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Anal Sex: Secrets to a Comfortable Experience

Posted August 4, 2014 by Kimani in Love. Life. Erotica.

Hey guys – if you’re tuning in from my previous post, you heard me discussing my first time trying anal sex. Yes, this is a taboo topic, but I want to make sure my Vadgesters are out there exploring in the safest ways possible. Here are my tips for a more comfortable anal experience.


1. Relax. 

The worst thing you can do while attempting anal intercourse is tense up. The anal sphincter is an involuntary muscle that is designed for exit (not entry), so it requires relaxation for enjoyment. Breathe in deep through your nose, exhale deeply through your mouth. All the air should make your stomach expand and contract as you breathe (from your diaphragm), and you’ll notice your butt loosen up a bit.

2. Use Condoms

Condoms have their own lubricant, so adding a water based lube to that can help eliminate the friction that can be caused from skin to skin contact. The anus does not produce its own wetness quite as the vagina does, so consider a condom for extra help.  Also, if you happen to have an “accident,” It makes for easier cleanup and less awkward moments with your partner.

3. Lube, lube, lube!!

Just like your engine can’t run smoothly without oil, neither can your anus. A water-based lubricant used in conjunction with a condom will definitely do the trick. If you choose a silicone-based lube, it will not work with condoms as it breaks down the material and may break.

4. Enema of the State

I just needed to use that title. Taking an enema an hour before anal sex is a great way to make sure you avoid my horror story. Enemas work by flushing out the rectal cavity of any excrement (poop) that may still be sitting around. Be sure to follow the directions on the box before using.


**Bonus**: Try getting used to anal penetration with an anal plug/gauge.

The Love Below Anal Pacifier


I hope these tips help you on your exploration journey in the bedroom. Feel free to search “anal” for any other related stories and posts that I’ve written on the topic. As usual, if you have any questions – I’m always available at

About the Author


A NY transplant in Florida, Kimani has taken on the task of educating the world on sexual health and education. The Mount Vernon native has seen AIDS and HIV spread through her community like wildfire, and hopes to cease the transmission of these and other diseases one person at a time. If you know better, you're inclined to do better.

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