It’s no secret that there are techniques to oral sex; depth being one of them. Some people find trouble bypassing their gag reflexes which makes the act uncomfortable for both partners. Through the wonders of modern technology, anyone can enjoy giving the pleasures of oral sex with the help of mints. Yes, mints!
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The candies use the help of benzocaine to numb the throat and eliminate the human gag reflex. “BENZOCAINE (BEN zoe kane) causes loss of feeling in the skin. This helps relieve pain from insect bites, minor burns, small wounds, or other skin irritations. (CVS 2012)” Mixed in with various flavors including chocolate and wintergreen – it’s the perfect combination to spice up the bedroom.
NOTE: Do not attempt to consume food immediately after taking these mints, as the gag reflex is numbed and may not prevent you from choking.
By a show of hands, who saw the Kim K and Ray J sex tape? Now outside the fact that she’s pretty, were any of you turned on at the sight of her sucking Ray J’s dick? Well here’s why:
The key to giving good head is first of all “Loving” what you do. You can’t please your mate sexually, if you don’t put yourself first. You have to be comfortable with your sexuality and sexual antics. If you’re giving head to please him, you’re not going to do it to your best potential. You have to love giving it and I mean love without a shadow of a doubt. Like it has to be your shit! Also, the man your pleasing has to be confident with himself and he also has to be respectful of you and your body. If he doesn’t make you feel good physically, mentally or emotionally there is no way this can come out right unless you just outsource that mouth to everybody and could care less who dick your sucking.
Now for those who don’t really like giving head, I’m not sure what the cure for that is. But for those of you who do, but can’t get past the feeling you get when you catch him looking at you, here is what you need to know. Appearing to be attractive when giving head is not a turn on for men. The uglier you are when giving head, the more attractive and sexier you are to him. When you’re “ugly” on the dick, it suggests that you are most likely gagging, veins are popping out of your head, your eyes are watering, your nose is running and spit is dripping down his dick, your lips and chin. That is one ugly beautiful mess! It is also the sign of a woman who is confident in her skills and could care less about how she looks. She’s too busy working the dick.
Another thing, when you’re giving head, you have to be real about what your sucking. It’s a dick. It’s not a penis, a thing, a rod, a pee-pee. It is a dick. Say the word, “dick.” Feel sexual, nasty, dirty, and confident and be able to say the word dick before you can even think about putting one in your mouth. Dick, it’s a dick. You are going to suck this man’s dick. You’re not going to give head, say it, “I am going to suck his dick.” Dick, dick, dick, I am going to suck his dick. Know it and own it! I am going to suck his dick. There is a confidence and a cockiness that comes with the act and art of giving head. You have to be blunt in your thoughts and actions. Giving head is mental. Pun intended. So own it before you even attempt to give head to a man head. The worse reaction to giving head is having a man tell you, “forget it baby you don’t have to do that.” OUCH! That means, “You can’t suck a dick.” And that shit is worse feeling than getting fired from a job when you just moved into your new apartment. It’s okay if you’re a beginner, so long as you’re confident and willing to learn you’ll be great in no time! The first step is to be comfortable with your sexuality and with your mate. Your mate also has to love getting his dick sucked. Now I know it’s unheard of, but some men can take it or leave it when it comes to receiving head. Yeah I know I know, what planet are they from? But sometimes it’s because this man hasn’t had his dick sucked the right way. There is an intimate are to giving head. You really have to black out and become one with the dick and in that moment that you’re pleasing this man orally, nothing else should matter. That dick is not even attached to a body at this point. It is just you, the dick and all of your nasty tricks. But if you’re not comfortable doing it, imagine how the man feels receiving it!
Also, you have to learn the dick and the sensitive areas. Ask your male friends or your mate, “What do men like when a woman is giving head” and get answers! Don’t be shy!!! There are certain areas of the dick that needs special attention. It’s not just about putting it in your mouth and gagging on it. There is an art to sucking dick.
