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Pornhub Cares Kicks Off New ‘Save the Boobs’ Campaign to Support Breast Cancer Awareness

Adult Site Announces Return of Breast Cancer Fundraising Initiative to Donate 1 Cent for Every 30 Videos Viewed

The funny thing about Pornhub, is that they are actually a balanced porn site. It’s not all about advertisements and taking your money; they know that their customers are more than credit card numbers. We – I mean, they are humans with feelings and real concerns. The Pornhub Cares team has been great with addressing health causes that affect the sex lives of many, I’m proud to team up with them and share the “Save the Boobs” campaign. Remember Charlotte Stokely and Save the Balls?

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New York, NY (October 1, 2015) – Today, Pornhub, the premier online destination for adult entertainment, officially announced the return of their Save the Boobs campaign under their new Pornhub Cares philanthropic division. The campaign, which will conceptually mirror its previous iteration, is seeking clicks and video views from users around the globe in their ‘Big Tits’ and ‘Small Tits’ categories to raise funds for breast cancer research. Pornhub will be donating – to a yet unnamed charity – 1 cent for every 30 views in the aforementioned categories.

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At this very second – over 14 million people have watched boob videos.

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For this go-round, Pornhub has commissioned adult actress, and former Penthouse Pet of the Month, Dani Daniels to act as the face of the campaign, as well as an educator to those who visit the campaign’s landing page. There, viewers are encouraged to watch an instructional video where Daniels carefully explains the correct steps to administer a breast self exam as a preventative measure for detecting a potential breast cancer diagnosis.

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In the past two minutes, boob views have grown to 17 million!

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“We’re very excited to be bringing back the ‘Save the Boobs’ campaign, especially given the success it saw during its previous iterations,” said Corey Price, Vice President, Pornhub. “Our efforts yielded a sizeable donation that our recipient charities were able to genuinely use for a good cause. Supporting breast cancer research is something that we care deeply about, and we know our users feel the same way. With their help we can continue our fight against breast cancer in a fun, but positive way.”

To contribute to the cause, simply visit the landing page on the Pornhub Cares page and follow the prompts, or head to the ‘categories’ tab on Pornhub.com’s home page and browse videos from “Small Tits” or “Big Tits” groupings. The ‘Save the Boobs’ page will keep track of the total unique visits for the month, and can be viewed in real time on the aforementioned landing page.

Oh! Don’t forget to watch Pornhub cutie Dani Daniels as she gives a hands-on demonstration on self-examination. This is nothing like the drawings at your Dr.’s office.

For more information, please visit the ‘Save the Boobs’ page on Pornhub Cares at www.pornhub.com/cares/save-the-boobs

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About Pornhub:

Founded in 2007, Pornhub is the leading free, ad-supported adult video streaming website, offering viewers the opportunity to upload and share their own videos. With over 3 million videos and over 60 million visitors a day, Pornhub truly is the best adult site in the world. Pornhub has built the largest dedicated membership base in the adult community, with over 4 million engaged and loyal members, offering viewers a fun and sophisticated social experience directly in site, complete with messaging, photos, achievement badges and much more.

Amber Rose + Say It With a Condom…

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[Don’t] Wanna Have Sex? Say It With a Condom…

Nowadays, there are people cruising the dating scenes trying to find victims to prey on. Seeing a woman smile or show even remote interest could trigger such individuals to think sex is in their future. Unfortunately, it is  becoming the norm for those same people (I call them creeps) to use body language and flirtations as an excuse to invite themselves into a man or woman’s personal space.

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Luckily, there are innovative brands like “Say It With A Condom” who are working diligently to put power back into the hands (and pockets, and purses) of men and women everywhere. Their eye-catching condom covers send strong, yet cheeky messages that indicate yes or no to sex.

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So, what exactly is Say It With A Condom all about?

” During the 2008 United States Presidential Election, entrepreneur Benjamin Sherman had an idea to create funny condoms lampooning the campaigns of Barack Obama and John McCain. He sold them with the slogan, “Remember the election with your next erection.” After selling over one million political condoms as Practice Safe Policy, it was decided a name change was needed to allow the business to expand into other markets. And so, Say It With A Condom was launched in early 2012.

As Say It With A Condom, we work with everyone from individuals looking for funny gag gifts and memorable party favors, to college organizations promoting events, parties and Rush Week. We develop safe sex and awareness campaigns for non-profits as well as state and local governments. We design marketing tools for clients in every industry–music, film, commercial, manufacturing–who come to us to create specialized give-aways to promote their brand, product, service, or event. If you have a message, we can help you Say It With A Condom.”

