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Sophia Ned-James – “Losin’ the Doo Rag…”

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Sophia Ned-James – Losin’ the Doo Rag and Sweatin’ My Hair Back

You know I love a good read, and this one by Sophia Ned-James had me crossing my legs and looking around to see if anyone was watching me. Have you ever had this kind of lovemaking? If not, you’ll feel like you did after this…

 

 

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My Boo recently surprised me with some good, old-fashioned, “lost my doo rag”, “sweated my hair back”, left me limp lovin’. And honey, it was so good, I got up early, made his favorite breakfast and begged for more!

Here’s how it all went down. My kid was at the grandparents for the weekend. My man had to work late, well into Friday night. But, free weekends for me are so rare, he asked that I for him at his place. I didn’t mind. Chilling in his gorgeous apartment, as opposed to doing laundry at home sounded like a vacation!

As soon as I got there I took a long, hot bath. Then I binge watched some Shonda TV on his DVR and went to bed. Since he had to work late, I knew I wouldn’t see him until morning. Besides, I liked the idea of being asleep when he joined me in bed. It seemed so … domestic!

My guy has a strict “no clothes allowed in bed” rule. Unless I’m on my period, I’m not “allowed” to wear anything when I sleep over. He says it’s because he wants unfettered access to all my assets (and I got plenty of assets)!

On this night, I figured that since he wasn’t home, the normal rule didn’t apply. So, I put on one of his t-shirts, some cute panties and tied up my hair.

Yes, we’re at that point in our relationship where he’s seen me in my doo rag! Just to be clear, I never start out with it on, though. I usually wait until after we’re done “playing” for the night. But, he’s a Black man dating a Black woman, so he understands that the head wrap goes with the territory.

So there I was, freshly bathed and relaxed, sound asleep in my man’s bed. His sheets and shirt smelled like him, so all was well in my world.

It was the chill that first awakened me. It slowly dawned on me that I wasn’t under the covers anymore. I opened my eyes to find my guy standing over me, having pulled the covers to the end of the bed. He was also naked and hard as a rock.

I smiled at him sleepily. “Hi, baby!”

His reply was short “Hi.”

Something was wrong. Maybe something had happened at work and he needed to talk. So I asked “What’s wrong?”

“What are you wearing?” As he asked this, he climbed onto the bed with me. I know this dude wasn’t tripping because I was wearing his shirt.

“Your shirt,” I answered. Now, I was getting an attitude, too. It was his idea that I even be here, and here he is giving me grief over his shirt?

“I see that, Sophia. Let me re-phrase the question. What is my rule about you being in my bed?”

Okay, now I got it. “I’m supposed to be naked,” I answered softly.

“Exactly.” He reached over and gently nudged my shoulder. I got the hint and rolled onto my back. As I did, he kept talking. “So, if I want you in my bed naked, you can see why I’m a little upset to come home after work to find you lying here damn near fully clothed.”

That’s an exaggeration. A t-shirt and panties is hardly fully clothed. But I knew better than to answer. I had a feeling this was going somewhere and I have to admit, I was getting excited.

Lifting my hips, I started to slide my panties off. I guess I was too slow because he suddenly knocked my hands away and yanked them off himself. Then he pulled me into a sitting position and pulled his shirt over my head. Even in the darkened room, I could see the fire in his eyes.

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Getting more aroused by the second, I reached for him. But he backed away.

“Lie on your stomach,” he said. His deep voice was soft, but commanding. I eagerly complied.

Then he leaned close to my ear and said, “You broke my only house rule, Sophia.” His warm breath on my neck gave me goose bumps. The next thing I felt was his large hand, gently massaging my bottom. “I’m going to have to punish you. You know that, don’t you?”

We’ve flirted with a little slap and tickle, and I’m a fan. Like I always say, there’s nothing like a well-timed slap on the ass to add a little spice to your lovemaking. This time, I sensed a slight difference from our usual fun and games, though. And I was thrilled.

When I didn’t respond, he gave me a light tap on my ass. “I asked you a question. You know I have to punish you, right?”

“I know,” I answered.

“Good,” he whispered. “Now raise that fat ass in the air for me. I’m going to spank you!”

There’s something about the timbre of his voice and being compelled to submit that made me sopping wet! I was trembling as I raised my hips.

“Uh-uh,” he muttered. “Get all the way up on those knees! And spread your legs, too. I want to be able to see my pussy!”

By the time that next slap landed, I was so turned on by his words I almost came then and there. But, my man wasn’t about my pleasure just yet. Even though he’d reach down and rub on my clit every few smacks, he was careful not to make me cum.