For example, under the “head” or the “rim” there are lots of nerves under there. You want to make sure you pay attention to the head of that dick. While jerking him, playing this his testicles, your mouth should be very wet, your lips should be wrapped around the head and your tongue should be gracing under that rim awakening the nerves. The saliva from your mouth should prove as lubrication while you’re gliding your hands up and down and around his shaft. The key is to keep the dick busy and wet at all times when giving head. When you deep throat, it should bring up a very thick mucus from the back of your throat. Don’t be grossed out or afraid of this. Let as much as possible come out and let it drip down his shaft and fall where it may. Let it hang, let it be messy, let it be wet, gushy and sloppy!!! Your eyes are running, your nose is running, you’re feeling like you must look really ridiculous. And that’s where you’re fucking up at! You shouldn’t be thinking about how you look, you should be thinking about how great this man is feeling because you are giving him some sloppy ass head! It’ll be messy, your face will be a wet mess but trust me, and your man is feeling absolutely INSANE at this point. This mucus is the key to giving good head as well. Not only does it make the appearance of his dick look sexy but it makes everything slippery for when you’re jerking him and sucking him. You want him to look down at you like you’re the scum of the earth, that is the key! You want him to have his fist balled up ready to knock your head off because it’s so good, and don’t move off of it until he’s ready to cum or he’s ready to fuck. Period!
Giving head is not just about having his dick in your mouth though ladies. You have to be like an octopus when you’re sucking dick. You have to multi-task! This man has balls that you have to kiss, suck, lick gently (while still rubbing, caressing and/or jerking his dick to keep him aroused), he has inner thighs that you should give some attention to (while still jerking, caressing etc.) and then you can work your way down to this little area between his ass and his nuts called a “Taint.”
Now most men don’t even know that he has one and why? Because the chick that’s giving him head really isn’t in tune with the male anatomy and she’s most likely giving head to please the man and not herself. When giving great head, even the most Alpha male will turned into a bitch and allow you to pleasure areas of his body that he thought he’d never allow a woman to touch, hence the taint. In order to gain access to the taint, the man has to lift his legs and possibly spread them just a little in order for the female to pleasure him in that area. The taint is equivalent to the gristle or that skinny but tasty part on the chinese chicken wings in the hood. Aint much meat on it but it brings us such delight when sucking on it doesn’t it? Ladies once he lets you get that taint just know that there is nothing in this world he won’t do in bed so use that power to your advantage! If you’re really good and he has a long dick, he just might be able to get him on all fours so that you can suck his dick from the back. Oh my!!!!
Overall, there is nothing wrong with giving head. If you love it then do it and have fun with it! Always remember the nastier and sloppier you do it the better! Lose the shy girl role and become one with the dick! If you’re ashamed and don’t really like giving head then don’t do it! It ain’t for everybody! Take the zero for not showing up instead of the F for showing up and failing!
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B.O.B. – the Battery Operated Boyfriend; how many of us have one – or two? Maybe even three if you’re like me. I have a
safe that is a literal graveyard for vibrators. Some women I know refuse to even try one, with various reasons why or why not.
It’s best to take reviews from someone you know and trust, so I think it’s due time for me to speak on the wonders of vibrators.
It all started on an eventful Saturday afternoon….
My two cousins and I were in the mall shopping, and we slipped into a novelty store to goof off. As everyone knows, the sex
toys and gadgets are in the back of the store, so I made my way back there to look around. I stumbled upon a flashlight, waterproof
vibrator and giggled. My cousins made their way back there and we each decided to buy one and take them home. I believe we cut
our mall trip short that day. Almost simultaneously, we called each other that night to rave about how crazy the vibrator was. I don’t
think the other two ever bought one again – I’ll never know for sure, but I became a big fan – an expert, if you will. So, let’s start with the myths:
Myth 1: You lose sensation “down there”:
Trust me – this is extremely false. Granted, going round for round will definitely cause hypersensitivity for a few hours, as the clitorisis usually the point of stimulation and it is very sensitive. Taking breaks in between sessions will remedy this, and usually one orgasm is enough.