As a fellow New Yorker, it brings me pride to see a small business flourish into what SWAC has become, and is still becoming. It’s so important to the sex health world to have companies that not only catch the eye, but send a real and direct message. People don’t realize how crucial condoms are in a world where disease and unplanned pregnancy happen more than they truly should.

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Even Amber Rose Loves Say It With A Condom.

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In an effort to bring awareness to “slut shaming,” Vixen Amber Rose has partnered with SWAC to create condom covers that highlight some of the common ways women are made to be ashamed of their sexualities, or lack thereof. They’re even running a contest for best design – check it out and enter!

If you could make your own condom – what would it say?

Resources:

Say It With A Condom

She Loves God

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By Charlie L’Strange for VForVadge

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“She loves God, she loves people, she loves her work, and she will not betray any of those three,”

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These are the words used to describe Kim Davis, the Kentucky clerk who refused to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples. She was recently released from jail after serving only six days in jail. She after her release, she was greeted by a number of supporters who held up white crosses and cheered as she stood on stage. The issue with this scene is that many people, Christian or otherwise who support folks like Kim Davis forget the real issue. It is not that she doesn’t believe that same-sex couples should have the right to marry that is the issue, but that she, as an employee of the state of Kentucky has not done what she is paid and has sworn to do. Regardless of her religious beliefs, her jobs is one that is meant to serve the people of Kentucky. Her job, that she has agreed to do to the best of her ability is to issue marriage licenses to those who, by law, have the right to marry in the state of Kentucky. Please do not misunderstand me, she also has complete right to have her own set of beliefs and to practice her religion. She is a person and has that right as does everyone. But when you voluntarily choose to be a part of an institution that may change its rules, you have one of two choices, go with the flow or quit. Her choices are very much Black and White.

For those of you who may disagree, think of it as the current state of affairs in the Black Lives Matter Movement. The issue isn’t simply about the war on black bodies, but also that police officers of all colors and creeds are NOT doing their jobs as it has been described and are abusing the power that they are given by the very people they are meant to serve. “To serve and protect”, there are no other words that follow that statement because they are to serve and protect the public and the people of the city and state. For Ms. Davis to be described as someone who “loves the people and her work” is a direct contradiction to her actions. Loving people means all people as there hasn’t been any specifications. Loving her work also hasn’t set any specifications as well. This should also remind folks of when a number of immigrants went through the same issue of state workers refusing to issue official documents because they did not want immigrants to have the same rights as other folks.

Lets be clear, your belief systems have no real place in the workplace. When you agree to do a job that requires you to serve the people and general public, you have a duty to do just that. If at any point you feel incapable of upholding those standards, you are equally free to dismiss yourself from the position. It is very wrong that Ms. Davis may be allowed to regain her position as a clerk as it seems like she feels as though, from the response to her release, that she is doing the work of God. Unfortunately for her and many other, this is not the truth and if more people like her are allowed to “serve the people” and claim that her actions are due to her “love of God”, we are in deeper trouble than many of us care to admit.

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This is Charlie.

OVER & OUT.

Take off That Faja and Breathe, Girl.

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Take Off That Faja and Breathe…

It may seem like a new wave in body transformation, but faja’s (pronounced faa-haa in Spanish) have been around since women started having waists. [Insert brief history]. Growing up with Latina women, I saw first-hand how an unreal perception of beauty could influence how my elders viewed themselves. Wanting that hourglass figure had many passing out from inability to eat – or even breathe. In these past few years, we have seen “waist training” become such a popular trend amongst women of all ages; searching for a quick weight loss method that they would be proud to brag about. Many have had weight loss success; as it restricts the stomach’s ability to expand, thus “regulating” eating habits. They are incredible when bouncing back from child birth and help hold the abdominal muscles in place post c-section.

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Me (pumping milk at work)- four months postpartum wearing a compression shaper.

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However – is the faja becoming a crutch for some? It pains me to see women stuffed in corsets as they stomp down the street with that well-known grimace of discomfort. Much worse, there are women who eat poorly and use the trainer as a way to hold in their stomachs with no intentions of changing their health habits (or lack thereof). There are side effects that aren’t advertised; like potential fatigue, airway constriction and heartburn that can result in acid reflux. Cheaply made steel-boning waist trainers can cause back and abdominal bruising on and under the skin. Not to mention the ego and emotional effects when one removes a faja to get intimate and no longer holds the perfect shape of minutes before.

The faja then becomes a permanent fixture in the daily lives of many women. They become obsessed with the thought of looking like an Instagram model, or one of Taz’s perfectly shaped angels. Many starve themselves, while others choose to wear the garments day in and day out. Throw in a pair of butt-lifting shorts, and you have the perfect recipe for body dysmorphic disorder.

