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Six Ways To Get Over Your Ex

Posted June 23, 2014 by Kimani in Love. Life. Erotica.

The hot weather is finally here – it’s time to get sexy! If that wasn’t enough reason Why You Should Get Over Your Ex, I proudly compiled a quick list for you. Once you’re equipped with the reasons why, you’ll need to know how – right? Take a second to get into Six Ways to Get Over Your Ex – it may just save your summer…

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6. Write an Open Letter

Got a blog? Write an open letter to your ex. Post it. You don’t have to share it on your social media sites or promote it at all, but the possibility that your ex will read the post is pretty high. Trust me. Don’t have a blog? Write the letter by hand. If you’re feeling brave, mail it to him/her. Not so much? Put it in a glass bottle and send it up a river or into the beach. Write it on a balloon. Put your thoughts in the air; let that person know how you feel. It makes for awesome closure, and may possibly be all that you needed to start moving on. I’ve done it before, and it was one of the best things I ever did for myself. Whether he understood or not was not my problem, I got an opportunity to vent directly to the source of my unhappiness. Try it – I guarantee it, or your money back.

Yeah, I know – it’s free.

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5. Hang With Other Single People

They say misery loves company, but I think positive vibes from other single people really lifts the spirits after a breakup. You get to realize that there’s life after your ex. Do you think that the first person a married man or woman met ended up as their spouse?

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6. Then, Hang Out With Couples

No, not the ones that have been together for a month. Look at your friends who have been in relationships for years. Happily. Don’t be afraid to spend time with them and find out what strategies  have been working to keep their love successful. Learning about compromise prepares us for the next relationship – there’s nothing wrong with taking notes.

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4. Do Stuff Alone

Sounds weird, but it’s actually quite relaxing. How will your next love know what you like, what you enjoy, what your favorite things are – if you don’t even know? Finding yourself is crucial to having a successful long term relationship. When you’re with someone, sometimes you grow into their habits and interests because it seems like the thing t o do. Part of the reason we feel so devastated when we break up with someone, is because we don’t know what to do without them. Pinpointing your personal interests eliminates this problem. Try going to the local library, a museum exhibit, dinner, shopping (responsibly). Prepping for your throne means you have to appreciate time alone.

Girls' Night In


3. Then, Do Stuff With Your Friends

Tell your friends how you’re feeling – chances are they’ll be ready to take you out and cheer you up. Even if it’s just a girls’ night in with popcorn and movies – laughter is definitely good for the soul. If you’ve got a few dollars for drinks and snacks – think about hostessing a Passion Party. What’s better than a night of fun with your friends, and a new BOB (Battery Operated Boyfriend) to keep you occupied during your single phase? Passion Parties are free, and you’ll learn things you never thought you needed to know about sex and romance.

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2. Take Lessons

Distraction is a great remedy for breakup blues, why not spend some time learning something new? Take local cooking classes, art lessons, maybe even Pole Dancing. When it’s time for you to find that new person, you’ll be even more interesting thanks to your newfound hobby.


1. Date! 

Dating doesn’t always equal commitment. Nor does it always equal sex. Consider speed dating, where you are able to meet multiple personalities of single individuals in one night – with no strings attached. Speed dating events are usually in a mellow setting, with light drinks and music. Take a friend with you, loosen up and have a good time! You never know who you may find.

I don’t have all the answers, but I know what worked for me after my breakups.  Now, as a married woman, I realize in retrospect what was and what should have been important factors in my dating life. Hopefully these six ways help you truly get over your ex.

I made the mistakes so you don’t have to.

If you have any other questions, feel free to hit me up:, Instagram: @Kimi_LeVadge, Twitter: @KimiLeVadge

What dating advice would you give a friend? 


About the Author


A NY transplant in Florida, Kimani has taken on the task of educating the world on sexual health and education. The Mount Vernon native has seen AIDS and HIV spread through her community like wildfire, and hopes to cease the transmission of these and other diseases one person at a time. If you know better, you're inclined to do better.

  • Thank you for #6 write an open letter you made some very good points and it helps to get things out there. I did something similar I wrote a note it wasn’t open it was directly to that person and for me after I poured my heart out I was told it made them feel very uncomfortable and it was wise enough for them to take many steps back from me. This was about 6 months ago. After that reply Its made easier to move on and closure. I do wanna ask you this why are the feelings still there after it was made clear that your love is not appreciated and accepted?

    • Kimani

      Hi Ranisha,

      I think a lot of our lingering concern is attributed to the thoughts of “what if.” As long as possibility exists (no matter how unlikely), our imaginations sometimes force us to wonder. Only time and patience can fix that.

      Thank you so much for reading!

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