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Myth 2: “My boyfriend will think I’m cheating on him”:
I can’t speak for your boyfriend, but this fact is dependent on quite a few factors. If you’re a dildo fan, the size may play a major role in the problem. Help your partner understand that using it is not a replacement, it is simply a temporary substitute or means of pleasure when he is not available. Vibrators have no hands or mouth and only serve one purpose – so until they create an affordable sex robot – your boyfriend is safe.
Involve him in the fun, there are massagers and vibrating rings that can bring two people into play.
Myth 3: “Vibrators are for freaks and nymphomaniacs“:
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Average people want to be pleasured, too! You don’t have to be sex crazed to enjoy the benefits of a vibrator. There are many options available to suit your intensity and comfort levels. Some give a light sensation, while others have variable strengths of vibration that can be turned up or down. If you’re feeling nervous, start with something light, like a fingertip vibrator.
Myth 4: “Vibrators are for lonely people who can’t get any sex”:
While they help on quiet winter nights, vibrators do not compare to human contact. The fact that a woman enjoys getting pleased with the assistance of a Battery Operated Boyfriend doesn’t mean she cannot go out and procure a real boyfriend. Honestly speaking, sometimes we just want to climax and go to sleep. There’s no foreplay necessary before (you can if you’d like), and no cuddling after. I prefer both of those things, so a human is always the preferred choice for me.
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Single ladies, take pride in your vibrators. If you feel the need to orgasm on a regular basis, you can do so without the assistance of another human being. It costs you nothing; no dinner, no nice shoes – just the initial purchase of the product, and you’re on the way to happiness. Vibrators allow us time to re-discover ourselves after a breakup, explore ourselves and learn our likes and dislikes – and have fun in the process.
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I’ve also found it to be a great sleep aid. Orgasms release endorphins that make us feel good – that’s scientific fact! “There is some evidence that orgasms can relieve all kinds of pain—including pain from arthritis, pain after surgery and even pain during childbirth,” notes Lisa Stern, RN, MSN, a nurse practitioner who works with Planned Parenthood in Los Angeles and blogs at Gynfizz.com. “The mechanism is largely due to the body’s release of a chemical called oxytocin during orgasm,” she says. “Oxytocin facilitates bonding, relaxation and other positive emotional states.” While the pain relief from orgasm is short-lived—usually only about eight to 10 minutes—she points to past research indicating that even thinking about sex can help alleviate pain (Womans Day, 2012).
So, don’t be scared to try it out – there are plenty of discrete Adult Novelty stores in most states that allow you to browse until you’ve found the right one for you. If you’re shy about it, keep it in a nondescript box at home, or buy a small locked box (I use Brinks Home Security Safe for mine) to stash your favorite toys in. No one has to know what you enjoy but you, and eventually your partner. He/she will thank you for it.
This was my first real purchase of a vibrator, and I’m a bullet type of girl; straight to the point, quick execution and I’m happy. It’s extremely quiet, waterproof and has four intensity settings. From my research, vibrators usually only last six months; this one lasted about a year and uses rechargeable batteries. Perfect if you want to be discrete or have roomates/family nearby. Travels well, too 🙂
I’m on quite of a condom binge today, but I’m obsessed with them! This really caught my eye, and it may revolutionize the way our world looks at rape in underdeveloped countries. According to CNN, South African Dr. Sonnet Ehlers was on call one night four decades ago when a devastated rape victim walked in. Her eyes were lifeless; she was like a breathing corpse.
Perfect time to run away when he’s screaming in pain…
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CNN reports:
“She looked at me and said, ‘If only I had teeth down there,’” recalled Ehlers, who was a 20-year-old medical researcher at the time. “I promised her I’d do something to help people like her one day.”
Forty years later, Rape-aXe was born.