It’s so easy to fall into the trap of perfection – how does a woman avoid it all?

[tweetthis]First, take off the faja and breathe.[/tweetthis]

Remind yourself of what comfort feels like. Deeply inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth. You are free.

Once you liberate yourself, get as naked as you can and spend a few hours like this. Regain and maintain comfort within your own skin; remembering that becoming your ideal you is a marathon – not a sprint.

Set a schedule for wearing your trainer. It doesn’t need to be on all day, and you certainly should not be sleeping with it.

If you want to see fast-er results, work towards a healthier overall lifestyle. Try adding a few days of physical activity (30 minutes of sex actually counts) and increasing your fruit and veggie intake. Drinking lots of water helps flush toxins as well.

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Read: Sex, Fitness and You…

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Lastly – beware of fads. Try to research anything that promises fast results and make sure that it’s safe. If it sounds too good to be true – it probably is.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a little pudge when you’re working towards a goal. Even atheletes have quirks about them that they would like to change. If Serena Williams is working on improving herself, I definitely have the patience to do the same.

In a 2009 LA Times article, writer Chuck Culpepper quotes Serena stating:

“Actually, I suffer a little bit from LSE (Low Self-Esteem),” she said. “I’m a little insecure and I’m working on it. . . . A lot of females that are in a position where they’re really successful might just go home and be a little insecure.”

Now, have you looked at Serena lately? Ever? If she has insecurities, it’s safe to say that working on a part of ourselves that we don’t like is normal. Did wearing the faja/waist trainer work for me? Yes. I also went to the gym once I got clearance, walked with the baby outside and ate properly. [tweetthis]There is no reward without sacrifice.[/tweetthis]

[tweetthis]There’s no use in secretly killing ourselves to impress individuals who are secretly killing themselves to impress us…[/tweetthis].

So please, take off that faja and breathe a little.

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Are there any cultural quirks that have shaped your thoughts about what’s sexy? Share with us in the comments! 

Raising a Multicultural Family

This post is in collaboration with jenniferpriest.com as part of a multi-cultural blogger exploration facilitated by Alt Summit, Latina Bloggers Connect, and Blogalicious. We decided to talk about our experiences with race, being that we are both multi-cultural people raising up multi-cultural families. 

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Love Bud Play Set Giveaway

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Building Romance in the Bedroom with Dr. Kat Van Kirk

It may seem self-explanatory, but building romance isn’t as easy for some couples as it is for others. So, how do you do it?

Check out Dr. Kat’s expert tips and give us yours to win a Love Bud Play Set by Adam & Eve!

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Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a licensed marriage and sex therapist and resident sex expert for www.AdamandEve.com offers sound advice to help (re)kindle that flame in the bedroom…

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  • Learn to become opportunists when it comes for sex. Too many couples wait for the stars to align for the perfect tryst and then it never happens due to hectic schedules. Prioritize sex by getting it in whenever you can.

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  • Remove the expectation of orgasm each time. Learning to focus on sensation and enjoying the multitude of benefits from sex can help you build arousal and not be focused on “getting it done.

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  • Do something, anything different. Research by the Gottman Institute suggests that those sexual relationships that maintain spontaneity in their relationships last longer with higher levels of satisfaction. Anything from having sex on the other side of the bed or a quick hand job in the car while you are in the garage to trying new toys like the Adam & Eve Butterfly Couples Ring can accomplish this.

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  • Put down the screens. Screens and technology tend to take up an inordinate amount of time. It can make us less present in our relationships and therefore less likely to have sex. Learn to put your phone down by dinnertime each night and never bring it into bed with you.
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  • Renew the flirting in your relationship. Remember that flirting can be a fun and important component to your relationship. Responsible sexting, for example, can up the anticipation of when you are finally together. Or, decide to get sensual versus sexual. Enjoy some relaxation time with massage oils and candles.

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About Dr. Kat:

 

Dr. Kat Van Kirk

“Here’s my deal…I am a wife, mother and marriage, family and sex therapist. Each of those aspects helps define me but just like you, there’s so much more to me that is irreverent and quirky (OK, maybe not as quirky as Zooey Deschanel, but still). I enjoy a good cocktail, theatre, a good book, bawdy humor, creative ways in which to live life, meditation, yoga, Piyo, boot camp, surfing, “I love yous” from my two sprite like daughters and having a fantastic session in the sack with my hot, fantastic husband.”