And the whole time he was spanking me, he kept saying things like “My pussy’s getting nice and wet for me, isn’t she?” And “Your ass is so fat and sexy! I love the way it jiggles when I smack it!” Then there was my favorite, “You love it when I smack that ass, don’t you?”

That sweet mixture of pleasure and pain was intoxicating! I wanted more, though.

Finally, he slapped me one last time. The next thing I felt were his lips clamped around my clit. My man loves eating me from behind. But usually, he likes to make it last, drawing out my pleasure for long stretches of time before finally making me cum. He says that the longer he makes me wait, the harder I cum. I don’t know. I just know that I love it.

This time, he wasn’t so gentle and easy-going, though. This time, he attacked my pussy greedily, pulling me into an enticing rhythm that had me flying towards my peak in mere minutes. The way he licked and sucked me, I couldn’t have stopped the explosion if I’d wanted to. In fact, at one point I did try to pull away and crawl forward, but that just got me another slap and a harder grip on my hips.

I collapsed when I came. As I slowly floated back to earth, I heard him get a condom from his nightstand and put it on. Then he gently rolled me onto my back and crawled between my legs.

“Did you like your punishment?” He asked, kissing me softly. Still out of breath, all I could was nod. “You ready to give me what I’ve been waiting for all night?”

He didn’t wait for my answer. Knowing I was still a little tender, he slid into me slowly. I could tell he wanted it rough, and his restraint was sexy. It was his turn for some real fun, though. So I started moving against him faster, signaling that I was ready for whatever he wanted.

Pulling one of my legs around his shoulder, he took me hard. But he still used finesse, careful to stroke me in a way that hit my spot perfectly. It was erotic watching the waves of pleasure play out on his face. Even in the dark I could tell this was good for him.

But it was when he started doing this move that allowed for his dick to hit my g-spot that I felt the head wrap slide off. And I didn’t care. All I cared about was meeting him thrust for thrust, as wave after wave of ecstasy flowed through me.

I don’t know how long we kept at it. I just know that every time I got close to orgasm, he managed to it just out of my reach. We changed positions, finally allowing me to ride him and set the pace. But even then, he wouldn’t let me cum. Whenever I’d get close, he’d change the rhythm.

By the time he was back on top, we were both sweaty and panting. All along, we’d enjoyed some playful banter. A little “Take your pussy, baby” here and “You want all this dick, don’t you” there.

Now, we couldn’t even talk. We could barely even breathe. And I knew that if I got close to paradise again, I was going to get there, even if it meant scratching his back until he bled. But, he was ready, too. I could tell by that extra little twist in his hips and that hitch in his breathing. I fell first, tumbling over the edge so suddenly it shocked me. He quickly followed with my name on his lips.

When my heart rate returned to normal, we were a sweaty mess. He was snoring, so I crept from the bed and went into the bathroom. When I saw my reflection in the mirror I giggled. I looked like a women who’d been well and truly fucked! Like the old ladies in the beauty shop say, I’d lost my doo rag and sweated my hair back! And I’ve never looked lovelier.

Sophia Ned-James is the pseudonym for a Metro Detroit-based, freelance writer, blogger, novelist and single mom. Committed to writing fantasy and erotica in ways which celebrate women, Sophia seeks to provide a safe place for women to learn, explore and own their sexuality without judgment or shame.   She regularly shares her spicy adventures on www.SuzyKnew.com and www.thesexysinglemommy.net.

Be sure to like her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/sophiasizzles and follow her on Twitter at @sophianedjames. She’s also on Google+.

 

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Yeast Infections: Are They Contagious?

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No, yeast infections are not contagious in the way a cold or the flu is. Yeast infections are caused by a fungus (more specifically, a yeast) called candida.

Candida is a commensal organism, meaning that under healthy conditions it lives harmlessly in our bodies. We all have candida living on our skin and in our intestines, and healthy women carry candida in their vaginas.

Men are also able to develop yeast infections on the penis.

When the body’s defenses are in balance, candida is not noticeable or bothersome. However, certain conditions can give candida the opportunity to grow excessively:

  • A low-functioning immune system.
  • Use of topical or oral corticosteroids such as prednisone (often for asthma or autoimmune conditions).
  • Damage to the mucous membranes (the skin lining the mouth, vagina, and GI tract).
  • Antibiotic use.

In these situations, candida can grow on the skin or in the lining of the mouth, GI tract, or vagina. The fungus creates a white patch or plaque across the mucous membranes. In the mouth, visible candida infection is called thrush. In the vagina, it’s a yeast infection. In people with weakened
immune systems, candida can grow almost anywhere in the body.