Ehlers is distributing the female condoms in the various South African cities where the World Cup soccer games are taking place.
The woman inserts the latex condom like a tampon. Jagged rows of teeth-like hooks line its inside and attach on a man’s penis during penetration, Ehlers said.
Once it lodges, only a doctor can remove it — a procedure Ehlers hopes will be done with authorities on standby to make an arrest.
“It hurts, he cannot pee and walk when it’s on,” she said. “If he tries to remove it, it will clasp even tighter… however, it doesn’t break the skin, and there’s no danger of fluid exposure.”
I think this is an awesome idea. From seeing men’s reactions being plucked on their shaft – I can only imagine the pain that would be felt from little teeth scraping it. He’d be so unable to move that the victim could get away. Only a true animal would continue trying to rape someone with this thing stuck on him…
Many men complain that condoms don’t fit right; they’re too snug, too loose, you lose sensation, they get lost. So many reasons not to wear them, which gives so many ways to contract disease or cause pregnancy. Germany’s own Jan Vinzenz Krause is perfecting what he calls the Spray-On Condom. the German sexual-health educator designed a custom-fitting male contraceptive using liquid latex and some materials from a hardware store. “I felt a little like MacGyver,” he says of building the contraption.(Time, 2008)
With over 5 billion condoms being sold every year, it’s no wonder that someone would come up with this genius invention. When correctly used, they protect against most STD’s and STI’s, as well as AIDS and HIV – not to mention pregnancy. Companies are in constant competition to create innovative ways to enjoy contraception; vibrating rings, ribbed and other textures, female condoms are all options for your pleasurable pleasure. Don’t forget ultra thin – there’s no excuse these days.
The fact remains that penises exist in all types of shapes and sizes, which was the catalyst for Professor Krause’s quest to universally customize the condom. “The prototype, which began testing last year, consists of a hard plastic tube with nozzles that spray liquid latex from all directions, much like the water jets in the tunnel of a car wash. According to Krause, there are numerous advantages to his spray-on condom. “The condom fits 100% perfectly, so the safety is much higher than a standard condom’s, and it feels more natural.”
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The major drawback with this design, is that the latex takes too long to dry. In order to be practical, a matter of seconds is the maximum that most would wait for the condom to be ready. Unfortunately, the latex takes 3-5 minutes to vulcanize, which makes it impractical.
That has kept the spray-on condom on hold indefinitely until a faster-drying latex comes along. Meanwhile, Krause is tackling the size problem by preparing to launch a line of condoms in six sizes, instead of the usual one or two. They should be available in Europe starting in September and in the U.S. possibly as early as 2010.
“Having condoms in different sizes we think is a good and smart idea,” says David Johnson, group product manager of Trojan Brand Condoms. Trojan’s parent company, Church and Dwight, makes nearly 8 out of 10 condoms sold in the U.S. But different-size condoms introduce their own problems: namely, men aren’t very eager to buy a small size. Trojan’s Magnum line, whose condoms are 15% bigger than regular ones, accounts for 13% of the U.S. market. But when the company introduced a smaller condom several years ago, it had to discontinue it.
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Krause says men are reluctant to go to a drugstore cashier with a box of small-size condoms — for obvious reasons. His solution: he plans to sell his new line of different-size condoms online. “Men on the Web,” he says, “they are very honest.”
For now, this is merely just a dream – but with all the options available, there’s so many to explore! Keep trying until you find one that tickles your fancy. Here are some suggestions:
There has to be a nice way to say everything – and sometimes your delivery will need
to vary based on the person you are speaking to. Here’s a few suggestions:
If this is a woman you have intercourse with on a regular basis, the two of you will
probably have a good level of communication between the two of you. Always make sure you’re
in private.
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1. “Have you been feeling okay?”
If she answers with a “yes”, it will probably be followed by a “why”.
“I noticed that your scent is a little different – “down there”. I just want to make sure you’re good.”