Read more about Dr. Kat Here…

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American Sex Ed and Island Cultures – Raising Multicultural Families #coLab2015

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American Sex Ed and Island Cultures

I am a first-generation American. My parents got their citizenships when I was in High School, I believe. Growing up with Island parents, the stereotype was always that sex would never be a topic of discussion. Even living in America, with the sometimes-y level of sex education we were taught at school – most of my peers’ lessons were learned in the streets.

Just don’t do it. Or you’ll get pregnant. 

Fortunately for me, I had a very honest and open mom. She was slow to anger, never judged me for my decisions and made sure the channels were open for communication. We’d sit home in the evenings and watch Maury (an age-old talk show you kids probably don’t know about), and she’d ask me my thoughts on being pregnant as a teen. How I’d feel if I had a baby and the father didn’t want it – or me. Those kinds of conversations put sex into perspective for me. I was equipped to not have it unless I knew I was ready. Even though I didn’t quite wait until I was ready – but that’s another story.

When I looked around at my friends, however – they weren’t having those conversations with their parents. They weren’t talking about sex at all. In fact – they were talking about sex with me instead. It then became my duty to educate my peers on the truths about sex. I think I’ll debunk some myths later on today…

Anywhoo – this got me to thinking. What is sex education like to my other friends who have Carib/Island/Foreign/Older parents? I decided to poll them – which I love oh so much to do.

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Jamaica:

I started with myself: 

“Both my parents were raised in Jamaica. My father never talked to me about sex until he found out I lost my virginity. He thought making me uncomfortable was the best way to keep me away from sexual activity. My mom was more open, and made sure we had casual conversation about sex; we even watched Maury together so I could see what it’s like to be a thotty baby mama. She made me knowledgeable and unafraid to say no – or yes.”

C.C. – “My mom never talked about sex.Everything I learned about sex, I read about it in books…

My mom taught me nothing about sex, or my body or feelings or boys or nothing… Everything I learned was from reading books & listening to other Ppl … My Aunt told me about my period, so I wasn’t frightened when I got it… I read up more about it on my own… Funny this is, my mom was a registered nurse, you would think she’d be OK talking to us… Mind you, she had 5 girls…

When I got pregnant, I didn’t tell my mom either… Again, I turned to books to diagnose my symptoms… My mom didn’t know I was prego until the 7th month… She just thought I was fat.. I was chunky anyway.”

A.H. – Jamaican parents.

Father: When I got my period at 11, my mother wasn’t home, so he told me to go to the bathroom and wash up. When I came out, he said, “you’re a woman now, you can get pregnant and have kids”. He didn’t say “how” I’d get pregnant. That
was the end of that.

Mother: “I don’t want nuh B.O.Y. inna mi house, mi nuh want nuh B.O.Y. ah call mi phone!”

That was the jist of sex education. They were super religious. Very restrictive. Going to Catholic school didn’t help either. I had so much GUILT!

My first sexual encounter was at 12.

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Trinidad:

Kat:  My mom, Trini, was very sheltered growing up & she didn’t want the same for me. I dont think she knew how to approach the subject, so she bought me a book about sex & reproduction when I was around 11.
It was based on Christian values. She always encouraged & answered any questions that I had, while preaching abstinence. LoL. It worked until I was almost 19.”

Vic: lmaoooo may her soul RIP , granny used to tell us when we were kids… if a boy touches you, you will get preganant. So don’t let any boy touch you!

I remember maybe two weeks after a boy in school, back home.. touched my shoulder. I came home in dre
adful tears ” im pregnant”. She sat me down quick, what do you mean.. i relayed the same thing she told me and said he touched my shoulder… myy granny laughed so jolly….

But my mother, spoke to us not in a way to scare us, but explained and dicussed. My mom has always beena great teacher… mommy and I talk about everything

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Haiti: 

Y: Sex….I learned that all on my own. It was never talked about. I also learned about my menstrual on my own. Sadly but island folks are the worst when it comes to educating their kids bout sex.

 I use to touch myself from young. Got beat all the time for it.

Haitian folks are the worst..smh. i learned about sex from movies, friends and porn.

Steve: Haiti. They didn’t tell me anything about it. My father did constantly tell me stories of coworker’s children that seemed to ruin their lives after getting someone pregnant.  I figured sex was taboo since they never talked about it. I stole my cousin’s porno tapes and bought nudie magazines. Great but shocking stuff to me.

Mimi: Both parents are from Haiti and they never sat down with me to talk about sex. Neither did my siblings, they were too busy. I learned from movies, porn and friends.

Hyp: Haitian my mother gave me the talk when I was 8, I knew about gays, sexual intercourse , molestation etc. My mother was on her own as a child so she wasn’t pampered so she made sure I wasn’t either.

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St. Croix:

Dame: I Grew Up with a mix of street/porn/older male cousins and RN’s in my family.
I learned the facts. And all the myths.