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Because candida is normally present in all our bodies, someone with thrush can’t exactly pass it to someone else — that person already has candida. To develop thrush, a yeast infection, or another candida infection, that person may have one or more of the above risk factors or conditions.

It is not yet clear if bacterial vaginosis and yeast infections are transmitted from one partner to another. All kinds of bacteria are exchanged during sex play. It may be that the bacteria exchanged between partners, especially new partners, may cause an overgrowth of the bacteria that cause bacterial vaginosis or yeast infections in the vagina.

Vaginitis caused by irritants, allergies, or lack of estrogen are not passed during sex.

Sexually transmitted diseases exist that carry similar similar symptoms to yeast infections, such as vaginitis or bacterial vaginosis. If you have never had a yeast infection and are unsure, please see a licensed physician for an official diagnosis. Only they can give proper treatment and cure your discomfort. At any time, condoms are the most effective way to avoid transmitting disease to a partner.

Source:

http://answers.webmd.com/answers/1195035/are-yeast-infections-contagious

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/womens-health/yeast-infection-19854.htm

http://www.virtua.org/adam/health%20illustrated%20encyclopedia/2/17141.htm

About Me – Kimi LeVadge

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Hi, I’m Kimi LeVadge!

Hi everyone! I’m a NY transplant in Florida, in 2012 I decided to take on the task of educating the world on sexual health and wellness. As a Mount Vernon, NY native, I have seen the effects that AIDS, HIV and disease can have on communities like mine. I hope to cease the transmission of these and other diseases one person at a time. If you know better, you’re inclined to do better. I have earned my BA in Psychology and Human Services at Florida Atlantic University and University of Phoenix.

 

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I enjoy educating the masses on sex health and sex-related topics,  as well as reviewing products in the sex health realm. My goal is to show the world that being sexually responsible doesn’t have to mean being boring. I am a married mom of one who definitely understands how hard it can be to get your sex health questions answered in a timely manner. Well, look no further.

Velvet Curve G-Spot Vibrator
Did She Say “Orgasm?”

Writing has been my passion since I picked up a pencil,  and I hope to share my craft with anyone who will lay eyes upon it. Who knows,  maybe my words will inspire a person or two…

Sex Questions and Advice

Feel free to contact me with any questions you may have at vforvadge@gmail.com.

Instagram: Kimi_LeVadge

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I’m here to help in almost any way I can. Almost!

How to Be a Side Chick in 5 Easy Steps…

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Hey Vadgesters!

If you’re just joining us, we talked about the Side Chick Quotient and why you need her in your relationship. Now I’ll give you 5 easy steps to being a side chick. Sounds crazy, but if you know what I know, it may be the best thing you’ve ever done for your love life…

 

1. Be Attentive:

How does a side chick get consistency from a taken man? She pays attention. She knows all the things wifey does to piss him off – and does the opposite. She finds out all the things that make him feel good; what makes his toes curl and eyes roll. Back rubs, cold beer and quiet time on the couch when the games on. It’s time for YOU to be that. Even if it’s not all the time (for now), turn into that woman and relieve some stress for the both of you.

2. Be Spontaneous:

For a cheater, sometimes it’s the thrill that really gets them excited. As of now, the same concept goes for you. Call him up and set up a rendezvous somewhere random. A cheap hotel or maybe even your car if you feel brave. Do it like you’re on borrowed time. Pack up and part ways – even if it’s just to meet back at home. The thrill actually releases adrenaline and other hormones like oxytocin. These naturally secreted hormones not only get you excited, but they help to lubricate the vagina for better sex.

3. Be Willing: 

If he sees something in a Kama Sutra book or a porn flick that he wants to try – give it a shot. The side chick rarely says no (in a fantasy world). You’ll either learn a new trick or break the dresser. Either way, you’ll have an experience to giggle about even after side chick time is over. Having good memories that only the two of you share increases the health of your relationship.

4. Set Boundaries: 

A good side chick knows not to over stay her welcome. Plan some nights out and/or weekends with your girls. Get cute and let him check you out before you strut through the door. Very few humans enjoy non stop contact with their partner – give him a chance to miss you a little. Cheating men usually escape from the monotony of their daily lives by calling the side chick (us Islanders call her “matey”) for some fresh air. Keep things renewed by giving him the space that all humans deserve. A night out never hurt anybody.