Odors in the genital region typically signals disease or infection, major sanitary issues – or simply just a little sweat.
If the odor smells fishy – it may be an STD or a vaginal infection like yeast or Bacterial Vaginosis. BV and yeast infections are not necessarily contagious, but they can cause irritation to a male partner if condoms are not being used. Those must be treated by a doctor, and politely asking her to get checked out is probably the best solution.
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2. Nice Smelling Bath Soap.
If this lady is your girlfriend and she comes over often, don’t be scared to purchase
feminine hygiene products from your local Rite Aid or pharmacy. Summer’s Eve and
Vagisilnow carry body washes and wipes catering to the pH of a woman’s lady parts. (Click the names to go to their sites)
Odor is sometimes caused by slight irritation from sperm, and laying around after sex
can definitely bring this on. A quick shower or warm washcloth after intercourse may solve this problem right away.
She’ll think it’s cute that you’ve got soap at the house – just for her. 🙂
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If it’s a one time thing, sometimes a simple text will do the trick. After she leaves your place, of course.
“Hey, I noticed a little odor coming from down there – maybe you should see a doctor.”
She probably won’t be too happy when she reads this, but at least she’ll be conscious of it and get it checked out. It also saves the next person a little trouble, as well as possibly avoiding transmission of an STD.
This past week, world famous Porn Star Mr. Marcus sent out a public apology after single-handedly spreading Syphilisthrough
the California Adult Entertainment population. He caused nationwide panic as filming for many adult films ceased immediately
while production companies got their actors tested.
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While Mr. Marcus did get tested, according to him he only received one of the normal three shots of treatment that are given to patients. This allowed the disease to combat the vaccine and continue to exist in the body.
In addition to this, he left out crucial information when showing proof that he had been tested for STDs. His dishonesty
costed millions of dollars to the industry, and is a topic of discussion everywhere.
According to Adult Video News, he admitted he was diagnosed with the STD on July 12, but continued to perform after getting the results. He also admitted to tampering with the test results from Talent Testing Service.
The women he performed with retested negative for syphilis.
Mr. Marcus did, however, abstain from sex for 10 days per the doctor’s orders and took penicillin until July 24 when he returned to the sex set and hid the results.
“My personal doctor doesn’t know what I do for a living,” Mr. Marcus said. “So his thing was just don’t have any sex for 7-10 days. Once I did that shot I felt pretty confident. Every doctor I talked to up to that point said ‘you get the shot. That’s it.’ If you had the syphilis in your system a lot longer than that you need three shots. But based on what he determined from my blood and looking at my symptoms, he said the one shot was good enough. So I did the one shot and I didn’t have to do anything else.”
(via BlackAmericaWeb.com)
Getting tested is crucial for anyone who is sexually active, as it is the only way to be certain that he/she is not infected.
Many diseases carry no symptoms in certain stages, and some do not show symptoms ever – though they can still be transmitted to another person. Unprotected sex with partners is an easy way to spread disease, which is why usingcondomsis extremely important at all times. Realistically, infidelity does happen sometimes and the chance of being infected exists until proven otherwise.
If you are experiencing symptoms of syphilis or feel you have been exposed to it – see a licensed physician immediately. Only they can properly diagnose and treat disease. Follow directions carefully to avoid transmitting the disease to anyone else during treatment.
In recent news, Syphillis has caused a massive shut down of California’s porn industry. It only takes one person to spread the
disease to many. Knowledge is the number one method of prevention, so on this post we’ll jump into the signs, symptoms and treatments of Syphillis.
Syphillis has four stages, each one carries different symptoms.
Primary Stage (Highly Contagious):
During this phase of syphilis, a sore (chancre) that is usually painless develops at the site where the bacteria entered the body. This commonly occurs within 3 weeks of exposure but can range from 10 to 90 days. A person is highly contagious during the primary stage.
In men, a chancre often appears in the genital area, usually (but not always) on the penis. These sores are often painless.