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Panama: 

Riss: My paw paw told me that when a boy touches me it is going to feel nice…but don’t worry about those things until I finish school…mammie didn’t tell me much…i figured things out on my own…using the mirror…watching porn…reading Anais Nin novels…and sex ed in school…didnt help that I went through puberty at 8 either.

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Mixed Ethnicity:

Dee: Pops is French Canadian/ Haitian moms from the south. My folks were rigid explained sex and relationships early *pre-teen. Won’t tell a story. To keep it simple my pops told me never mind woman make something of yourself first. Woman ain’t going no where. He taught me to think with my mind and not my dick. No unwanted pregnancies no woman drama in my life.

Drew: Well my father is from St Kitts and my mother is from Antigua …… My father never mention a word about sex to me…… I really never ask nor why he never talk about it. My mother waited until I was in college to say anything and the only thing was said was here (hand me condoms) and travel and live your life before you have a child ……. I learn by school (sex ed) and listen to my friends. Also watching all the mistakes my friends went thru so that I can avoid making …

S.C.: There was none in my house. I didnt even get the birds and bees talk after getting my period. I got abag of pads. And later on false accusations that I was [having sex], lol. I learned from BET Uncut, friends and self experience.

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America:

N.W.: From [America] and my parents were open about it. My dad was a P.E. and Health teacher. Plus momma started out when I was young on adults not to inappropriately touch my sister and I. Then my dad being open about his sexual experiences as well.

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Trina: This might freak some people out (it has in the past but I remember other little fast asses like me so I can’t be the only one)… but I remember being like 6 and masturbating, having friends over, boys and girls, and playing “doctor”… one time I got caught with a boy at age 5, before I was really sexualizing it, and it was cute and funny to my mom.. the next time I was 6 and it was with a girl and my mom flipped out.

We weren’t naked or anything, just playing “shine the flashlight down our pants”… I remember my parents, as much of “hippies” that they were, and memories of my mom walking around naked, my mom was a huge prude. If there was nudity on tv or sexuality she’d leave the room. She beleaguered the lesbians she worked with at home, talking about the “lewd” comments they made. It wasn’t her fault.

She was raised in a very puritan household, with a German/French mother and an Italian father from the Bronx. My mom suffers bi polar disorder and it really started showing when I was 7 or 8, and starting to really masturbate like a fiend. At age 13 she ransacked my room and found condoms, my dads playboys, a few drawings I did and from then on there was a “search” of my room every few weeks. This didn’t stop me from being a little sex addict.

I was super confused by my attraction to women and would draw them in pretty graphic sex scenarios and when my mom found that she would make me sleep with the lights on, take baths with the door open. It got progressively worse as I got older. Oddly enough I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 18. I was raped by 4 guys along with another girl on a trip to DC at 14…. I remember her saying it was my fault over and over. I don’t count that as losing my virginity.

After I lost it at 18 I ran around and slept with any and everyone until about age 25… that’s when I got married, and, oddly enough, that’s when I started stripping. I was the only stripper that was married, didn’t cheat, didn’t do private shows and didn’t do champagne rooms that I met. It was the most sexually liberating period of my life because I felt I had total control. I could walk in a club and assume this personality (“Sasha” – pre-Beyonce) and own the place. If there was another Sasha, I insisted she change her name, even if she was there before me.

AND.. odder than that, I was living with my parents for 6 of those months and they never caught on. My mom even washed my outfits once thinking I worked at some fancy cocktail bar and just wore crazy underwear…. I swear….

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So – there you have it. Different walks of life, different ethnic parental backgrounds – similar stories.

It reminds me of why my job is so important. There are young people out there with no one to get credible information from. It’s up to sex health educators like myself to ensure comfortable, safe outlets for their questions and concerns. Curiosity doesn’t always kill the cat – but it usually gets her pregnant.

What was sex education like in your household? Feel free to join in the conversation below – no need to use your real name (unless you want t0).

Big thanks to all my friends who shared with us today.

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Read “WHY I GET UPSET WHEN MY DAUGHTER SAYS SHE IS “BLACK””

Raising a Multicultural Family

This post is in collaboration with jenniferpriest.com as part of a multi-cultural blogger exploration facilitated by Alt Summit, Latina Bloggers Connect, and Blogalicious. We decided to talk about our experiences with race, being that we are both multi-cultural people raising up multi-cultural families. 

