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B.O.B. – Busting the Myth of Vibrators

Posted September 21, 2012 by Kimani in Love. Life. Erotica.

B.O.B. – the Battery Operated Boyfriend; how many of us have one – or two? Maybe even three if you’re like me. I have a

safe that is a literal graveyard for vibrators. Some women I know refuse to even try one, with various reasons why or why not.

It’s best to take reviews from someone you know and trust, so I think it’s due time for me to speak on the wonders of vibrators.


It all started on an eventful Saturday afternoon….

My two cousins and I were in the mall shopping, and we slipped into a novelty store to goof off. As everyone knows, the sex

toys and gadgets are in the back of the store, so I made my way back there to look around. I stumbled upon a flashlight, waterproof

vibrator and giggled. My cousins made their way back there and we each decided to buy one and take them home. I believe we cut

our mall trip short that day. Almost simultaneously, we called each other that night to rave about how crazy the vibrator was. I don’t

think the other two ever bought one again – I’ll never know for sure, but I became a big fan – an expert, if you will. So, let’s start with the myths:


Myth 1: You lose sensation “down there”:

Trust me – this is extremely false. Granted, going round for round will definitely cause hypersensitivity for a few hours, as the clitoris is usually the point of stimulation and it is very sensitive. Taking breaks in between sessions will remedy this, and usually one orgasm is enough.


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Myth 2: “My boyfriend will think I’m cheating on him”:

I can’t speak for your boyfriend, but this fact is dependent on quite a few factors. If you’re a dildo fan, the size may play a major role in the problem. Help your partner understand that using it is not a replacement, it is simply a temporary substitute or means of pleasure when he is not available. Vibrators have no hands or mouth and only serve one purpose – so until they create an affordable sex robot – your boyfriend is safe.

Involve him in the fun, there are massagers and vibrating rings that can bring two people into play.

Myth 3: “Vibrators are for freaks and nymphomaniacs“:

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Average people want to be pleasured, too! You don’t have to be sex crazed to enjoy the benefits of a vibrator. There are many options available to suit your intensity and comfort levels. Some give a light sensation, while others have variable strengths of vibration that can be turned up or down. If you’re feeling nervous, start with something light, like a fingertip vibrator.

Myth 4: “Vibrators are for lonely people who can’t get any sex”:

While they help on quiet winter nights, vibrators do not compare to human contact. The fact that a woman enjoys getting pleased with the assistance of a Battery Operated Boyfriend doesn’t mean she cannot go out and procure a real boyfriend. Honestly speaking, sometimes we just want to climax and go to sleep. There’s no foreplay necessary before (you can if you’d like), and no cuddling after. I prefer both of those things, so a human is always the preferred choice for me.

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Single ladies, take pride in your vibrators. If you feel the need to orgasm on a regular basis, you can do so without the assistance of another human being. It costs you nothing; no dinner, no nice shoes – just the initial purchase of the product, and you’re on the way to happiness. Vibrators allow us time to re-discover ourselves after a breakup, explore ourselves and learn our likes and dislikes – and have fun in the process.

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I’ve also found it to be a great sleep aid. Orgasms release endorphins that make us feel good – that’s scientific fact! “There is some evidence that orgasms can relieve all kinds of pain—including pain from arthritis, pain after surgery and even pain during childbirth,” notes Lisa Stern, RN, MSN, a nurse practitioner who works with Planned Parenthood in Los Angeles and blogs at Gynfizz.com. “The mechanism is largely due to the body’s release of a chemical called oxytocin during orgasm,” she says. “Oxytocin facilitates bonding, relaxation and other positive emotional states.” While the pain relief from orgasm is short-lived—usually only about eight to 10 minutes—she points to past research indicating that even thinking about sex can help alleviate pain (Womans Day, 2012).

So, don’t be scared to try it out – there are plenty of discrete Adult Novelty stores in most states that allow you to browse until you’ve found the right one for you. If you’re shy about it, keep it in a nondescript box at home, or buy a small locked box (I use Brinks Home Security Safe for mine) to stash your favorite toys in. No one has to know what you enjoy but you, and eventually your partner. He/she will thank you for it.


Kimi’s Pick: Waterproof Pocket Exotics ® – Egg by California Exotic Novelties

This was my first real purchase of a vibrator, and I’m a bullet type of girl; straight to the point, quick execution and I’m happy. It’s extremely quiet, waterproof and has four intensity settings. From my research, vibrators usually only last six months; this one lasted about a year and uses rechargeable batteries. Perfect if you want to be discrete or have roomates/family nearby. Travels well, too 🙂

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About the Author


A NY transplant in Florida, Kimani has taken on the task of educating the world on sexual health and education. The Mount Vernon native has seen AIDS and HIV spread through her community like wildfire, and hopes to cease the transmission of these and other diseases one person at a time. If you know better, you're inclined to do better.

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