someone who wants to be with you exclusively can minimize your risk of infection – even if there’s no boyfriend or girlfriend title.
We have to protect ourselves – I hope my story can be of assistance to you. Today’s a perfect day to make sure your next Thursday is better.
Be safe. Be smart.
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I like that you added in info about sexually transmitted diseases, Kimani. That’s not something people often think about when “sharing” their partner. Great post. Thanks for the shout out.
Thank you! Disease is something we really need to take into consideration these days – the likelihood of getting it increases so much when we “share.” Thank you for being awesome!
Wow this piece is great!! I thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s so strange but I recently found myself in a verryyy similar situation. I never thought I would find myself in a situation like that, but there I was. I finally listened to my intuitions and ended things. It was honestly a hard decision, but a great one. I’m also taking some time out from dating. Thanks again for sharing, it feels good knowing I’m not alone in this unfortunate dating experience. <33 The moral of your story is key – when you realize you're not getting the attention you deserve, it's time to move on. I am determined to find someone who matches my effort. You will find your someone too!! Let's stop accepting less than we deserve!! Cheers to self-love and a bright future! =D
Trust me – you’re never alone on the things you go through. Sometimes I have to share my experiences to help others understand that life happens to everyone. It’s up to us once we are awakened to take the right route. I’m glad you caught on before it was too late, love will find you just like it found me!