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Sexy, Affordable Getaways – Little River Inn

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Sexy, Affordable Getaways – Little River Inn

In the day to day grind, even the most well-balanced individual needs a break. Travel commercials litter the televisions and billboards, but they are expensive! As a business professional and traveler, I find joy in discovering quality, beautiful vacation spots that won’t break the bank. Today, we’ll take a look at the Little River Inn and its great amenities. I’m sure you’ll fall in love…

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Aesthetics:

First, I like the “home away from home” vibe that I get from Little River Inn; it makes me feel welcome just by looking at the photos. The building looks well-kept, the furniture is modern yet gives a comfortable vibe, as if you’re visiting a favorite family member. The views, however – look amazing and are perfect for a romantic getaway with your partner.

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I mean – look out that window! Can you imagine waking up there next to your lover? I can.

Actually, I can picture myself waking up here alone, too. This makes a great Mommy’s Getaway location – think about grabbing a few girlfriends and running away for the weekend instead. There are weekend packages available to cater to your relaxation needs.

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The Vibe:

While relaxing at the in-house bar (Ole’s Whale Watch Bar), you can still enjoy the beautiful view. I dream of the quiet crash of waves while I enjoy cute conversation and the lull of ocean sounds. Mendocino looks like a beautiful place and I am so eager to get there and experience it. Little River Inn has definitely piqued my interest in California even more.

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The view is just – amazing.

Amenities:

This place is luxuriously filled with packages to suit your needs. I looked at each special to find one that sounds like a great fit for myself and hubby. There will be no children on this trip, so the Luxury Spa Package was my first choice. It includes two nights and an ocean view. Add some wine to this and I am in heaven. Did I mention the price for two is crazy good? I can’t even say it here, I feel like it may disappear!

So, if you’re looking to do some quick traveling and take a break from the mundane – check out Little River Inn. Find some cheap airline tickets and get yourself to Mendocino for a few days of rest, romance and relaxation.

For More Information – check out Little River Inn’s website.

Threesomes; Is Your Relationship Ready?

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How to Know if Your Relationship is Ready for a Threesome

by Dr. Yvonka De Ridder

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Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies every couple has at one time or another. I am happy to say that it is 99.9% normal. But the idea of sharing your partner with a stranger or even a friend can elicit many confusing feelings if you haven’t thought it through or talked it through properly.

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So how do you know if it’s just a fun fantasy or something you’re really ready to try? Every couple (every person!) is different, but there are a few majorly important factors to consider. For instance:

Are you both equally aroused by the idea?

First and foremost, this needs to be a desire or predominantly shared interest. We all want to make our partner’s sexy dreams come true if we can, but (ideally) it should be a hot experience for us as well. Are you both on the same page about threesomes? If everyone’s not equally into it, the experience could be pretty unpleasant.

Do you both fantasize about it separately? Does it only come up when you’re drunk? Do you feel like you or they are just going along with it? Think about these things before making any serious plans.

Are you sexually uninhibited around each other?

If you have a lot of hang-ups in the bedroom, adding an audience certainly won’t help things. A threesome is likely to have a few awkward moments at the start and can turn wild and experimental. If you’re going to walk away with a lot of regrets or embarrassment, you may want to reconsider.

However if you and your partner are up for anything and have fun no matter what you try then you could probably handle the curveballs a threesome might throw. Remember to loosen up and be open while sticking to any boundaries you’ve discussed beforehand.

How strong is your relationship?

I don’t mean “are you in love?” People can be in love and still have a fragile relationship. I mean how many “tools” do you have in your toolbox when it comes to the skill sets needed to get through tough times? Have you been through lots of difficult ordeals and worked together to resolve them? Do you both communicate your feelings honestly and listen to each other without judging?

If you’re going to test the waters of your relationship with a threesome, you need to communicate regularly and honestly. And you need to remember that you’re always on the same team – there’s no room for jealousy and bitterness.

If you don’t want to do something it’s important to be able to tell your partner so without them getting upset. This is important to remember before, during and after any sexual play with them and others.

Do you or your partner have jealous tendencies?

Threesomes can be hot to talk about, but if either of you gets jealous easily it probably won’t work out and you may not be ready. If your partner gets uncomfortable when you hang out with someone who may be a sexual interest, or when you make comments about others being attractive, how do you think they’ll feel when you’re naked with someone else right in front of them?

The same goes for you. Imagine the reality of being there watching your partner tangled up in someone that’s not you, kissing and pleasuring them. If the thought makes you cringe, you’re probably not ready for the real thing.

This doesn’t mean you’ll never be ready! You’re just not there yet. It’s normal to always have a little bit of that feeling, there is such thing as healthy jealousy, but when the excitement of the experience your sharing with your partner surpasses the jealousy, it’s a good indicator you may be ready.

Do you and your partner have unresolved past issues?