In women, chancres can develop on the outer genitals or on the inner part of the vagina. A chancre may go unnoticed if it occurs inside the vagina or at the opening to the uterus (cervix). The sores are usually painless and are not easily seen.
Swelling of the lymph nodes may occur near the area of the chancre.
A chancre may also occur in an area of the body other than the genitals.
The chancre usually lasts for 3 to 6 weeks, heals without treatment, and may leave a thin scar. But even though the chancre has healed, syphilis is still present and a person can still pass the infection to others.1
Secondary Stage:
Secondary syphilis is characterized by a rash that appears 2 to 8 weeks after the chancre develops and sometimes before it heals. Other symptoms may also occur, which means that the infection has spread throughout the body. A person is highly contagious during the secondary stage.
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A rash often develops over the body and commonly includes the palms of the hands and the soles of the feet.
The rash usually consists of reddish brown, small, solid, flat or raised skin sores that are less than 2 cm (0.8 in.) across. But the rash may look like other more common skin problems.
Small, open sores may be present on mucous membranes. The sores may contain pus. Or moist sores that look like warts (called condyloma lata) may be present.
In dark-skinned people, the sores may be a lighter color than the surrounding skin.
The skin rash usually heals within 2 months. on its own without scarring. After healing, skin discoloration may occur. But even though the skin rash has healed, syphilis is still present and a person can still pass the infection to others.1
When syphilis has spread throughout the body, the person may have:
A fever of usually less than 101 Degrees F (38.3 degrees C).
A sore throat.
A vague feeling of weakness or discomfort throughout the body.
Weight loss.
Patchy hair loss, especially in the eyebrows, eyelashes, and scalp hair.
Swelling of the lymph nodes.
Nervous system symptoms of secondary syphilis, which can include neck stiffness, headaches, irritability, paralysis, unequal reflexes, and irregular pupils.
Latent (hidden) Stage
If untreated, an infected person will progress to thehidden stageof syphilis. The latent stage is defined as the year after a person becomes infected. After the secondary-stage rash goes away, the person will not have any symptoms for a time (latent period). The latent period may be as brief as 1 year or range from 5 to 20 years.
Often during this stage, an accurate diagnosis can only be made through blood testing, the person’s history, or the birth of a child with congenital syphilis.
A person is contagious during the early part of the latent stage and may be contagious during the latent period when no symptoms are present.
Relapses:
About 20 to 30 out of 100 people with syphilis have a relapse of the infection during its latent stage.2 A relapse means the person was symptom-free but then started having symptoms again. Relapses can occur several times.
When relapses no longer occur, a person is not contagious through contact. But a woman in the latent stage of syphilis may still pass the infection to her developing baby and may have a miscarriage or a stillbirth or give birth to a baby infected with congenital syphilis.
Tertiary (late) Stage:
This is the most destructive stage of syphilis. If untreated, the tertiary stage may begin as early as 1 year after infection or at any time during a person’s lifetime. A person with syphilis may never experience this stage of the illness.
During this stage, syphilis may cause serious blood vessel and heart problems, mental disorders, blindness, nerve system problems, and even death. The symptoms of tertiary (late) syphilis depend on the complications that develop. Complications of this stage include:
Gummata, which are large sores inside the body or on the skin.
Cardiovascular syphilis, which affects the heart and blood vessels.
Neurosyphilis, which affects the nervous system.
Quite a few historical figures have been noted with Syphilis infection – including Napoleon Bonaparte, Henry VIII, Theo van Gogh and Adolf Hitler. While the disease is treatable, it is known to cause psychological disorders in its later stages if proper medical attention is not paid.
Aside from abstinence, Condoms are the best method of protection against Sexually Transmitted Diseases whenever one chooses to have sex. If you are experiencing symptoms of syphilis or feel you have been exposed to it – see a licensed physician immediately. Only they can properly diagnose and treat disease. Follow directions carefully to avoid transmitting the disease to anyone else during treatment.