5. Exude Confidence: 

What do side chicks look like on  tv? Vixens, right? Your duty is to ooze confidence, especially if he’s never experienced that side of you (yes, we are all capable). Slip into something you feel sexy in. Put on the shirt he just took off and inhale his pheromones. Leave a memory that he’ll carry to work the next day. Shoot, maybe even a hickie on his chest or inner arm. I hope his lady doesn’t find it…

Let’s be clear – I am in no way glorifying infidelity. I am romanticizing romance and reminding you men and women to keep your lover, partner, spouse in mind just as much as yourself. Revive the things that attracted you in the first place, and let nothing stop you both from being happy with each other. Not time, not finances, not distance. There is a solution for nearly every intimacy problem.

Just in case you forget, I’ve created a FREE printable checklist while you prepare for your side chick adventure.

Enjoy and be safe! 

Oh! Don’t forget to download your FREE Printable Side Chick Checklist!

HOW TO BE A SIDE CHICK

“The Side Chick Quotient”; Why You + Her = <3

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She’s the woman we all worry about; the chick that swoops in and seduces your man in the club. The sexy girl at the supermarket reaching seductively for eggs. You wonder if he’d take her home, and worry that he will – but after this, you’ll hope that he does…

Nene Alter Egos

So, why would you want a side chick near your man? With divorce rates in America at almost 50%, 6,646 divorces per day and over 46,000 per week – that’s one marriage ending every 13 seconds! These odds seem stacked against matrimonial happiness, which is why the side chick may be beneficial to you. Today, she is you. I’ll teach you how.

Why would I want to be the side chick?  

Let’s think about it. 56% of people surveyed in a recent national study said infidelity was the reason for their divorce. 73% said lack of commitment aided in their choice to end the marriage. In said study, “about half of divorced individuals said they wished they or their ex-spouse had tried harder to work through their differences (USV, 2014). Bringing “another woman” in the mix could rekindle a few flames and get the engines roaring.

Now, before you attack me for my crazy idea, let me explain. In this situation – you will become the side chick. She’s everything your man seeks that he feels you aren’t providing.

“But, I do it all, Kim. I cook, clean and take care of home. What else am I supposed to do?”

You take care of home, but do you take care of him? Are you satisfying his needs outside of the kitchen (or maybe in the kitchen, lol) and when the kids go to bed? If your answer is no, let me pour you some tea. We need to talk.

Marriage is more than sharing in financial and household responsibilities. Same thing goes for domestic partnerships or long term couples. It’s all about staying attracted (and attractive) to your partner and keeping the spice in your marriage. Sometimes this involves stepping out of your routines and comfort zones to reach for something daring. Being a side chick takes guts – are you ready?

Next: How to Be a Side Chick in 5 Easy Steps…

  Note: I[tweetthis]f your partner is a philanderer – no amount of gymnastics or freak ish or choke stashes will keep him/ her from cheating.[/tweetthis] That person must have the will and desire to be faithful in order to have a successful relationship. The purpose of this editorial is to shed light on the importance of intimacy in a committed relationship. We often get caught up in the motion of life; work, school, kids, family, stress – and forget to show our partners love. Transforming into an alter ego and giving them the business guarantees that they’ll know for SURE that you haven’t forgotten about his/her needs. I promise.

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Do Pineapples Affect Your Taste “Down There?”

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It’s one of the most whispered about myths in the sex world; that eating pineapples (or fruit) will make your semen or ejaculate taste sweeter. Not many people will admit to trying to prove this myth true, but I’m sure that some of us wonder if our daily tastes in food affects our taste “down there.” Research has shown – it does.

Click Here to check out “The Pineapple Sex Test,”  an independent study on pineapples and semen taste

(in men and women)

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Quite similar to the affect asparagus has on urine scent, semen can be affected by changes in diet. Due to the acidity in certain foods, flavors vary from slightly sweet to very bitter. Since semen is naturally bitter, foods such as broccoli and drinks like coffee can enhance this taste. Dried fruit (which is higher in acidity) and fresh berries produce a more pleasant, sugary flavor. “Dark” flavored drinks like beer and coffee are said to create an opposite effect, causing bitter and less enjoyable taste. Meats are said to cause similar effects, as they are loaded with spices, salt and other savory flavorings. According to AskMen.com, “Most liqueurs will do the same, while dairy products can make for a foul taste because of their high bacterial putrefaction levels.”

Staying hydrated is also a key element in tasting better – water flushes out many of the toxins and impurities found in the foods we consume on a daily basis. Try sipping at least one bottle of water throughout the day; juices and other beverages contain sugars and other ingredients that may compromise your flavor.

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So, how do I change my “flavor”? 

Consistency and patience are two of the most important elements in this experiment. Rome was not built in a day, nor will it take 24 hours to remove what you consumed the day before. Choose your favorite fruit and stick with it for three to four days. Couple that with lots of water and you will notice a marked change by the end of the week.