If there’s any history of physical or emotional infidelity in your relationship, a threesome could open up old wounds. Just telling yourself it will be fine isn’t enough, you need to really address those concerns before you try anything.

The same goes for any sexual insecurities. Lots of people try threesomes as a way of “spicing things up” in the bedroom, but this could backfire if you or your partner enjoys sex with the new, spicy third too much.

Talk through your desires and concerns with your partner before you think of bringing anyone else into the mix. Be completely honest. It’s better to recognize a bad idea before it happens!

Have you considered who your third might be?

Choosing a third is maybe the hardest part of a threesome. If it’s a friend things may become awkward later. If it’s a stranger you don’t know that you can trust them. So who do you ask?

It’s not a bad idea for your first threesome to be a one-time affair with whatever third person you choose. That way there are no expectations of future play if you don’t enjoy it, and you don’t necessarily have to see them again. It’s also not a bad idea to try to find someone experienced in that lifestyle. Swingers clubs and websites are often full of people looking to just have fun but who have done it all before and it may be intimidating.

Meet up with the person first! See if you both like them and find them attractive, and make sure they can prove that they are clean. If they’re not patient enough to go through with all of that, then they may not be the right person. However, for some the prep process can be tedious, if this is the case, shift your focus on making it a bit more spontaneous but this can be risky for health and safety reasons.

Threesomes are tricky business! But take your time and talk things out, and they can be some of the most exciting experiences of your sex life. Communication is one of the single most important factors that can help make sexual exploration experiences positive.

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Dr. Yvonka De Ridder

ABOUT DR. YVONKA DE RIDDER:

Dr. Yvonka De Ridder is a sex therapist, clinical sexologist, and

 relationship expert based out of Tampa, FL. Dr. De Ridder has a M.S.

 in Marriage and Family Therapy/Counseling from Capella University, and

a B.A. in Psychology from the University of Tampa. She’s also the CEO

 of Love, Live, Therapy, LLC, a practice she began to help prospective

patients in the field of marriage counseling and sex therapy, as well

as the resident ‘sexpert’ on Tampa Bay’s top FM radio station, 102.5

 The Bone. De Ridder has recently come aboard the Jasmin.com/JasminTV

 ‘sexpert’ team to lend her knowledge toward repositioning the brand

 and helping to further a social cause regarding the expanded and

 unhindered general conversation surrounding the perceptions of sexual

 relations in the mainstream consciousness.

The Most Sexually Diseased Cities in America

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Have you ever wondered how sexually diseased your city is? If not, you may want to think about that.

RentApplication.com has created an interactive map to help anyone considering sex in America to think twice…

It may seem like common sense to use condoms, but many individuals skip them for various reasons:

“I don’t see any bumps/blisters/lesions.”

“He/She looks clean.”

“I get tested all the time.”

“He/She gets tested – if I had something, I would know.”

This type of logic is dangerous, especially because certain STD’s and STI’s can go undetected for months – sometimes years. It’s no coincidence that sexually diseased cities exist, because responsibility needs to increase amongst adults. Not only wearing condoms, but getting tested is so crucial to the whole operation.

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Read: How a Porn Star Nearly Infected the Whole Industry…

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It’s impossible to honestly say an individual is “clean” if he/she have not been tested this year.

Let’s all get it together, folks.

If you’re unsure of your status – find a testing center near you. Many places are free or low-cost – all are confidential.

Big thanks to RentApplication.com for providing me with this great information.

The Most Sexually Diseased Cities in America

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This map about STD statistics was created and produced by RentApplication.com

The Top 10 Most Sexually Diseased Cities are:4

Rank City Total STDs Total STDs per 100,000
1 Montgomery, AL 4371 1899.20
2 St Louis, MO 5942 1867.54
3. West Memphis, AR (Part of the Memphis Metro) 859 1717.29
4. Philadelphia, PA 26151 1689.77
5. Norfolk, VA [Norfolk Naval Base] 4013 1632.74
6. Baltimore, MD 10134 1630.98
7. Richmond, VA 3248 1544.39
8. New Orleans, LA 5614 1520.37
9. Killeen, TX [Ft. Hood] 4887 1512.83
10. Fayetteville, NC [Ft. Bragg] 4826 1489.2

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We have received many requests from the media for additional rankings, so we have expanded this list to include the top 100 most sexually diseased cities in America:

Ranking City Total STDs Total STDs Per 100,0000
11 Washington, DC 9060 1432.812
12 Bronx, NYC 19847 1409.115
13 Monroe, LA1 2178 1401.878
14 Amarillo, TX 1701 1390.444
15 Jackson, MS 3453 1388.738
16 Indianapolis, 12608 1371.96
17 Shreveport, LA 3461 1346.205
18 Milwaukee,WI 128321 1343.377
19 Pine Bluff, AR 992 1327.57
20 Virginia Beach,VA 1270 1316.471
21 Carbondale, IL 786 1308.452
22 Rocky Mount, NC 716 1279.623
23 Gallup, NM 916 1254.52
24 Lafayette, LA 902 1218.935
25 Orangeburg, SC 1091 1192.663
26 Memphis, TN 11068 1176.491
27 Sumter, SC 1271 1176.285
28 Detroit, MI 21056 1174.761
29 Decatur, IL 1293 1174.152
30 Clarksville, TN-KY 2118 1148.167
31 Hattiesburg, MS 882 1147.034
32 Hampton, City 1566 1144.436
33 Greenville, NC 1974 1143.99
34 Cincinnati, OH 9076 1131.617
35 Greenwood, SC 786 1126.785
36 Birmingham, AL 7267 1101.046
37 Newport News, VA 1988 1100.008
38 Cleveland-, OH 13733 1085.517
39 Tallahassee, FL 3068 1081.161
40 Columbus, GA 624 1079.211
41 Jackson, TN 1040 1054.168
42 Longview, TX 1286 1048.444
43 Little RockAR 4063 1044.599
44 Lynchburg, VA 805 1043.923
45 Peoria, IL 1954 1043.502
46 Kansas City, MO 7050 1040.779
47 Roanoke, VA 1014 1040.331
48 Anchorage, AK 3102 1038.813
49 Show Low, AZ 1110 1036.473
50 Lawton, OK 1309 1035.683
51 Albany, GA 978 1034.91
52 Florence, SC 702 1030.247
53 Mobile, AL 4249 1026.487
54 Macon, GA 1602 1023.891
55 Greensboro, NC 5121 1022.403
56 Denver, CO 6453 1017.398
57 Augusta, GA 2037 1005.494
58 Durham, NC 2789 997.3502
59 San Francisco, CA 8141 985.7567
60 Opelousas, LA 824 984.9155
61 Gainesville, FL 2471 982.8293
62 Florence, SC 1350 978.6296
63 Corpus Christi, TX 3395 976.4417
64 Jacksonville, NC 1786 974.5557
65 Boston, MA 7246 973.3674
66 Manhattan, New York City, NY 15706 970.0511
67 Roanoke Rapids, NC 523 968.4109
68 Bakersfield, CA 8224 960.5704
69 Belleville, IL 2567 954.7791
70 Lumberton, NC 1285 948.3675
71 Tuscaloosa, AL 1882 947.6525
72 Odessa, TX 1365 945.7821
73 Columbia, SC 3724 945.5857
74 Meridian, MS 745 928.6961
75 Dothan, AL 953 921.6456
76 Winston-Salem, NC 3274 914.1753
77 Columbus, OH 10916 913.0625
78 Waco, TX 2179 912.8346
79 Louisville, KY 6842 911.2606
80 Charleston SC 3270 895.493
81 Lubbock, TX 2545 890.6075
82 Houma, LA 996 890.1361
83 Jacksonville, FL 7815 888.47
84 Champaign-Urbana, IL 1804 887.4634
85 Washington, DC Beltway (Prince George’s County) 7767 881.4737
86 Springfield, IL 1754 880.2084
87 Valdosta, GA 1008 879.9497
88 Gadsden, AL 915 876.5039
89 Chicago, IL 45834 876.1408
90 Fresno, CA 8257 871.088
91 Morgan City, LA 463 862.2456
92 Kinston, NC 510 861.0938
93 Gaffney, SC 478 858.7546
94 Brooklyn, NY 21987 856.9808
95 Toledo, OH 3753 856.8532
96 Dover, DE 1428 851.8965
97 San Antonio, TX 15193 850.8129
98 Newark, NJ 6700 850.5301
99 Huntsville, TX 580 847.8541
100 Fort Polk South, LA 456 846.498

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How We Collected and Created This Data

The data used here comes from the CDC for 2013, and reflects reports of syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia. (Herpes data is not collected).  To normalize the data, we measured rates per 100,000 people. We chose only to show cities with a significant amount of population, so rural counties are not show on this map.

Specifically, we only rankied cities with a population of at least 50,000 or more. We ignored absolute STDs and only used the rate per 100k to establish rankings. We opted to treat Washington, DC. as a city and not a state. We also chose to represent each borough of NYC separately. They represent very different populations and should be treated as such.

The CDC makes available a wide range of statistical, anonymous data about STDs in America.

Resources:

Aids.gov

RentApplication.com

VForVadge.com