Keep in mind that if fruit is not all you eat on a daily basis, the other foods will play a role in what your semen/ejaculate tastes like. Unless you are completely vegan and only consume fruit for the entire week – it’s probably not going to taste like candy.

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Minimize your intake of dairy.

The acidity, bacteria content and already tart flavor of dairy products gives semen a harsh, bitter taste.

Kimi’s Picks –  kiwi, watermelon, celery, and pineapple – for the lighter flavors they create 🙂

This is definitely a fun experiment to try, the worst that can happen is that you taste better.

Read More: Better Food = Better Sex 

Note: It’s important to remember, you can put things ON your genitals to flavor them – but it’s what you put IN your body that really makes the difference. Limit junk food and maximize water intake for optimal results .Keep it sweet, my friends!

 

Looking for flavor AND stamina? Check out my Peanut Punch recipe here!

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Sources:

FAQ On Semen – Ask Men

Mens Health

The Pineapple Sex Test by John Pope

Foreplay: How Important is It? (Podcast)

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I’m finally back in the Podcast world, and my first stop on the journey is about foreplay.  Why is it important?  Do we really need it?  Find out why you need foreplay, press play!

Many issues regarding intercourse stem from a lack of stimulation beforehand. The purpose of foreplay is not just to show affection,  it has a biological purpose as well.

Women often suffer from vaginal dryness during intercourse,  and become seLf-conscious because they blame themselves.  For most of these women, the solution is quite simple – touch her! Touch yourself! Once you know what makes you feel good, you can guide your partner to do the same. 

Even if it’s just a casual encounter, take a little time to get warmed up. You wait 15 minutes to let the car get warm before you drive it in the winter,  right? Same thing goes for the vagina.  Get the lube heated so the  pistons can rotate smoothly.  Last thing you want to do is end up smoking on the side of the road (bed).

I’d love to get your feedback!  Is foreplay important to you?  

How to Put on a Condom ((Video))

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From the Writer’s Desk: 

If you haven’t seen my face yet – this is the first of a few installments of videos I’ll be recording. I realized how many women truly don’t know how to put on a condom, which is startling considering how many women are having sex. This is just a quick tutorial on how to “install” a condom with ease. Just be glad you didn’t see the outtakes!

– Kimi 

 

 

Watermelon; Why Beyonce Was Was REALLY Drinking It…

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Watermelon; Why Beyonce Was Was REALLY Drinking It…

 

Is that watermelon in your glass, Jay?
Is that watermelon in your glass, Jay?

If you’re like me, you thought Beyonce’s “Drunk In Love” was the bedroom anthem of the summer. I found myself dancing to it in my car, while cleaning the house – especially on Date Night with my husband. Everyone was whispering about her infamous line and trying to decipher the meaning – well, guess no more. What line, you ask?

“I’ve been drinkin’ – watermelon…” 

Many speculated that she was symbolizing the after effects of fellatio and meant that she would be swallowing sperm. In retrospect, that sounds kind of sexy – but makes very little sense. Why would she be telling her husband that she’s been drinking semen? It’s his sperm! I understand the connotation of drinking seeds, but I have a more biological explanation.

Just – eat it.

Watermelon contains the amino acid citrulline (which is actually the Latin word for Watermelon), known to lower blood pressure (thanks to potassium) and treat mild erectile dysfunction. While Queen Bey does not have a penis, the effects can be beneficial for increased blood flow to the vagina and clitoris. Hence, the reason why she was “drankin'” watermelon before they got to “grindin’ off in that club”, and subsequently woke up in the kitchen. She was getting her sex drive ready for the night’s activities.

The stimulation from the watermelon drink and gyrating all night probably had her ready to go home quite early.

“Said I’m drankin’…”

 

How can I use Watermelon to boost my sex drive? 

Excellent question! You can simply eat it. OR, if you’re trying to loosen up before sexy time – add a splash of vodka to the mix. Alcohol can be an aphrodisiac when used in moderation, as it lowers inhibition and tends to relax individuals in the right settings. The best part about all-natural remedies is that you can consume them during your regular day and reap the benefits, no pills or shots necessary.

 

 

More Fruit for your Love Life

Got more questions? Email me at VForVadge@gmail.com or follow me on Instagram at Kimi_LeVadge!

Resources:

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Wellness/things-didnt-watermelon/story?id=24420280

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/12/30/article-2530924-1A5730B500000578-802_634x439.jpg

http://instagram.com/kimi_levadge

http://www.justjared.com/2010/04/19/christina-hendricks-watermelon/

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21195829

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